What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? IN
The day after my daughter was born I called the prosecutors office. One week later I went for the interview and got the paper work moving. The hearing and test is not until the beginning of May. They said that mom would receive the letter in 3-4 weeks. Yesterday was 3 weeks.
I had not told mom a thing about it until last night. She asks me about child support every time I go over. I just kinda keep putting it off because I was advised not to give her anything until paternity was established. Well, last night she said she was going to start withholding visitation until I gave her something. So I had no choice but to tell her that the letter was in the mail and that we were going to court. She was not happy at all. She is still letting me come over for my visit tomorrow morning so who knows how that will go. I go over to her place tues, wed, and sat for 2hrs each visit.
In the past 2 weeks, I have given her a large box of diapers and wipes and also brought over 2 large garbage bags of baby clothes to go through. She ended up keeping more than half. Last night she told me not to buy any more diapers that she needs money for other support.
She also got the birth certificate in the mail and no surprise my name was not on it. She was asking me when I was available to go to health office to sign paternity and get added on. My only guess as to why she didnt have me do it at the hospital was so that there would be no argument when she put her last name down as the babys. From what I have read, and I could be wrong, but the nurses legally had to tell her about the AOP. She claims they never made mention of it at all.
Well I'm glad it is finally out in the open that we are going to court and I dont have to dance around support and signing the AOP. My intentions from the start were to get paternity established and pay support through the courts.
The day after my daughter was born I called the prosecutors office. One week later I went for the interview and got the paper work moving. The hearing and test is not until the beginning of May. They said that mom would receive the letter in 3-4 weeks. Yesterday was 3 weeks.
I had not told mom a thing about it until last night. She asks me about child support every time I go over. I just kinda keep putting it off because I was advised not to give her anything until paternity was established. Well, last night she said she was going to start withholding visitation until I gave her something. So I had no choice but to tell her that the letter was in the mail and that we were going to court. She was not happy at all. She is still letting me come over for my visit tomorrow morning so who knows how that will go. I go over to her place tues, wed, and sat for 2hrs each visit.
In the past 2 weeks, I have given her a large box of diapers and wipes and also brought over 2 large garbage bags of baby clothes to go through. She ended up keeping more than half. Last night she told me not to buy any more diapers that she needs money for other support.
She also got the birth certificate in the mail and no surprise my name was not on it. She was asking me when I was available to go to health office to sign paternity and get added on. My only guess as to why she didnt have me do it at the hospital was so that there would be no argument when she put her last name down as the babys. From what I have read, and I could be wrong, but the nurses legally had to tell her about the AOP. She claims they never made mention of it at all.
Well I'm glad it is finally out in the open that we are going to court and I dont have to dance around support and signing the AOP. My intentions from the start were to get paternity established and pay support through the courts.
