What to do when stepmom hits child

[2Mistakes]

then that will quash all the controlling behavior on both parties

No it won't. Ya'll will just find something else to try to control each other with.

 

[proud_parent]

I agree and that's why I'm going to court to see about placing that order for both parties to not have third parties use corporal punishment...then that will quash all the controlling behavior on both parties

Not likely.

But at least it would give you both an order to enforce on this particular matter.

ETA: dangit, 2M beat me to it. (Beat...think I'm gonna call the cops...)

 

[alonzobaby32]

Did he open with asking you not to allow hubby to HIT or did he run with filing a complaint.

Did that HITTING possibly cross the line of ABUSE. A line, that you admit, Stepmom did NOT cross?

Sounds like your getting back at him for limiting your hubby rather that worrying about the child's interests.

well if hubby is limited then daddy needs to be limited.....and hubby told me to my face that he dont want my hubby to ever touch his child...now isnt that MY TIME with our child? it seems you all are for dad and stepmom but I'm the one being unreasonable

 

[Ohiogal]

Oh for the love of God. She told you when they dropped the child off.

Did she smack your child into the middle of next week? Is he going to walk with a permanent limp now?

My personal, non-legal opinion is that you are blowing this WAAAAYYYY out of porportion. Calling the cops over a spanking that Smom had dad's permission to give? Pure craziness.

Re the bolded -- if stepmom had, then MOM would have known it PRIOR to the end of dad's visitation time so then she would be here griping about that instead of griping that she found out at the end of the time. Dang, I used words with more than one syllable. Guys, we need to slow this down for her.

 

[TinkerBelleLuvr]

I agree and that's why I'm going to court to see about placing that order for both parties to not have third parties use corporal punishment...then that will quash all the controlling behavior on both parties

So you are going to run to court every time someone does something that you don't agree with?

You need to find a way to COMMUNICATE with the father of your child - and I mean, NOT in a court room.

 

[Ohiogal]

well if hubby is limited then daddy needs to be limited.....and hubby told me to my face that he dont want my hubby to ever touch his child...now isnt that MY TIME with our child? it seems you all are for dad and stepmom but I'm the one being unreasonable

YOU are the one that is here. And yes you are being UNREASONABLE -- more than one syllable but since you used it properly in a sentence I figured you might comprehend. If I am wrong, oh well.

 

[alonzobaby32]

No it won't. Ya'll will just find something else to try to control each other with.

2mistakes, whatever!

 

[alonzobaby32]

Not likely.

But at least it would give you both an order to enforce on this particular matter.

ETA: dangit, 2M beat me to it. (Beat...think I'm gonna call the cops...)

hahaha..now that hilarious! gotta love it

 

[2Mistakes]

2mistakes, whatever!

Very mature. Reminiscent of my 14 year old.

 

[Ohiogal]

2mistakes, whatever!

Oh my 2M she told you! You need to cower now. Be afraid. Be very afraid.

 

[Bloopy]

well if hubby is limited then daddy needs to be limited.....and hubby told me to my face that he dont want my hubby to ever touch his child...now isnt that MY TIME with our child? it seems you all are for dad and stepmom but I'm the one being unreasonable

You used the word HIT to describe what your husband did.
Dad used the word TOUCHING.

It sounds like stepdad may have crossed a line. In general, it's viewed more -icky- for a MAN to put his hands on someone else's child.

You are retaliating and it's silly.

Have a talk with Dad BEFORE you pursue things in court. Attempting to press charges is ludicrous.

You still haven't stated what the allegations against stepdad were.

 

[2Mistakes]

Oh my 2M she told you! You need to cower now. Be afraid. Be very afraid.

My 3 kids and my step-daughter don't scare me. My wife doesn't scare me (but don't tell her that!)

Hell, my ex-wife doesn't even scare me. Anymore.

 

[alonzobaby32]

YOU are the one that is here. And yes you are being UNREASONABLE -- more than one syllable but since you used it properly in a sentence I figured you might comprehend. If I am wrong, oh well.

how the hell am I being unreasonable...DAD TOLD ME I CAN HAVE HUBBY HIT OUR CHILD ON MY TIME EVER! NOW WHEN HIS WIFE DOES IT, IT'S OKAY AND I'M YET UNREASONABLE....DAD CAN MAKE HIS REQUEST BUT WHEN I MAKE MINE, IT'S DO OR DIE...YOU PEOPLE ARE REDICULOUS

 

[Bloopy]

how the hell am I being unreasonable...DAD TOLD ME I CAN HAVE HUBBY HIT OUR CHILD ON MY TIME EVER! NOW WHEN HIS WIFE DOES IT, IT'S OKAY AND I'M YET UNREASONABLE....DAD CAN MAKE HIS REQUEST BUT WHEN I MAKE MINE, IT'S DO OR DIE...YOU PEOPLE ARE REDICULOUS

Dad REQUESTED = reasonable

You "PRESS CHARGES" = unreasonable

 

[alonzobaby32]

You used the word HIT to describe what your husband did.
Dad used the word TOUCHING.

It sounds like stepdad may have crossed a line. In general, it's viewed more -icky- for a MAN to put his hands on someone else's child.

You are retaliating and it's silly.

Have a talk with Dad BEFORE you pursue things in court. Attempting to press charges is ludicrous.

You still haven't stated what the allegations against stepdad were.

WELL TO CLARIFY DAD DOSENT WANT MY HUBBY TO HIT HIS CHILD ON MY TIME EVER!!! DO YOU GET IT NOW? IF HE CAN MAKE THAT REQUEST, WHY CANT I