wondering why my thread got closed

[xxnatalixx]

She can bite you. Your son most definitely is worth it.
What's not worth it is a big ninny sissy of a man exploding all over his wife and kids.

I wish she would get that this is in no way what I WANT. It's what is necessary to keep my son safe. What I want is for them to grow up and for my son to have the kind of father who will raise him to be a good man. If they don't think he's worth it, then they don't deserve him anyway, and that just shows this whole 7 year battle was never about him. All it's ever been about with them is winning and hurting me.

 

[TinkerBelleLuvr]

When is the hearing?

 

[xxnatalixx]

When is the hearing?

They didn't have a date yet when they called. She said I can come down and pick up the order to suspend visitation and if there wasn't a date yet, she'd call me and let me know when it is.

 

[Ohiogal]

I don't have an attorney anymore. He was court appointed for the contempt case. He actaully asked for a recess in the middle of court that day and told me that if I would just go ahead and say that I denied dad's Thanksgiving, which I did not, that we would not have to sit in there all day and that the worst that could happen to me was a suspended jail sentence. Did I ever mention that he rents a room from dad's attorney. Her office is a house and he has a room upstairs, her office is in the downstairs. It made me a bit uneasy to walk through dad's attorney's office to get to my attorney's office. Anyway, I don't know if she is dad's attorney now. No one said it straight out, but I get the feeling from what I've heard, that she may no longer be his attorney. I think he was not so nice to her that day either.

You are a case I would take pro bono provided everything you have presented here is true. You need to subpoena his attorney. You also need to contact legal aid and see if they can recommend someone that will take your case pro bono in order to protect your son. There may be someone. I know I have gotten pro bono cases through legal aid.

 

[TinkerBelleLuvr]

You have your homework cut out for you now. You need to show that dad is basically out-of-control. Two things in your favor is his two instances in the courthouse.

Now will be the time to get witnesses willing to testify about dad. Might want to angle it that you aren't trying to blast dad, but rather looking for him to get help so that he can better parent his son and the children who are in that house with him.

Stepmom will be a hard one to crack. Obviously, she returned the child to you that day. Will she say the same thing on the stand that she said to you that day? Probably not. She's probably afraid of the ramifications after court.

You'll need to subpeona the counselor.

 

[xxnatalixx]

You are a case I would take pro bono provided everything you have presented here is true. You need to subpoena his attorney. You also need to contact legal aid and see if they can recommend someone that will take your case pro bono in order to protect your son. There may be someone. I know I have gotten pro bono cases through legal aid.

Thank you, I will call them today. They actually did represent me in the past for one of these cases. They notarized all my papers for me yesterday and made copies for me and also gave me the application for a guardian ad litem. They might be willing to represent me again even. When I was leaving the notary said something along the lines of, good luck I hope this is over soon, you've been going through this long enough. They are quite sympathetic. I'm wondering though, what happens if dad doesn't even show up, or if he just calls and tells them he doesn't want visitation anymore?

 

[xxnatalixx]

You have your homework cut out for you now. You need to show that dad is basically out-of-control. Two things in your favor is his two instances in the courthouse.

Now will be the time to get witnesses willing to testify about dad. Might want to angle it that you aren't trying to blast dad, but rather looking for him to get help so that he can better parent his son and the children who are in that house with him.

Stepmom will be a hard one to crack. Obviously, she returned the child to you that day. Will she say the same thing on the stand that she said to you that day? Probably not. She's probably afraid of the ramifications after court.

You'll need to subpeona the counselor.

She sent me a message on yahoo that says that she returned him because he was upset about them fighting and that the reason dad was so mad is because we have to go through the visitation center and it cuts down on his wed. visit. She even said in there that she took all 3 kids out of the house. They let me use the conversations I had with her on myspace last time in court, but she didn't dispute them. Dad usually goes in there and says things that make himself look really bad because he is just that ignorant and doesn't see a problem with his behaviors. I wish you could have seen the magistrates face at some of the things dad and sm said last time. It was a look of bewilderedness. I am definitely going to subpoena the counselor.

 

[my life is mine]

No words of wisdom, just wanted to say I am reading and wishing you and you son the best.

 

[TinkerBelleLuvr]

You'll need to establish that the email account is whoevers. Find out if they "share" email accounts, or if they've ever had others use their account. Set the level of credibility that the email that you received is theirs.

 

[xxnatalixx]

No words of wisdom, just wanted to say I am reading and wishing you and you son the best.

Thank you, it means a lot to me.

 

[sipa]

You have your homework cut out for you now. You need to show that dad is basically out-of-control. Two things in your favor is his two instances in the courthouse.

Now will be the time to get witnesses willing to testify about dad. Might want to angle it that you aren't trying to blast dad, but rather looking for him to get help so that he can better parent his son and the children who are in that house with him.

Stepmom will be a hard one to crack. Obviously, she returned the child to you that day. Will she say the same thing on the stand that she said to you that day? Probably not. She's probably afraid of the ramifications after court.
You'll need to subpeona the counselor.

Or the remifications at home!

 

[xxnatalixx]

I was thinking, I don't think the magistrate is going to believe her about it anyway if she does deny it, because when it came up in court last time that there was a similar incident at the house when Anthony was there in Nov., she told a story about how they were rearanging furniture and a coffee table "fell" over. It was obvious the magistrate did not believe her story. That was one of the times when he got the bewildered look. She's not a very good liar. The great thing is that dad and sm tell different stories about things so it's obvious that either one or both of them is lying.

 

[wileybunch]

What really happened with the coffee table? Did someone get hurt?

 

[xxnatalixx]

What really happened with the coffee table? Did someone get hurt?

Dad flipped it over in a fit of rage. He also threw SM's dishes at the wall. He was mad that day because he apparently didn't want sm to pick son up for visitation that weekend, and she went behind his back and did it anyway. According to son, dad was yelling, "you weren't suppose to even pick him up! If you don't take him home now, I'm going to start breaking your stuff." Sm replied, "It's our weekend to have him and I'm not taking him home until Sun." Soooo, dad started flipping furniture and breaking dishes. That was the first time the counselor contacted children services. They investigated, but there was no proof.

 

[TinkerBelleLuvr]

Who else has he had temper tantrums in front of? What is his behaviour at work?