novemberbride
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What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? CA
I posted a few weeks ago about my daughter's health problems, and dad's refusal to allow her treatment. I filed for temporary orders which were denied, but a hearing in mediation was scheduled. We're due in court next week. Dad contacted me this past Monday and asked me to sign a document that he created stating that I agree to not appear in court because he is going on vacation, and won't be present for mediation. Will they still mediate with only one parent there?
Since all this happened, our daughter had an accident at his house. He took her to the emergency room, and left after waiting for 2 hours. She was never seen or treated. He wasn't very forthcoming about the details of her injury, and when I picked her up on Sunday, she had a 2 inch Y shaped gash in her head, bruising all along her forehead, a black eye, a cut under her nose, bruising on the inside of her lip, and the left side of her lip was swollen. He originally told me that her injury was a minor cut, about a half inch on her forehead. He shaved part of her hair in order to mend the wound. She also got ahold of scissors and gave herself a nice mullett. He stated that she fell off the toilet, and cut her head on a piece of plastic on a toddler's potty chair. I asked him if he was there when she fell, and he said he wasn't. We live about an hour and half away, and I asked him if I should come down to see her, and he kept telling me "no, she's totally fine". On Sunday, she screamed obscenities on the way home. She was screaming "F You (fiance's name)" over and over. When I asked her where she heard that kind of language, she said "daddy said F (fiance's name)". She also said "daddy says (fiance's name) spanks me". Totally not true......and he has threated me with telling the courts that my fiance is mean to our daughter, and that he spanks her. Which is completely not true.
When we spoke earlier this week he kept asking me if I was going to bring the injury up to the mediators. He said that if I do, he will tell our daughter the truth about me and my family. He's already taught her to call me by my first name, and my parents by their first names. He's also taught her that I am adopted, so her aunts, uncles, cousins etc are not really her family. She's not even three years old yet.
So**************will the mediators meet with me alone if dad isn't there? And, my petition only states her medical issues. Could I bring this other stuff up?
I posted a few weeks ago about my daughter's health problems, and dad's refusal to allow her treatment. I filed for temporary orders which were denied, but a hearing in mediation was scheduled. We're due in court next week. Dad contacted me this past Monday and asked me to sign a document that he created stating that I agree to not appear in court because he is going on vacation, and won't be present for mediation. Will they still mediate with only one parent there?
Since all this happened, our daughter had an accident at his house. He took her to the emergency room, and left after waiting for 2 hours. She was never seen or treated. He wasn't very forthcoming about the details of her injury, and when I picked her up on Sunday, she had a 2 inch Y shaped gash in her head, bruising all along her forehead, a black eye, a cut under her nose, bruising on the inside of her lip, and the left side of her lip was swollen. He originally told me that her injury was a minor cut, about a half inch on her forehead. He shaved part of her hair in order to mend the wound. She also got ahold of scissors and gave herself a nice mullett. He stated that she fell off the toilet, and cut her head on a piece of plastic on a toddler's potty chair. I asked him if he was there when she fell, and he said he wasn't. We live about an hour and half away, and I asked him if I should come down to see her, and he kept telling me "no, she's totally fine". On Sunday, she screamed obscenities on the way home. She was screaming "F You (fiance's name)" over and over. When I asked her where she heard that kind of language, she said "daddy said F (fiance's name)". She also said "daddy says (fiance's name) spanks me". Totally not true......and he has threated me with telling the courts that my fiance is mean to our daughter, and that he spanks her. Which is completely not true.
When we spoke earlier this week he kept asking me if I was going to bring the injury up to the mediators. He said that if I do, he will tell our daughter the truth about me and my family. He's already taught her to call me by my first name, and my parents by their first names. He's also taught her that I am adopted, so her aunts, uncles, cousins etc are not really her family. She's not even three years old yet.
So**************will the mediators meet with me alone if dad isn't there? And, my petition only states her medical issues. Could I bring this other stuff up?
