Can bf adopt my little girl in WA state?

[Proserpina]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? WA

We both want my bf to adopt my daughter, who is 2 year old. The father has not had any contact with her or hasn't paid any child support. We weren't married either and we never went to court or nothing. I read that we might have to be married before my bf can adopt her, but is there a way to adopt her without being married? Is it a law or something? I really don't see why a piece of paper proves our comittment any more to be honest.

Also will they do a background or home-type check on my bf?

Thanks for any help!

 

[Just Blue]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? WA

I really don't see why a piece of paper proves our comittment any more to be honest.


Thanks for any help!

Really? Well... then you are an idiot. Thank GOD that a Judge isn't as dumb as you.

 

[CourtClerk]

Courts don't let friends adopt just because....

Yes, they will do a backgroud check, yes, they will do a home study, and as for this...

I really don't see why a piece of paper proves our comittment any more to be honest.

There aren't enough rollie eyes for that one. I'm sure you don't see the need for a comittment, you didn't have one the first time and all you got out of it was a baby with no father. What's so wrong with that, huh?

 

[Proserpina]

Ok yes I did deserve that.

I cant defend anything in my past but I want to try and make a brighter future for my little girl.

So it is law that we would need to be married?

And I know I will be critisized for this but my bf does have to drive at the moment with an IntraLock devise on his car. If we are married will this still be an issue?

He made a mistake, and so did I in the past, and we want to try and make things better.

Thank you for your honesty though

 

[CourtClerk]

Ok yes I did deserve that.

I cant defend anything in my past but I want to try and make a brighter future for my little girl.

So it is law that we would need to be married?

And I know I will be critisized for this but my bf does have to drive at the moment with an IntraLock devise on his car. If we are married will this still be an issue?

He made a mistake, and so did I in the past, and we want to try and make things better.

Thank you for your honesty though

Yes, the fact that your boyfriend is a criminal will make a difference. Please do society a favor and don't have anymore children. Do the existing one a favor and find a good adoptive home with RESPONSIBLE parents.

 

[Just Blue]

And I know I will be critisized for this but my bf does have to drive at the moment with an IntraLock devise on his car. If we are married will this still be an issue?

You think that consciously saddling your child with a father that can't be responsible enough to not drink and drive is a good thing? How responsible do you think he would be to you child?


Please don';t have more children...really.

 

[Just Blue]

Yes, the fact that your boyfriend is a criminal will make a difference. Please do society a favor and don't have anymore children. Do the existing one a favor and find a good adoptive home with RESPONSIBLE parents.

CC...GET OUT OF MY HEAD>>>>>>>>>>>

 

[ProSeDadinMD]

...Please do society a favor and don't have anymore children..

...Please don';t have more children...really.

Aww, I dunno. The world needs strippers....er, I mean "exotic dancers", too

 

[Just Blue]

Aww, I dunno. The world needs strippers....er, I mean "exotic dancers", too

The idea of this is just...sad.

 

[ProSeDadinMD]

The idea of this is just...sad.

Agreed....

 

[Proserpina]

Sigh. Ok, character judgements aside , is there an answer to my questions? He made a mistake. He is paying for it.

If you cant or wont tell me, that's fine - but please at least tell me if thats going to be the case.

I am trying to make things better. We have made mistakes in the past and want to try and make things better for my little girl.

Because her father has not wanted contact and has not paid child support if my bf and I get married and bf has learned his lesson and is not in any trouble or anything from here to eternity, would we need father's permission or would we be able to do abandoment?

And if you need more strippers I am sure you have the ability to find them yourslef ProSe

 

[Just Blue]

Sigh. Ok, character judgements aside , is there an answer to my questions? He made a mistake. He is paying for it.

If you cant or wont tell me, that's fine - but please at least tell me if thats going to be the case.

I am trying to make things better. We have made mistakes in the past and want to try and make things better for my little girl.

Because her father has not wanted contact and has not paid child support if my bf and I get married and bf has learned his lesson and is not in any trouble or anything from here to eternity, would we need father's permission or would we be able to do abandoment?

And if you need more strippers I am sure you have the ability to find them yourslef ProSe

I like you...From here on out you are prohibited from making dumb life choices that will negatively affect your child...okay??

Get married. Stay married. After two years hire a Adoption Attorney to assist you in an adoption.

A judge MAY not grant an adoption due to criminal histody...but get a attorney to advise when the time comes.

Good luck.

 

[ProSeDadinMD]

Dogmatic, once you and your bf are married for at least a year, consult a family law attorney in your area. Not a Pro Se kinda thing to handle.

And if you need more strippers I am sure you have the ability to find them yourslef ProSe

I do, but why? Folks like you are spittin' 'em out like watermelon seeds...

 

[Just Blue]

Dogmatic, once you and your bf are married for at least a year, consult a family law attorney in your area. Not a Pro Se kinda thing to handle.

I do, but why? Folks like you are spittin' 'em out like watermelon seeds...

Dude...You are gettin' a bit...well...mean! Stop or you will have to become "Blue Meanie 2"...

 

[Ohiogal]

Dogmatic, once you and your bf are married for at least a year, consult a family law attorney in your area. Not a Pro Se kinda thing to handle.

I do, but why? Folks like you are spittin' 'em out like watermelon seeds...

Criticizing a baby? Good grief ProSe, I thought that was below you. Criticize the momma and criticize baby daddy but do NOT insult the baby -- until they are old enough to be on here whining about how they have a 3.2 GPA and only did heroin a few times and then participated in a burglary with their boyfriend because they liked bad boys. Got it?