non biological father and crazy ex-girlfriend

[TinkerBelleLuvr]

what should I do?

Stay out of it completely. This child is NOT your husband's son. That mom allows him to have ANY visits is solely at the discretion of MOM.

 

[juli72979]

?

can she do anything without us having anything without a signed document?

 

[stealth2]

can she do anything without us having anything without a signed document?

Huh? Please translate this into something that makes sense... Thanks.

 

[Proserpina]

Huh? Please translate this into something that makes sense... Thanks.

I think she might be asking if Mom can make certain allegations against OP/OP's husband if they have kiddo for unsupervised visitations...

 

[juli72979]

exactly

that is it I just want to i she can do anything to harm us if their is no legal document or a document at all saying hecan in fact be here unsupervised without any reprocussions for us its not the fact of needing to stay out of anything or not wanting to be a part of anything or even telling him toback off or anything I just am afraid of concequences of believing it. I have three children myself and I know this kid needs stability and normalness in his life thats why I dont push to not see him but I am worried about the unsupervised portion of this now we have no protection from anything

 

[Proserpina]

that is it I just want to i she can do anything to harm us if their is no legal document or a document at all saying hecan in fact be here unsupervised without any reprocussions for us its not the fact of needing to stay out of anything or not wanting to be a part of anything or even telling him toback off or anything I just am afraid of concequences of believing it. I have three children myself and I know this kid needs stability and normalness in his life thats why I dont push to not see him but I am worried about the unsupervised portion of this now we have no protection from anything

Here's the thing.

Your husband has no rights to see this child at all. Now, is there a reason to think Mom would try and make allegations against either or both of you?

He also needs to understand that no paper, order or permission slip in the world will protect him from such accusations, really.

(And she'd be quite foolish to try kidnapping charges)

ETA: OP...is there something you may have forgotten to mention here? My spidey sense is going off the chart and I cannot pinpoint why...

 

[Just Blue]

Is it just my K-Dar that is buzzing away?

 

[Proserpina]

Is it just my K-Dar that is buzzing away?

It's either my spidey sense, k-dar or lack of caffeine. I'm not sure which...

 

[juli72979]

nope

besides no matter what we do she finds away to either make it bad or turn it around a use it against us. she is mad be cause before me she called all the shots time place money etc. and now she cant call the shots and we now have a child together and she is nuts it is taking away from what she and her son were getting from my husband all about greed she thinks if she gets us apart then its back to the way it was but the difference is his real daughter is still apart of everything. she is nuts.

 

[Proserpina]

besides no matter what we do she finds away to either make it bad or turn it around a use it against us. she is mad be cause before me she called all the shots time place money etc. and now she cant call the shots and we now have a child together and she is nuts it is taking away from what she and her son were getting from my husband all about greed she thinks if she gets us apart then its back to the way it was but the difference is his real daughter is still apart of everything. she is nuts.

"real" daughter? As opposed to what exactly?

 

[Just Blue]

besides no matter what we do she finds away to either make it bad or turn it around a use it against us. she is mad be cause before me she called all the shots time place money etc. and now she cant call the shots and we now have a child together and she is nuts it is taking away from what she and her son were getting from my husband all about greed she thinks if she gets us apart then its back to the way it was but the difference is his real daughter is still apart of everything. she is nuts.

Please refrain from posting here until you can use: Capitalization, PUNCTUATION and BASIC grammar.

 

[Proserpina]

Please refrain from posting here until you can use: Capitalization, PUNCTUATION and BASIC grammar.

Since when were those things a prerequisite of posting here?

 

[Just Blue]

Since when were those things a prerequisite of posting here?

Since many of the Seniors hunted you down and FORCED you to be literate.

BTW: Did your Doctor release you to work yet???

 

[Proserpina]

Since many of the Seniors hunted you down and FORCED you to be literate.

BTW: Did your Doctor release you to work yet???

Shaddup and drink your beverage already

 

[stealth2]

OP... there is something you don't seem to understand here. You actually have a stand-up guy. Although this child is not his, and he has no legal obligation to him... he is standing by the role he chose to take. AND Mom is allowing him to do so at least in part. That is really pretty cool.

What I'm getting from your posts is that you are jealous as all get-out that he is a stand-up guy for this kid who isn't his, in any way shape or form. I don't believe for a minute that this has to do with any accusations she may level against your husband. It's all about your jealousy. IMO. And maybe your fear. That if the two of you don't work out, he will fight just as hard for HIS kids as he does for someone else's.