Stepmom gets my parental rights?

[cherylsarah01]

Hey you know what though,, I think trying to get an order to have them take a co-parenting class with you is great idea? Where any of yall ordered to for the divorce?

No, at the time the judge did not order a class. I have suggested a few times but they refuse.

 

[cherylsarah01]

I don't know if this is a valid concern from a legal standpoint, but I would be reluctant to coparent with stepmom anyway or come to any decsion with her. What if dad later comes along and says he had no knowledge of a situation and does not agree with the decision made and takes the position that YOU did not allow him the legal input afforded him in the court order.

From a legal perspective, could mom be held in contempt for making decisions with stepmom instead of with dad?

I have actually wondered if he even knows all the things she says and does. Some of her outrages and emotional emails have come at 2-3 in the morning. I known him 23 years and know he is most likely sleeping.

 

[thinktank03]

Hi, funny you should ask if this was out of the blue, no. She emailed me originally about "our" mine and hers relationship. I replied our relationship would be just fine but with all do respect you cannot legally put your name down as mother and I need to be contacted about medical and dental decissions as I will do the same and legally I am required to coparent with child's dad not you. Also, I agree the children should be treated the same, I just don't want to be ousted of big decissions for our daughter which they do all the time.

I completley agree with you. You should not be ousted and I hate seeing parents do this.


You are doing a great job and trying to co-parent with allparents included. But she needs to understand she is step-mom not mom and why she thinks that's a problem means she is nuts.
She is not supporting respect for herself, the children or to you. Apparently she wants to be involved but to an extreme but lying and stopping you & your ex from talking is not appropriate.

I bet she is one of those wifeswap extremist mothers!!

 

[thinktank03]

No, at the time the judge did not order a class. I have suggested a few times but they refuse.

Well I know CPS can do a sit down when they feel families at at ends. Although this would not be a CPS case.
Trying to file to keep her butt in control(3rd party interference) would be best if her nor dad wants to take a co-parenting class to see outside their world.

 

[thinktank03]

stepmom doesn't need a coparenting class.

stepmom doesn't need to be coparenting!

That's not true and if mom thinks it will help everyone involved in this case she can try.
CPS thinks step-parents need to be involed
I took a co-parenting class with my husband and it was wonderful.

While step-parents need to understand not everything involves them if they are in a childs life and they need to get along and if they need help to learn to get along for the childs sake than any class that is going to help them they need to take it.
Because children soak in everything and anyone near them is going to be an influence.

 

[Isis1]

That's not true and if mom thinks it will help everyone involved in this case she can try.
CPS thinks step-parents need to be involed
I took a co-parenting class with my husband and it was wonderful.

While step-parents need to understand not everything involves them if they are in a childs life and they need to get along and if they need help to learn to get along for the childs sake than any class that is going to help them they need to take it.
Because children soak in everything and anyone near them is going to be an influence.

that's why they have restraining orders. and no parent HAS to get along with an overstepping stepparent.

 

[Isis1]

And I also add that no stepparent has to get along with mom per say. I don't get along with mom and Im doing just fine. I had to learn my place though .

granted, it's NICE when everyone does get along. but when to get along means stepping back from parental obligations and rights.....then it's a problem.

 

[cherylsarah01]

granted, it's NICE when everyone does get along. but when to get along means stepping back from parental obligations and rights.....then it's a problem.

I agree with this. It is nice if we could all get along, I have really tried over the past year to do that for everyones sake. I have tried so hard that she now feels she can say whatever she wants to me. I will not have her take my parental rights from me. Really if you read her email in original post she might as well have said when my daughter is over there I don't exist and she is acting as mom in all sense of the word ie. making big decissions and impersonating me. What really discusses me even more is the my ex is letting her disrespect the custody agreement, co parenting plan, my daughter's wishes and me. This stepmom is getting more and more ballsy every day. You should see the stuff she writes me. I do not want to coparent with her, she has proven to me already that she is deceitful, lies, conceals and has her own agenda. A coparenting class may be good for her but I am not going to coparent anymore with her.

 

[Isis1]

I agree with this. It is nice if we could all get along, I have really tried over the past year to do that for everyones sake. I have tried so hard that she now feels she can say whatever she wants to me. I will not have her take my parental rights from me. Really if you read her email in original post she might as well have said when my daughter is over there I don't exist and she is acting as mom in all sense of the word ie. making big decissions and impersonating me. What really discusses me even more is the my ex is letting her disrespect the custody agreement, co parenting plan, my daughter's wishes and me. This stepmom is getting more and more ballsy every day. You should see the stuff she writes me. I do not want to coparent with her, she has proven to me already that she is deceitful, lies, conceals and has her own agenda. A coparenting class may be good for her but I am not going to coparent anymore with her.

oh i got that part! thats what got me so riled up.

look, this is how i see it. you lay down the law now. pull the reins in, and with time, when crazy lady "gets it" (i'm an optimistic, i believe everyone will "get it" one day") you can stand down just a tad bit. like training a toddler not to touch that expensive crystal penguin. it just takes longer unfortunately.

 

[cherylsarah01]

oh i got that part! thats what got me so riled up.

look, this is how i see it. you lay down the law now. pull the reins in, and with time, when crazy lady "gets it" (i'm an optimistic, i believe everyone will "get it" one day") you can stand down just a tad bit. like training a toddler not to touch that expensive crystal penguin. it just takes longer unfortunately.

I hear what you are saying. I am going to lay down the law legally with this no third paty intervention. Some day hopefully I can stand down a bit but we know it's not right now because she believes she calls the shots. My husband and his ex coparent nicely and I have stayed out of it and now my husband's ex is comfortable enough that she will actually call me and ask if I want to do this or that or could I please handle some things for the kids. We are not buddies or anything but I know my place and she appreciates that. Than you.

 

[blarson01]

Be strong!

That lady sounds like a real B*****. You be strong and never give up! You're the biological mother not her. Sounds to me like she needs to be put in her place. In a diplomatic way of course.