I don't get why you say I am trying to keep them from him. If that was the case then I wouldn't be taking them to him.
When are you taking them?
I just know how he was with out children while we were together. He is not a very good father, and has a problem with drinking at times.
You chose him to be the father. You even allowed him to adopt your first child. Now he isn't good enough?
I do think that is grounds for me to want to make sure that I keep custody of them. Would you want your children around that, no I'm sure you wouldn't.
You have allowed it. A judge will want to know why now that he isn't good enough, but when you had him adopt your first child you felt he was father material. You also had a child with him.
I could just keep them and not let him see them at all because of that very reason. I am not doing that. I do not feel it is a safe place for my children to be 24/7 365 days a year.
No, you couldn't do that. All he has to do is file for custody, and he will receive some form if it, regardless of how you feel. He is the legal father of those kids, and when you file for divorce in January, you can expect just that to happen, if he hasn't filed for divorce where he lives before that, which he can do.
If people don't understand that I am just trying to make sure they are safe then don't even reply to my post. I do want them to see their father and have a relationship with him. They do need that! I do not think it makes me a bad person to want to keep custody of them, which is what everyone here is trying to make me out to be. I come here for advice and get almost nothing but problems and calling me names.
You were given advice. The fact that you didn't like the advice doesn't take away from the fact that it was given to you. I don't recall anyone calling you names.
I am just thinking about the safety of my children. The same thing that everyone else here would do also! He suffers from PTSD and I don't think that is something they need to be with on a daily basis! Call me bad, or whatever I don't care. I just want my children safe and I think that makes me a great mother. If I didn't care then I would let them just go and not worry about it. So STOP saying I am keeping them from seeing him. He could have came here to see them if he wanted. I wouldn't have stopped him. I even asked him to come down back in August and he said he was way to busy.
You are the one who moved with the children. You should be the one providing the transportation, not him. If you honestly want the children to see their father, than take them to see him. You can tell everyone you want the children to see their father all you want, but until your actions actually show that, it's nothing more than hot air.
