Question about medical bills

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What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Kentucky

I am married, have been for 2 1/2 years. I just found out that I am about 6 weeks pregnant. My husband is not happy, does not want me to proceed with the pregnancy. I am a high risk case, probably won't be able to carry to term, but my intentions are to try. I already know that I will have to have surgery @ 12 weeks & will probably be put out of work & on bedrest. He is already saying, "Are you sure that there is no chance that it belongs to someone else" That is not in question, I would have no reservations to submit to a DNA test once the baby arrives.

Since I would not agree to give up on this pregnancy, he is not "speaking" to me. I have called him & updated him on 2 ER visits (already started having complications) He is not concerned about me or this baby. Even though I have good insurance, both through my employer & his, I will have medical bills that I will be responsible for. Is it possible to have him be partially responsible for these? With the very real possibility that I will be out of work, this does concern me. Any advice would be appreciated.

 

[Ohiogal]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Kentucky

I am married, have been for 2 1/2 years. I just found out that I am about 6 weeks pregnant. My husband is not happy, does not want me to proceed with the pregnancy. I am a high risk case, probably won't be able to carry to term, but my intentions are to try. I already know that I will have to have surgery @ 12 weeks & will probably be put out of work & on bedrest. He is already saying, "Are you sure that there is no chance that it belongs to someone else" That is not in question, I would have no reservations to submit to a DNA test once the baby arrives.

Since I would not agree to give up on this pregnancy, he is not "speaking" to me. I have called him & updated him on 2 ER visits (already started having complications) He is not concerned about me or this baby. Even though I have good insurance, both through my employer & his, I will have medical bills that I will be responsible for. Is it possible to have him be partially responsible for these? With the very real possibility that I will be out of work, this does concern me. Any advice would be appreciated.

Are you considering divorce or legal separation? Because if you are not then YOU are responsible. If you are going to file divorce/legal separation then it is possible your HUSBAND will be court ordered to pay some of the bills.

Do you think that MAYBE your husband is just worried about YOU?

 

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Are you considering divorce or legal separation? Because if you are not then YOU are responsible. If you are going to file divorce/legal separation then it is possible your HUSBAND will be court ordered to pay some of the bills.

Do you think that MAYBE your husband is just worried about YOU?

I am not considering divorce at this time, I want to wait to see the outcome of this pregnancy. I don't see where going through stress of the divorce would help right now, it's just not my top priority. What gets me is a month ago he wanted me to go get checked out to see why I wasn't pregnant. I have not been on b/c since 3 months before we got married.

Well, I would really like to say that he is concerned about me but I would be lying to myself if I did. He called me while I was in the ER for the first time & told me that he "couldn't handle this" and made the comment "I don't guess I have any say, do I". I have contacted him after every test to keep hiim updated, he again made the comment that he guessed he didn't have any choice about this. He hasn't even asked me how I am feeling. Yesterday, while I was in the ER, I called to let him know what was going on, he said, well I appreciate it. Then I found out that he was out partying & dancing last night. He still has not called me to see if I am still bleeding.

Thank you for your response regarding the medical, I guess I'll handle that on my own too.

 

[Humusluvr]

I am not considering divorce at this time, I want to wait to see the outcome of this pregnancy. I don't see where going through stress of the divorce would help right now, it's just not my top priority. What gets me is a month ago he wanted me to go get checked out to see why I wasn't pregnant. I have not been on b/c since 3 months before we got married.

Well, I would really like to say that he is concerned about me but I would be lying to myself if I did. He called me while I was in the ER for the first time & told me that he "couldn't handle this" and made the comment "I don't guess I have any say, do I". I have contacted him after every test to keep hiim updated, he again made the comment that he guessed he didn't have any choice about this. He hasn't even asked me how I am feeling. Yesterday, while I was in the ER, I called to let him know what was going on, he said, well I appreciate it. Then I found out that he was out partying & dancing last night. He still has not called me to see if I am still bleeding.

Thank you for your response regarding the medical, I guess I'll handle that on my own too.

Best of luck to you in your pregnancy.

I've been in your situation. Try not to worry about him, and focus on you. I hope you make it to term, and the baby is healthy.

My suggestion - the way he acts under pressure is a window to the type of man he is. Take that for what's its worth.

 

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Best of luck to you in your pregnancy.

I've been in your situation. Try not to worry about him, and focus on you. I hope you make it to term, and the baby is healthy.

My suggestion - the way he acts under pressure is a window to the type of man he is. Take that for what's its worth.

Thank you for the well wishes, I can use all I can get right now. I completely agree with what you are saying, he is definately not the person that I thought I knew. Really hoping that he just got scared, but hey I will handle this either way. It's sad that things turned out this way. But I appreciate all that you guys and gals do here, I have been following your advice (lurking mostly) for a couple of years now.

Thanks again.

 

[Humusluvr]

Thank you for the well wishes, I can use all I can get right now. I completely agree with what you are saying, he is definately not the person that I thought I knew. Really hoping that he just got scared, but hey I will handle this either way. It's sad that things turned out this way. But I appreciate all that you guys and gals do here, I have been following your advice (lurking mostly) for a couple of years now.

Thanks again.

I joined when I was about three months pregnant. I made sure I knew what my rights were, so I didn't screw anything up. Knowledge is power.

Keep lurking. On one hand it makes you sad that some people have such hard lives, on the other hand - it makes you happy you don't have some other people's problems.

 

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I joined when I was about three months pregnant. I made sure I knew what my rights were, so I didn't screw anything up. Knowledge is power.

Keep lurking. On one hand it makes you sad that some people have such hard lives, on the other hand - it makes you happy you don't have some other people's problems.[/QUOTE]

Agreed. And then there are those times that it's just comic relief

 

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Agreed. And then there are those times that it's just comic relief

That's what keeps us coming back!!! Besides the morbid curiosity