what if he doesnt have a job?

[jjewel05]

california

what if my ex boyfriend doesnt have a job, will he still have to pay child support? and will it even be a helpful amount?

 

[CourtClerk]

If he gets sued for child support, he will be ordered to pay child support. He can get a job. "Helpful amount?" Helpful to whom? If you wanted someone who could pay a hefty amount in support, the time to think about that was before you made the baby. Other than that, help yourself.

 

[jjewel05]

i'm sorry i guess i wasnt detailed in the ques. i am on aid because of it, and i meant a helpful amount for my son but i suppose any amount would be helpful!

 

[justalayman]

Not sure of California but in most states I am familiar with, since you are on aid, whatever the father pays in child support will be taken by the state to reimburse them for the aid you are recieving.

In most states, seeking child support is not an option when the mother is on aid. The state generally sues on their own.

 

[jjewel05]

thank you, i appreciate the replies.

 

[CourtClerk]

i am on aid because of it,

Correction: You are on aid because you had a child you couldn't afford. If you are on welfare, then the max you would ever get is $50/mo, the rest would be paid back to me and the rest of the citizens of CA for helping you raise your child, and we didn't even have any of the fun in making him.

The county in which you live will open up a child support case for you. Worry not, they would like their money back. It's not yours to get.

 

[jjewel05]

okay courtclerk, I think i've heard enough of your opinion, have a good nite.

 

[MichelleGilliam]

You go girl.

 

[jjewel05]

i just guess people forget on this forum your seeking advice not critisizm....

 

[CourtClerk]

i just guess people forget on this forum your seeking advice not critisizm....

You got advice, accurate LEGAL advice, might I add. The fact that you don't want to hear the truth, and neither does your support group buddy is your problem. Not anyone elses.

 

[CourtClerk]

You go girl.

That's right. You go... get a job, take the OP with you.

 

[jjewel05]

I do believe i said goodnite, and thats solid advice from me.

 

[MichelleGilliam]

Thank you very much for you opinions. Yet I believe you should walk a mile in someone elses shoes before you go and judge. There is only one judge in life and I think he over rules you. And for your information I do have a full time job in taking care of my son. How would you like to face everyday with a six year old child who cannot talk, walk, feed himself or do any of the other things that a normal six year old could do. I did not ask for him to be given to me like this and from the way I understand your judgement on others you have never experienced life the way I have. So stop and just give legal advise not life advise. Thank you.

 

[CourtClerk]

Thank you very much for you opinions. Yet I believe you should walk a mile in someone elses shoes before you go and judge.

Don't ever assume you are the only one in the position you are in.

There is only one judge in life and I think he over rules you. And for your information I do have a full time job in taking care of my son.

Go get a job that pays... because you have other children that require FINANCIAL support.

How would you like to face everyday with a six year old child who cannot talk, walk, feed himself or do any of the other things that a normal six year old could do. I did not ask for him to be given to me like this and from the way I understand your judgement on others you have never experienced life the way I have. So stop and just give legal advise not life advise. Thank you.

Actually, I know someone very close to me in the exact same position, with a child twice as old as yours...

And she works... everyday (and by the way is a single parent and raises her children alone). Maybe you should learn from her.

 

[CourtClerk]

I do believe i said goodnite, and thats solid advice from me.

You're in no position to give advice. You can't even take care of yourself.