No Third Party Interference

[cherylsarah01]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? CA

Hi and thank you in advance for your help. I appologize if I get any of the verbage incorrect but I am not familiar with any of the legal terms.

50/50 joint legal and physical custody but I have constant stepmom interference with medical, dental and school decissions. Father thinks he only has to parent with stepmom and not me, don't know if you have read any of my other threads.

I want to get a "no third party interference" put onto the co-parenting plan. Can I do that myself and how do I go about that? I do not want to change any custody just add that.

Thank you

 

[Isis1]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? CA

Hi and thank you in advance for your help. I appologize if I get any of the verbage incorrect but I am not familiar with any of the legal terms.

50/50 joint legal and physical custody but I have constant stepmom interference with medical, dental and school decissions. Father thinks he only has to parent with stepmom and not me, don't know if you have read any of my other threads.

I want to get a "no third party interference" put onto the co-parenting plan. Can I do that myself and how do I go about that? I do not want to change any custody just add that.

Thank you

well, you would have to file a motion to modify. and this is where is gets a bit tricky. you can request that it be ordered no third party interference, but you cannot force dad to parent with you. and you can't stop dad from co-pareting with stepmom.

what you can do, is bring proof like medical, school documents, and dental forms that show stepmom is protraying herself to be mom.

 

[Just Blue]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? CA

Hi and thank you in advance for your help. I appologize if I get any of the verbage incorrect but I am not familiar with any of the legal terms.

50/50 joint legal and physical custody but I have constant stepmom interference with medical, dental and school decissions. Father thinks he only has to parent with stepmom and not me, don't know if you have read any of my other threads.

I want to get a "no third party interference" put onto the co-parenting plan. Can I do that myself and how do I go about that? I do not want to change any custody just add that.

Thank you

You would file for a modification of the current parenting plan/custody order to include no 3rd party interference. Make sure you include and and all evidence you have of said interference.

I will send a link to your thread to CC and ask her to clarify how to do this. She works for CA Family Courts.

Next time you have a question regarding custody, post to you existing threads, so members don't have to search your history. Thanks!!

 

[cherylsarah01]

well, you would have to file a motion to modify. and this is where is gets a bit tricky. you can request that it be ordered no third party interference, but you cannot force dad to parent with you. and you can't stop dad from co-pareting with stepmom.

what you can do, is bring proof like medical, school documents, and dental forms that show stepmom is protraying herself to be mom.

Hi, thank you. You are right I cannot force him to coparent with me and stop his co-parenting with stepmom but at the least I am hoping it will stop stepmom from impersonating me.

 

[cherylsarah01]

You would file for a modification of the current parenting plan/custody order to include no 3rd party interference. Make sure you include and and all evidence you have of said interference.

I will send a link to your thread to CC and ask her to clarify how to do this. She works for CA Family Courts.

Next time you have a question regarding custody, post to you existing threads, so members don't have to search your history. Thanks!!

Hi Blue Meanie. Thank you for sending a link to CC for me. Sorry I did not know if I should use an old thread or start a new one.

 

[cherylsarah01]

What the "blank" am I doing

Hi, I am posting to this old thread to hopefully get more info/advice from you guys.

As of today I have been informed by email from stepmom and ex that he has written letters to our daughter's doctor, dentist and school that stepmom is allowed to have any information she wants and can make any medical, dental or schoolastic decission she wants. Can he legally do this? His email also says that she does not have to ask me or fyi me for any decissions for our daughter.

I understand that he can and should take our daughter to any appointments he sees she may need and in the case of emergency stepmom should be able to seek medical attention for our daughter but shouldn't I be informed? Shouldn't we be making these decissions together? Am I overreacting?

I have forms to fill out but have no representation and have no idea what I am doing.

I have had a free attorney consultation and he said this is not ok, at all along with other things and may be grounds to get more custody but I am just thinking the interference thing first, or I don't know I am confused.

Our case is in Alameda County, CA "Bay Area" and the judges are very into shared parenting/co-parenting and I do not want to make a stupid mistake. I believe our daughter needs both parents no matter how I feel I am being treated.

 

[Maray1980]

I'm in FL but are our exes brothers? I'm interested to see the replies...ex's gf is not as bad as your ex's wife, but it is a matter of time.

 

[Isis1]

Hi, I am posting to this old thread to hopefully get more info/advice from you guys.

As of today I have been informed by email from stepmom and ex that he has written letters to our daughter's doctor, dentist and school that stepmom is allowed to have any information she wants and can make any medical, dental or schoolastic decission she wants. Can he legally do this? His email also says that she does not have to ask me or fyi me for any decissions for our daughter.

I understand that he can and should take our daughter to any appointments he sees she may need and in the case of emergency stepmom should be able to seek medical attention for our daughter but shouldn't I be informed? Shouldn't we be making these decissions together? Am I overreacting?

I have forms to fill out but have no representation and have no idea what I am doing.

I have had a free attorney consultation and he said this is not ok, at all along with other things and may be grounds to get more custody but I am just thinking the interference thing first, or I don't know I am confused.

Our case is in Alameda County, CA "Bay Area" and the judges are very into shared parenting/co-parenting and I do not want to make a stupid mistake. I believe our daughter needs both parents no matter how I feel I am being treated.

send a letter to all the same medical personnel stating you are mom, and you do NOT consent to the stepmother with no legal rights to make any medical decisions on behalf of your child. and a copy of the court order attached. same goes for the school.

 

[kimberlywrites]

Hi, I am posting to this old thread to hopefully get more info/advice from you guys.

As of today I have been informed by email from stepmom and ex that he has written letters to our daughter's doctor, dentist and school that stepmom is allowed to have any information she wants and can make any medical, dental or schoolastic decission she wants. Can he legally do this? His email also says that she does not have to ask me or fyi me for any decissions for our daughter.

I understand that he can and should take our daughter to any appointments he sees she may need and in the case of emergency stepmom should be able to seek medical attention for our daughter but shouldn't I be informed? Shouldn't we be making these decissions together? Am I overreacting?

I have forms to fill out but have no representation and have no idea what I am doing.

I have had a free attorney consultation and he said this is not ok, at all along with other things and may be grounds to get more custody but I am just thinking the interference thing first, or I don't know I am confused.

Our case is in Alameda County, CA "Bay Area" and the judges are very into shared parenting/co-parenting and I do not want to make a stupid mistake. I believe our daughter needs both parents no matter how I feel I am being treated.

PERFECT! Consider this evidence and request a modification for no third party interference.
How old is your divorce decree?

 

[kimberlywrites]

OP, if I might just add, I've had some pretty serious run-ins with my ex's wife regarding interference with parenting.
I consulted a lawyer, and she sent them a rather harsh letter pointing out I was still willing to work with the ex, and if the interference continues, I would seek custody modification.
It worked like a charm.
So far.
And consider this - if you do something like that, you will then have legal proof you tried to work things out with dad. If the crap continues, you'll have this as proof you can no longer co-parent 50-50 effectively.
Dang, now I'm all riled up.
Time for an adult beverage.

 

[cherylsarah01]

send a letter to all the same medical personnel stating you are mom, and you do NOT consent to the stepmother with no legal rights to make any medical decisions on behalf of your child. and a copy of the court order attached. same goes for the school.

Hi Isabella, you have helped me so much in the past, thank you. I have done this and got on the phone to make sure. The doctor's office response was "she holds the insurance so she is entitled and Do you really want your daughter turned away from treatment?" I don't even know how to answer that.

 

[cherylsarah01]

PERFECT! Consider this evidence and request a modification for no third party interference.
How old is your divorce decree?

legally seperated in 2004 and divorce decree final in dec. 2005

 

[tornado88]

There is a big difference between giving her the information she may need for the insurance and her making decisions!

 

[Artemis_ofthe_Hunt]

There is a big difference between giving her the information she may need for the insurance and her making decisions!

If it were me, I'd do whatever I could to make sure that child was covered under insurance I carried, then SHE wouldn't have ANY access to information... even. if.... especially true that they want to play this evilstepmonster is the better mommy.... ick.

 

[cherylsarah01]

If it were me, I'd do whatever I could to make sure that child was covered under insurance I carried, then SHE wouldn't have ANY access to information... even. if.... especially true that they want to play this evilstepmonster is the better mommy.... ick.

My ex is court ordered to carry medical insurance for our daughter and I am ordered to carry dental and vision. I do carry medical insurance for our daughter but it is not as good and it falls behind his. She is double covered. He is a stay at home dad and because he voluntarily quit his job he has to still supply the medical coverage even if it is through his wife he has no choice.