What to do when stepmom hits child

[2Mistakes]

Dad is at work when stepmom has our child

Which is probably why Smom had to be the one to discipline.

I often have my step-daughter when my wife isn't home, and vice versa. My wife often has my kids when I'm not home. I have full authority (from my wife and her ex-husband), and my wife has full authority (from me and my ex-wife) to discipline the kids however it may be necessary.

Do you think Smom is going to abuse the child? Or is this just about being in control of what goes on at dad's?

 

[majomom1]

yes bloopy it was an isolated incident , yet dad said he allowed it. Dad is at work when stepmom has our child

I am just curious.... What did the child supposedly do that warranted this 'discipline'?

 

[TinkerBelleLuvr]

Our new turtles are alive and well . . . and growing. So I'm quite joyful as well!

I have some guinea piglets that will need a new home. Think 3 huges cages. Lots of discharge. Need to be changed every 3 days. Litter is $22/bag. Bag is lasting 2.5 weeks. The X could swing by here on her way back from the Bahamas to get them for the wee ones.

 

[Bloopy]

yes bloopy it was an isolated incident , yet dad said he allowed it. Dad is at work when stepmom has our child

If you pursue this you will fail because what she did was legal.

Furthermore she will come up smelling of roses because she spanked ONCE with Dad’s permission and immediately told you. Then you became unreasonable by attempting to pursue charges.

Step 1: Politely clarify to Dad and Stepmom she is not allowed to spank. THAT will likely be the end of it.

Step 2: If it happens again file in court to specify third parties may not administer corporal punishment.

 

[alonzobaby32]

Which is probably why Smom had to be the one to discipline.

I often have my step-daughter when my wife isn't home, and vice versa. My wife often has my kids when I'm not home. I have full authority (from my wife and her ex-husband), and my wife has full authority (from me and my ex-wife) to discipline the kids however it may be necessary.

Do you think Smom is going to abuse the child? Or is this just about being in control of what goes on at dad's?

It's control on both parties because I was informed by me ex to not have my husband hit our son or else...so I feel the same rule applies to him

 

[Bloopy]

Do you think Smom is going to abuse the child? Or is this just about being in control of what goes on at dad's?

Ding ding

 

[2Mistakes]

I have some guinea piglets that will need a new home. Think 3 huges cages. Lots of discharge. Need to be changed every 3 days. Litter is $22/bag. Bag is lasting 2.5 weeks. The X could swing by here on her way back from the Bahamas to get them for the wee ones.

Laugh. Out. Loud. !!!

 

[proud_parent]

I'm gonna go join that thread on "well-equipped" parents.

You didn't see my tongue lashing? Its CLASSIC *with-a-sing-song-voice*

Gotcha. I'll admit, I skipped reading that one...although when I saw the thread title, I thought "What kind of equipment does one need to be a parent?" and "If I don't have it, can I try before I buy?"

Glad to know the standard 'package' will suffice.

 

[alonzobaby32]

If you pursue this you will fail because what she did was legal.

Furthermore she will come up smelling of roses because she spanked ONCE with Dad’s permission and immediately told you. Then you became unreasonable by attempting to pursue charges.

Step 1: Politely clarify to Dad and Stepmom she is not allowed to spank. THAT will likely be the end of it.

Step 2: If it happens again file in court to specify third parties may not administer corporal punishment.

she didnt immediately tell me once it happened....the incident happend a few days prior to her telling me about it

 

[TinkerBelleLuvr]

It's control on both parties because I was informed by me ex to not have my husband hit our son or else...so I feel the same rule applies to him

Sounds to me like you two need to hash it out at a neutral place (think restaurant) where you can come to some agreement on discipline. Howzabout you two act like adults so that you can be a UNITED front to YOUR child. If you don't nip it in the bud now, you can be on your way to creating a little monster cuz that child will play you two against each other.

 

[Bloopy]

It's control on both parties because I was informed by me ex to not have my husband hit our son or else...so I feel the same rule applies to him

Did he open with asking you not to allow hubby to HIT or did he run with filing a complaint.

Did that HITTING possibly cross the line of ABUSE. A line, that you admit, Stepmom did NOT cross?

Sounds like your getting back at him for limiting your hubby rather that worrying about the child's interests.

 

[proud_parent]

she didnt immediately tell me once it happened....the incident happend a few days prior to her telling me about it

As in, she told you at the end of Dad's parenting time? tsk, tsk...

 

[Bloopy]

she didnt immediately tell me once it happened....the incident happend a few days prior to her telling me about it

That's "immediately" enough. She told you when she returned the child, not six years later.

I could have chosen a better word. She told you in a timely fashion.

 

[alonzobaby32]

Sounds to me like you two need to hash it out at a neutral place (think restaurant) where you can come to some agreement on discipline. Howzabout you two act like adults so that you can be a UNITED front to YOUR child. If you don't nip it in the bud now, you can be on your way to creating a little monster cuz that child will play you two against each other.

I agree and that's why I'm going to court to see about placing that order for both parties to not have third parties use corporal punishment...then that will quash all the controlling behavior on both parties

 

[2Mistakes]

she didnt immediately tell me once it happened....the incident happend a few days prior to her telling me about it

Oh for the love of God. She told you when they dropped the child off.

Did she smack your child into the middle of next week? Is he going to walk with a permanent limp now?

My personal, non-legal opinion is that you are blowing this WAAAAYYYY out of porportion. Calling the cops over a spanking that Smom had dad's permission to give? Pure craziness.