What to do when stepmom hits child

[alonzobaby32]

You did NOT press charges. You may have filed a complaint but you did NOT press charges. IMPOSSIBLE.


Look up the words in loco parentis. Dad gave her permission to discipline the child. HE has that right. You have the right to give permission to individuals to discipline the child. Do you leave the child with a babysitter? If so, you give that babysitter the right to discipline right? Or do you state that the babysitter cannot discipline the child at all? Oh and discipline includes time outs, taking toys away or anything of that nature -- not ONLY physical discipline. What you have here is a disagreement of the DEGREE of legal discipline allowed to be exercised by third parties/legal strangers.

First of all I said when they return our child to me...she admitted to hiting our child (physical discipline) and no, no one is allowed to hit my child, No babysitter, aunt, uncle, cousin...no one, because I will not give permission...

and yes, I do have a police report and I can press charges
Just like dad has a say, so do I

 

[Ohiogal]

Its not like that. You will walk into court and say, "I want to modify my orders so that no third party can use corporal punishment on the child." and it will be so.

The judge will make that mod. He will not say, "No MOM. You HAVE to let stepmom smack kiddo."

Does that make sense?

Actually no. Because dad can allow her to. Corporal punishment is LEGAL.

 

[Ohiogal]

First of all I said when they return our child to me...she admitted to hiting our child (physical discipline) and no, no one is allowed to hit my child, No babysitter, aunt, uncle, cousin...no one, because I will not give permission...

and yes, I do have a police report and I can press charges
Just like dad has a say, so do I

LET ME SPEAK SLOWLY... YOU cannot press charges. YOU can file a complaint and then the PROSECUTOR will decide whether to pursue charges. And quite frankly dad can hit the child and dad can allow people to physically discipline. YOU are NOT the supreme being NOR the only voice when it comes to this child. So try to comprehend. I know it is difficult but just TRY.

 

[alonzobaby32]

Do you not listen? You were just told the answer!

So go back to court and get a court order stating no third parties can use corporal punishment on the child.

ANSWER ANSWER ANSWER! RIGHT THERE!!!

Look babe...you will not drive me crazy with your smart comment.....I got the answer and I can still post yet another question if I want..... You need to simmer your tail down somewhere...you all don't intimidate me with you rude and smart responses

 

[Ohiogal]

well, in that case, court it will be. can I use my police report as evidence?

NOpe. YOur police report is HEARSAY. And it won't PROVE anything -- except that you believe you are the all powerful force in your child's life and are superior to dad maybe.

 

[Ohiogal]

Look babe...you will not drive me crazy with your smart comment.....I got the answer and I can still post yet another question if I want..... You need to simmer your tail down somewhere...you all don't intimidate me with you rude and smart responses

Look baby, you can post. Doesn't mean you will get ANYWHERE on here if you choose to treat H like that when H did NOTHING to you. As for rude and smart -- at least we are smart. You haven't shown that intelligence yet so knock off the attitude.

 

[Humusluvr]

Actually no. Because dad can allow her to. Corporal punishment is LEGAL.

I thought you said - So go back to court and get a court order stating no third parties can use corporal punishment on the child.

Then stepmom is nixed.

Would the judge deny that mod if mom or dad wanted it? It seems no...

 

[proud_parent]

OP, you seem to be missing the point. What the advisors have summarized for you is this:

1. You have chosen not to allow third parties to use physical discipline with your child.

2. Dad has chosen otherwise.

3. You each have the right to choose as you will on your own parenting time until a court order specifies that neither of you may allow a third party to administer corporal punishment.

You have been given legally correct advice.

 

[Ohiogal]

I thought you said - So go back to court and get a court order stating no third parties can use corporal punishment on the child.

Then stepmom is nixed.

Would the judge deny that mod if mom or dad wanted it? It seems no...

I have seen it denied unless both parents agree. If she wants to prevent third party discipline from being allowed by dad, she needs to go to court to get an order prohibiting third party discipline but that does not necessarily mean the court will automatically rubberstamp it. That is the point.

 

[alonzobaby32]

LET ME SPEAK SLOWLY... YOU cannot press charges. YOU can file a complaint and then the PROSECUTOR will decide whether to pursue charges. And quite frankly dad can hit the child and dad can allow people to physically discipline. YOU are NOT the supreme being NOR the only voice when it comes to this child. So try to comprehend. I know it is difficult but just TRY.

Look here lady... I said DAD and MOM disciplne child..... and like I said how the hell does that make sense for a legal stranger to hit a child that's not theirs yet they have no leg to stand on in court because as you all say the legal stranger has nothing to do with the child that's not biologically their......Ohiogal, you dont scare nor intimidate me in the least

 

[TinkerBelleLuvr]

Dad gave SM PERMISSION to discipline the child. SM cannot abuse the child, but she can spank the child because she has PERMISSION from the child's father.

 

[Ohiogal]

Look here lady... I said DAD and MOM disciplne child.....

And I SAID google in loco parentis. TRY TO COMPREHEND.

and like I said how the hell does that make sense for a legal stranger to hit a child that's not theirs

IN LOCO PARENTIS. And one more time IN LOCO PARENTIS. Some schools still use corporal punishment. Got it? And they are legal strangers as well. ONE MORE TIME -- IN LOCO PARENTIS. Of course those words have more than one syllable.

yet they have no leg to stand on in court because as you all say the legal stranger has nothing to do with the child that's not biologically their

Are you always this slow and have this much trouble with basic comprehension? One more time -- with feeling -- YOU AND DAD both have the right to grant permission to third parties to discipline YOUR child. You each have that equal right.

......Ohiogal, you dont scare nor intimidate me in the least

Goodie goodie gumdrops. Would you like some cookies?

 

[alonzobaby32]

Dad gave SM PERMISSION to discipline the child. SM cannot abuse the child, but she can spank the child because she has PERMISSION from the child's father.

well, like the advise was giving...I WILL TAKE IT BACK TO COURT TO HAVE NO THIRD PARTIES USE CORPORAL PUNISHMENT NOR PHYSICAL DISCIPLINE...PERIOD, PEACE!

 

[Ohiogal]

Dad gave SM PERMISSION to discipline the child. SM cannot abuse the child, but she can spank the child because she has PERMISSION from the child's father.

I think we must use words with just one part so that she can get it. Do you know what I mean, G? She does not want to get it since she is mom and dad is not mom then dad can not tell child child is wrong if mom does not say child is wrong. And yes child is a one part word though it sounds like two so she might have a bit of a hard time to get it.

 

[majomom1]

Look here lady... I said DAD and MOM disciplne child..... and like I said how the hell does that make sense for a legal stranger to hit a child that's not theirs yet they have no leg to stand on in court because as you all say the legal stranger has nothing to do with the child that's not biologically their......Ohiogal, you dont scare nor intimidate me in the least

Well apparantly Dad allowed stepmom to discipline.... It is what it is. You have to go back to court to change it --- or get Dad to agree with you and not let stepmom do it again.