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[mommy_of_2]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Tennessee,

I was going to let my kids go visit their dad for thanksgiving for the week. I was going to have him sign something saying they would be back in my custody the next weekend. I was then told it wouldnt stand up in court. I am in tx right now. What is the best way to get custody for me so they can go visit with me being here in Texas? I just really need advice on the entire thing. I dont want to keep him from them but dont want to chance it either and him take off with them. His family would make him do it. What is the best way to go about doing and fast! Thank You

 

[Isis1]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Tennessee,

I was going to let my kids go visit their dad for thanksgiving for the week. I was going to have him sign something saying they would be back in my custody the next weekend. I was then told it wouldnt stand up in court. I am in tx right now. What is the best way to get custody for me so they can go visit with me being here in Texas? I just really need advice on the entire thing. I dont want to keep him from them but dont want to chance it either and him take off with them. His family would make him do it. What is the best way to go about doing and fast! Thank You

is there any court order in place now?

has paternity been established?

 

[mommy_of_2]

nothing

nothing has been done at all. he hasnt tried to see them he adopted my son. our daughter is ours. i dont want to chance him taking them if I let him see them that week. can i get something in place from here by that time?

 

[Proserpina]

nothing has been done at all. he hasnt tried to see them he adopted my son. our daughter is ours. i dont want to chance him taking them if I let him see them that week. can i get something in place from here by that time?

He is their legal father - he has as much right to the children as you do.

 

[Isis1]

a divorce?? anything?

 

[mommy_of_2]

will not give them up

i am the one that has taken care of them not him. I want him to see them I do not want to take them away from him. I know he would take them just because that is what his family wants and not let me see them. I am trying to prevent this. he hasnt tried at all to see them. I offered this. I just want to know what I can do legally to make sure I get them back. I will not give up my kids.

 

[mommy_of_2]

a divorce?? anything?

no nothing. we had decided on everything then i was told that him signing something stating everything will not hold up in court. that he can still take them while he has them and not let me see them. all we have to do is just file for the divorce. we have nothing to fight for but the kids. he says he doesnt want them all the time, but his family will push him to take them if they get the chance.

 

[Isis1]

no nothing. we had decided on everything then i was told that him signing something stating everything will not hold up in court. that he can still take them while he has them and not let me see them. all we have to do is just file for the divorce. we have nothing to fight for but the kids. he says he doesnt want them all the time, but his family will push him to take them if they get the chance.

i'm trying to understand something here. was the divorce filed? are you still legally married to dad?

 

[mommy_of_2]

i'm trying to understand something here. was the divorce filed? are you still legally married to dad?

yes we are still married. i have been here for almost 6 months and he hasnt tried to see them at all. i was trying to be nice when i offered this. but yes we are still married and nothing has been done at all.

 

[Proserpina]

yes we are still married. i have been here for almost 6 months and he hasnt tried to see them at all. i was trying to be nice when i offered this. but yes we are still married and nothing has been done at all.

Again, Dad has as much right to the children as you do. If you want this to change you need to file for divorce and ask for temporary custody and visitation.

 

[Hisbabygirl77]

yes we are still married. i have been here for almost 6 months and he hasnt tried to see them at all. i was trying to be nice when i offered this. but yes we are still married and nothing has been done at all.

You were trying to be nice when you offered......Think about that sentence for a minute. The children are not your property. They are not only yours. They are his children as well who made you God and said you get to determine if he gets to see HIS kids? Im not being mean I really am trying to understand. Listen, If you want to have some kind of guarentee then you need to go down to the court house and file for divorce/custody/child support and have everything in a court order. Its been six months so what is the delay? Go down and get this settled.

 

[mommy_of_2]

You were trying to be nice when you offered......Think about that sentence for a minute. The children are not your property. They are not only yours. They are his children as well who made you God and said you get to determine if he gets to see HIS kids? Im not being mean I really am trying to understand. Listen, If you want to have some kind of guarentee then you need to go down to the court house and file for divorce/custody/child support and have everything in a court order. Its been six months so what is the delay? Go down and get this settled.

First of all how would you like it if someone took your kids and didnt let you see them at all. that is what he would do. I am trying to prevent this. I am the one and only that has taken care of them. I havent done any of the because I live 8 hours from there and i can't just leave work to go there for that long. i cant file here until after the first of the year thank you! If I could I would have done that already! There is no reason for you to be hateful. I want legal advice not for someon to snotty. I am wanting to know what I can do legally from here in Texas. Read the original post! you will see that.

 

[Hisbabygirl77]

First of all how would you like it if someone took your kids and didnt let you see them at all. that is what he would do. I am trying to prevent this. I am the one and only that has taken care of them. I havent done any of the because I live 8 hours from there and i can't just leave work to go there for that long. i cant file here until after the first of the year thank you! If I could I would have done that already! There is no reason for you to be hateful. I want legal advice not for someon to snotty. I am wanting to know what I can do legally from here in Texas. Read the original post! you will see that.

I have read all of your posts and the bolded sentence is exactly what you are doing to him. Hmm can you say hyprocrite? Hun, I havent even begun to get snotty.

 

[mommy_of_2]

I have read all of your posts and the bolded sentence is exactly what you are doing to him. Hmm can you say hyprocrite? Hun, I havent even begun to get snotty.

If you would have read it and understood it then you would know that I put I am letting him see them. I offered to take them to him so he could see them. He never asked to see them one. I wanted them to see their father or I wouldn't have offered it! I have never kept them from him. He knows where they are and could have come here. He has a way and the means to do so. So do not call me anything. I am the bigger person by offering to do it for him. He NEVER ASKED OR EVER ASK ABOUT THEM!!!! How many ways can I say that????? He could have come here or asked if he really wanted to see them.

 

[Hisbabygirl77]

If you would have read it and understood it then you would know that I put I am letting him see them. I offered to take them to him so he could see them. He never asked to see them one. I wanted them to see their father or I wouldn't have offered it! I have never kept them from him. He knows where they are and could have come here. He has a way and the means to do so. So do not call me anything. I am the bigger person by offering to do it for him. He NEVER ASKED OR EVER ASK ABOUT THEM!!!! How many ways can I say that????? He could have come here or asked if he really wanted to see them.

No your saying you dont know if you should "allow" for him to see his kids because he may not bring them back. Well in that sense he has "allowed" you to take the kids and you havent brought them back to him....DO you follow yet? As I stated if you need a guarentee the only way to do that is to go down and file and get a court order. Until then you both have equal rights to the kids and to have kids with you.