stepmom issues again#2

[lmgutierrez07]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? texas
i have read before on this site about filing a third party interference against a step parent. i talked to my lawyer and he says that there is nothing legally to do about a stepmom who is way overstepping her boundaires. yesterday she met my son after school to drop off football stuff, and told him that i had threatend to call the cops on her and his dad if they didnt take the stuff to him. it upset really upset my son. i did no such thing and i explained that to him, but he still had to hear it. I have already asked their father to ask her to not discuss things with the kids because that is his and my place, but he says she is their mom too. I have kept my cool because i dont want to upset the kids, but i am loosong my patience. any advise on what i can do? we are in the middle of a modification of visitation because the boys and i are moving, so maybe there is something i can ay in court? please help me out. I have just had enough of her lies to my kids and her acting as mom. thanks

 

[Isis1]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? texas
i have read before on this site about filing a third party interference against a step parent. i talked to my lawyer and he says that there is nothing legally to do about a stepmom who is way overstepping her boundaires. yesterday she met my son after school to drop off football stuff, and told him that i had threatend to call the cops on her and his dad if they didnt take the stuff to him. it upset really upset my son. i did no such thing and i explained that to him, but he still had to hear it. I have already asked their father to ask her to not discuss things with the kids because that is his and my place, but he says she is their mom too. I have kept my cool because i dont want to upset the kids, but i am loosong my patience. any advise on what i can do? we are in the middle of a modification of visitation because the boys and i are moving, so maybe there is something i can ay in court? please help me out. I have just had enough of her lies to my kids and her acting as mom. thanks

in regards to stepmom saying what she did, there isn't much you can do about that. you have to prove it. such as stepmom admiting to it in open court. having son as hearsay doesn't count. when parents or overstepping stepparents do this, i'm not sure sure it classifies as being overstepping, but more of being a real stupid pain in the arse. son might benefit from some form of therapy to help deal with the problem. my two older kids father says those stupid things all the time. my response, "i think your dad may have misunderstood about what we agreed upon". i'm even learning to drop any reference to any court orders.

 

[Zephyr]

I wonder if your lawyer could get dad to say that stepmom is mom too on the stand.....

 

[lmgutierrez07]

i think he would. he has written it to me in several emails. they both truly believe that she is mom too.

 

[Zephyr]

i think he would. he has written it to me in several emails. they both truly believe that she is mom too.

save those emails

 

[WillingToFight]

save those emails

Not only should you save those emails - print them out and keep them in a binder or folder. Also - if you receive text messages on your phone - take a photograph of them and save those too.

 

[Isis1]

Not only should you save those emails - print them out and keep them in a binder or folder. Also - if you receive text messages on your phone - take a photograph of them and save those too.

for some odd reason, i have it in the back of my head that the cell phone company can print out those records. possibly have it certified. the whole text message, what number it was sent to and what number it was sent from. those might be more valuable in court.

 

[Ohiogal]

for some odd reason, i have it in the back of my head that the cell phone company can print out those records. possibly have it certified. the whole text message, what number it was sent to and what number it was sent from. those might be more valuable in court.

Ummm.... no.....not likely....

 

[Isis1]

Ummm.... no.....not likely....

then i better do some cleaning in the back of my head then, never mind OP.

 

[lmgutierrez07]

i have the texts msgd....but i write them down word for word with dares and times. never thought to take a picture! thanks!

 

[Humusluvr]

i have the texts msgd....but i write them down word for word with dares and times. never thought to take a picture! thanks!

That wouldn't really prove anything either.

I could change the name in my address book of my phone and get a message sent to my phone that "looks" like it's from my ex, but is from another number with the same name. The only way to "prove" the text came from ex is to save the text, and get phone records, and take the phone into court.

 

[TheGeekess]

Not only should you save those emails - print them out and keep them in a binder or folder. Also - if you receive text messages on your phone - take a photograph of them and save those too.

If you're going to print out emails, make sure to get the full headers on that printout. It will help prove where the email came from.
How to Display Email Headers

 

[The_Non-Mom]

Ummm.... no.....not likely....

Actually, a friend of mine was able to get print outs of text messages from his cell carrier, US Cellular. It was a huge pain in the butt, but we had tried about a hundred different ways of saving the messages in a way that proved where they came from. Only the print outs had all the necessary info. The print outs ended up helping him a ton in court, because they were mainly about how his ex interfered with visitation.

 

[kgh1977]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? texas
i have read before on this site about filing a third party interference against a step parent. i talked to my lawyer and he says that there is nothing legally to do about a stepmom who is way overstepping her boundaires. yesterday she met my son after school to drop off football stuff, and told him that i had threatend to call the cops on her and his dad if they didnt take the stuff to him. it upset really upset my son. i did no such thing and i explained that to him, but he still had to hear it. I have already asked their father to ask her to not discuss things with the kids because that is his and my place, but he says she is their mom too. I have kept my cool because i dont want to upset the kids, but i am loosong my patience. any advise on what i can do? we are in the middle of a modification of visitation because the boys and i are moving, so maybe there is something i can ay in court? please help me out. I have just had enough of her lies to my kids and her acting as mom. thanks

I just want to say that I have been going through the same stuff with my ex's wife. I filed for No Third Party Interference and my ex did a motion for reconsideration. The Commissioner found that they have been interferring in my relationship with my daughter and have put a new order (temporary) that says that Parties spouses will have absolutely no decision making whatsoever regarding the children unless it is a life or health issue. It also states now that SM is to stay our of everything between my ex and I.

My ex has asked for a "truce" between us and I have put my foot down regarding his wife. So far so good. Good luck with your issue and I totally sympathize with you. Keep your head up and document, document, document everything. Get all the kids records from school and see if she listed herself as MOM or signed anything that the PARENT is suppose to sign, etc

 

[lmgutierrez07]

why would my lawyer say nothing can be done? did yu have to file something in court? thanks for the adivse