They are at it again...this time with a PI

[Raisingmaddy]

What is the name of your state -Washington


I have had several issues lately with my ex-in laws and my children's Dad. I recently found out that they have hired a private investigator and I have been being "watched" for at least three weeks. I just found this out three days ago.

I was told that they (ex-in laws, and Dad) are trying to "build a case" against me. They do not have any specific reasons, they are just very controlling and would prefer that my ex-husband were have primary custody of the children.

I don't do anything at all that I think I should worry about them using against me. I don't drink, party, do drugs, anything. I work, and care for our children. In all honesty, I do not have a life aside from our children. For me, it's all about them.

But...like I said, these people are very controlling and would do ANYTHING to help Dad have primary custody so I can't help but to be concerned that I am being watched.

Does anyone have any suggestions AT ALL of anything that I should pay extra attention to due to the fact that I am being watched, followed. I'm not really even sure how to word my questions, but any suggestions and advice would be welcome. Thank you!!

 

[tornado88]

Granted this is not a legal answer, but if it were me I would make it a point to wave at the PI each and every time I walked out of my house, car, or where ever you see them. Offer them a glass of tea and cookies you and the children just baked. I can't imagine they would stick around long if they know you are watching them. Go about your everyday business. If you are taking care of the children as you should be then they can not get any "dirt" on you to use and should soon quit. If they don't then get a chuckle out of how much money they are totally wasting.

 

[Raisingmaddy]

Granted this is not a legal answer, but if it were me I would make it a point to wave at the PI each and every time I walked out of my house, car, or where ever you see them. Offer them a glass of tea and cookies you and the children just baked. I can't imagine they would stick around long if they know you are watching them. Go about your everyday business. If you are taking care of the children as you should be then they can not get any "dirt" on you to use and should soon quit. If they don't then get a chuckle out of how much money they are totally wasting.

Agreed. I really think of it as them just throwing their wallet in the toilet and flush..flush...flushing...

It is very stressful though, they know I don't do any of these things...any suggestions on what else a P.I. would be looking for?

 

[tornado88]

oh goodness, that would be all guess work as we don't know what they told the PI. If I were to guess....are the children clean, are they getting to school on time, are you putting them in danger in anyway, leaving them alone, inviting criminals into your home, are they appropriately dressed for the weather, ? Can he see you taking groceries into the home, what time are the lights going out (kiddies in bed in good time)?

 

[Silverplum]

Lookin' for a may-un livin' up in your house.

SO rude of them to sic a PI on you. I can only agree that you should go forth and live your life with grace.

 

[tornado88]

Just went back and reread your past threads. NOW I remember you. LOL. How have things been going at drop offs and pick ups? How much Heck was raised whe you refused to hand kiddies over to grandparents? Those GP sure sound like winners. Hope your lawyers were able to help you out.

 

[Raisingmaddy]

oh goodness, that would be all guess work as we don't know what they told the PI. If I were to guess....are the children clean, are they getting to school on time, are you putting them in danger in anyway, leaving them alone, inviting criminals into your home, are they appropriately dressed for the weather, ? Can he see you taking groceries into the home, what time are the lights going out (kiddies in bed in good time)?

Kids are always clean, well dressed. Always at school on time, actually early usually They all have straight A's, never ever put them in danger, or leave them alone...and the list goes on, lol.

It has been interesting, the ex-in laws did call the police on me a couple weeks ago when I wouldn't pick up the kiddos and the officer basically told them to pound sand

Things have been eerily quiet since then...until I found about about this a few days ago...

 

[tornado88]

Well, when you can't get in the front door you try the back door. LOL

I wouldn't let it worry me to much. It doesn't sound like they are going to get anything on you. Just smile pretty for his camera.

 

[Raisingmaddy]

Lookin' for a may-un livin' up in your house.

SO rude of them to sic a PI on you. I can only agree that you should go forth and live your life with grace.

Too funny, actually we have been living with my fiancee for the last five years...sadly things are not working out.

I didn't mention this in the previous post, but I am currently in the process of moving with the kiddos. I know, I know..I should have mentioned it sooner and planned too but they had NO CLUE about it when they started having me followed. I have already informed ex-husband of new address.

The good news is, the new home is still in the same lovely area we currently live in, same school for kiddos, same bus driver even. The kids are excited and happy...I hope and pray this cannot be used against me as it is something that needed to be done.

 

[Knowalot]

Report this to your local police authorities

If I were you, I would report this to police authorities telling them you are being followed and ask for advice; you ASSUME it is a PI, but are you sure? It can't hurt to alert the authorities that someone is watching you and your children. Its creepy and some advice as to how to handle a matter like this could be helpful. Just personal advice, certainly not legal but I would be interested in knowing the legalities of even using PI's to spy on children.

 

[Raisingmaddy]

If I were you, I would report this to police authorities telling them you are being followed and ask for advice; you ASSUME it is a PI, but are you sure? It can't hurt to alert the authorities that someone is watching you and your children. Its creepy and some advice as to how to handle a matter like this could be helpful. Just personal advice, certainly not legal but I would be interested in knowing the legalities of even using PI's to spy on children.

Acutally, I do know it is a P.I. The thing is, my ex-husband confided in someone about it and had no clue this person knows me, or that the information would ever get back to me. This person was so upset about what was said by my ex that I received a phone call at work about it so that can be prepared for whatever happens next with them. Thank you for your advice.

 

[TinkerBelleLuvr]

It wouldn't hurt to call the police to say that you APPEAR to have a stalker watching you! Nothing like a police report going back to the grandparents!

 

[cyjeff]

Acutally, I do know it is a P.I. The thing is, my ex-husband confided in someone about it and had no clue this person knows me, or that the information would ever get back to me. This person was so upset about what was said by my ex that I received a phone call at work about it so that can be prepared for whatever happens next with them. Thank you for your advice.

I would absolutely call the police every night until the PI is sick of getting hassled... several times a night if he comes back.

 

[Ohiogal]

Just because it is a PI that doesn't give him the right to stalk you, follow you and constantly WATCH you. Stalking laws apply to Private investigators.

 

[LdiJ]

Just because it is a PI that doesn't give him the right to stalk you, follow you and constantly WATCH you. Stalking laws apply to Private investigators.

I am soooo not impressed with parents or grandparents who do this.