Mom expects 12 YO son to pay for his dinner

[WittyUserName]

What matters is what our son thinks.

Not in a court of law. Help your son "vent his anger and frustration" in an appropriate way. Counseling? Sure. Might help both of you.

 

[mcwjjm]

Not in a court of law. Help your son "vent his anger and frustration" in an appropriate way. Counseling? Sure. Might help both of you.

Actually we [he and I] recently completed an 11 week family nuturing program that was voluntary but suggested by the court-appointed PFSN. I had no idea what to expect but was open to the possibilities. It turned out to be a positive experience for both of us except one of the facilitators unexpectedly passed away three weeks before the completion of the course. He was only 35 and we struck up a friendship when he learned I was a runner and he was entering his 1st half marathon. It was really difficult for everyone involved. My son, the youngest in our group, handled it better than most of the older kids. We also have weekly sessions with a residential clinician but she's about to cut us loose since her services are no longer needed [her call]. We've made a helluva lot of progress since the custody change but it just irks me how little his mother seems to care or contributes to his success.

 

[wileybunch]

But, what is your LEGAL question about the current issue?
What is it you think you want the court to do about it?

 

[WittyUserName]

Exactly, Wiley. OP, no one is arguing that Mom's behavior is stellar. No one's saying that watching your son try to deal with that isn't emotionally difficult for you. But the place to deal with those emotional issues isn't a courtroom.

 

[basylica]

I used to use the $5 every 2 weeks allowance I got from my dad to buy milk for my brothers and sisters in my blended family home because the only food in the house was cereal and we had no milk...

I'm also a serial killer and hack people into tiny bits now. oh wait....


Perhaps jr doesn't eat his dinner or orders excessively and plays around during meals out? perhaps mom is trying to teach him a lesson on how much things cost and the value of a dollar?
keep money gifts at your house if you don't want them to be spent at moms. enough said.

 

[Isis1]

I used to use the $5 every 2 weeks allowance I got from my dad to buy milk for my brothers and sisters in my blended family home because the only food in the house was cereal and we had no milk...

I'm also a serial killer and hack people into tiny bits now. oh wait....


Perhaps jr doesn't eat his dinner or orders excessively and plays around during meals out? perhaps mom is trying to teach him a lesson on how much things cost and the value of a dollar?
keep money gifts at your house if you don't want them to be spent at moms. enough said.

i made my son pay for the dishwashing soap in turn for giving him a ride to Target to buy Pokemon cards.

i even sent him to the store to buy ice once. and made him pay for it!!

and this one time....he wanted peanut butter and jelly sandwiches...but we had no bread....and he went to the store and bought bread. out of his own pocket!!

 

[basylica]

i made my son pay for the dishwashing soap in turn for giving him a ride to Target to buy Pokemon cards.

i even sent him to the store to buy ice once. and made him pay for it!!

and this one time....he wanted peanut butter and jelly sandwiches...but we had no bread....and he went to the store and bought bread. out of his own pocket!!

any child who wishes to buy pokemon cards deserves worse punishments
my almost 6yr old keeps talking about these bakkugon things. whatever the hell they are. I bought him a few for xmas (3pk) and still have no clue. lol.

does your son rock back and forth in a fetal position and mumble to himself and kill small animals?
surely you are causing mental harm!

 

[Isis1]

any child who wishes to buy pokemon cards deserves worse punishments
my almost 6yr old keeps talking about these bakkugon things. whatever the hell they are. I bought him a few for xmas (3pk) and still have no clue. lol.

does your son rock back and forth in a fetal position and mumble to himself and kill small animals?

surely you are causing mental harm!

that's odd. I'M the one rocking back and forth in a fetal position debating on turning my chihuahua into a tasty burrito with fresh salsa and guacamole.....

 

[basylica]

that's odd. I'M the one rocking back and forth in a fetal position debating on turning my chihuahua into a tasty burrito with fresh salsa and guacamole.....

damn....I didn't say EAT small animals. you are a sick puppy!!

 

[CourtClerk]

You guys are all extremely cruel to your children and should be prosecuted immediately. In fact, just so my kid doesn't have to exert too much energy, I go into the bathroom and wipe his butt for him because I don't want him to get frustrated trying to do it right. When his fingers get tired from playing video games, I let him borrow mine. In fact, I try real hard never to make him angry, upset or uncomfortable. I am at his beck and call.... (yeah, right).

I've got you all beat. I bought the kid an XBox 360 for Christmas, then told him if he wanted to play it, he'd have to buy the video games himself. Yes, at $60 a piece. He already has 8, so I guess he figured it out.

 

[basylica]

You guys are all extremely cruel to your children and should be prosecuted immediately. In fact, just so my kid doesn't have to exert too much energy, I go into the bathroom and wipe his butt for him because I don't want him to get frustrated trying to do it right. When his fingers get tired from playing video games, I let him borrow mine. In fact, I try real hard never to make him angry, upset or uncomfortable. I am at his beck and call.... (yeah, right).

I've got you all beat. I bought the kid an XBox 360 for Christmas, then told him if he wanted to play it, he'd have to buy the video games himself. Yes, at $60 a piece. He already has 8, so I guess he figured it out.

Are you my ex MIL and is your son 32?
because that sounds exactally like my ex. down to the buttwiping and all.

 

[CourtClerk]

Are you my ex MIL and is your son 32?
because that sounds exactally like my ex. down to the buttwiping and all.

Nope... 'fraid not. Kiddo is only newly 14 and somehow, he's functional. Oh, and reiterate, he wipes his own butt.

 

[Alex23]

Hell, I'm 40, and I still expect my dad to pay for my meals when we go out.

 

[Proserpina]

Are you my ex MIL and is your son 32?
because that sounds exactally like my ex. down to the buttwiping and all.

Oh now that is frightening.

I'm going back to my reading, as I have just learned that oxen can be trained to genuflect and whistle softly in the moonlight. Alas, I did not discover whether or not they can wipe their own butts...

 

[Isis1]

Hell, I'm 40, and I still expect my dad to pay for my meals when we go out.

*thump* that's a judge's mallot on your head.