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[cherylsarah01]

After Reading the whole thing

So I have gotten past my migraine headache and have read the entire thing.

Things that cause me concern are:

Her 13 days total missed in school last year. 10 are mine and 3 are his.

I can prove the three different bouts of head lice. I got the call from the school three different times to come pick her up due to nits in her hair. Two of those times I got the call were on the exchange day, monday, from his home to mine and once was after I treated her hair and thought nits were out and sent her to school they called me to come and get her.

The fever and flu I can prove because she went to the doctors and I still have the paper from the doctors with diagnosis, prescriptions and instructions. After she was out a few days and thought fever was done I got a call from the school that she threw up in class and to come get her again.

Dropping her off at school to early.

Last year in March I had a schedule change and spouse was dropping her off at school for two out of the five days instead of me. He did not realize he was dropping her off 5 to10 minutes early. The office was open and people and other kids were around but it was going against school policy. I got the call from office and I informed spouse and it has not happened since. Office also sent out a memo to all parents because it was becoming a problem with many. My spouse still drops her off till this day and makes sure it is at 8:15 or after, school starts at 8:30.

Those are the things that worry me and can get me on.

The rest is either hearsay, character assasination and opinion on his and stepmom's part.

 

[mistoffolees]

So I have gotten past my migraine headache and have read the entire thing.

Things that cause me concern are:

Her 13 days total missed in school last year. 10 are mine and 3 are his.

I can prove the three different bouts of head lice. I got the call from the school three different times to come pick her up due to nits in her hair. Two of those times I got the call were on the exchange day, monday, from his home to mine and once was after I treated her hair and thought nits were out and sent her to school they called me to come and get her.

The fever and flu I can prove because she went to the doctors and I still have the paper from the doctors with diagnosis, prescriptions and instructions. After she was out a few days and thought fever was done I got a call from the school that she threw up in class and to come get her again.

Dropping her off at school to early.

Last year in March I had a schedule change and spouse was dropping her off at school for two out of the five days instead of me. He did not realize he was dropping her off 5 to10 minutes early. The office was open and people and other kids were around but it was going against school policy. I got the call from office and I informed spouse and it has not happened since. Office also sent out a memo to all parents because it was becoming a problem with many. My spouse still drops her off till this day and makes sure it is at 8:15 or after, school starts at 8:30.

Those are the things that worry me and can get me on.

The rest is either hearsay, character assasination and opinion on his and stepmom's part.

All of this has been explained to you several times. NONE of that is likely to affect custody.

 

[cherylsarah01]

All of this has been explained to you several times. NONE of that is likely to affect custody.

Thanks misto.

 

[jbowman]

This is a very strange thread to me. Either common sense is severely lacking here or something else is going on.

If there is a valid, legal and thoroughly convincing explanation to all these dumb accusations from dad, there would be nothing to worry about. I understand that OP would be concerned at first but still?

I feel like OP has huge wide eyes and is completely clueless (acting or otherwise).

Common sense would tell any mother that you cant be kicked out of your child's school/classroom because STEPMOM is uncomfortable. This is just weird. Or there is more here...

 

[mistoffolees]

This is a very strange thread to me. Either common sense is severely lacking here or something else is going on.

If there is a valid, legal and thoroughly convincing explanation to all these dumb accusations from dad, there would be nothing to worry about. I understand that OP would be concerned at first but still?

I feel like OP has huge wide eyes and is completely clueless (acting or otherwise).

Common sense would tell any mother that you cant be kicked out of your child's school/classroom because STEPMOM is uncomfortable. This is just weird. Or there is more here...

Could be, but some people just need reassurance. Particularly when the person has let the spouse boss them around for their entire lives, it is hard to break away and tell the spouse to pound sand.

Plus, there's not much of a more emotional situation than fear of losing your child. It is clearly not conducive to calm, rational thinking.

 

[cherylsarah01]

This is a very strange thread to me. Either common sense is severely lacking here or something else is going on.

If there is a valid, legal and thoroughly convincing explanation to all these dumb accusations from dad, there would be nothing to worry about. I understand that OP would be concerned at first but still?

I feel like OP has huge wide eyes and is completely clueless (acting or otherwise).

Common sense would tell any mother that you cant be kicked out of your child's school/classroom because STEPMOM is uncomfortable. This is just weird. Or there is more here...

No jbow it's just been going on for a long time. I already know I can't be kicked out of classroom because of stepmom.

Yes I used to be clueless and scared of a lot of things but thanks to this forum that I discovered awhile back it has opened my eyes to my parental rights and obligations.

This is my very first court battle and I have a lot to learn still. I battle a lot with self doubt and it can make me come off as clueless but really honestly I am learning.

There is not more here or I would tell you to get the correct responses.

I understand that it seems weird to you and it does to me too but I am dealing with two very strange people who put very strange spins on things in my opinion.

 

[gr8rn]

This is a very strange thread to me. Either common sense is severely lacking here or something else is going on.

If there is a valid, legal and thoroughly convincing explanation to all these dumb accusations from dad, there would be nothing to worry about. I understand that OP would be concerned at first but still?

I feel like OP has huge wide eyes and is completely clueless (acting or otherwise).

Common sense would tell any mother that you cant be kicked out of your child's school/classroom because STEPMOM is uncomfortable. This is just weird. Or there is more here...

I understand it. When you have been in a relationship for years, where you have been told you are not allowed to make any decisions about your (collectively) children, you are made to think that the person who controlls you is he only one that has power, you're told that you can't control anything having to do with YOUR life, you start to see things as though you have no rights. It's like moving through life in jello. And you have this constant feeling of exhaustion because every thing that you want to discuss turns into a war. Where you get screamed at for buying kitchen curtains without getting his approval. Where you are told that "your" religion has no meaning, even if he has none. You still are not alllowed to make that decision. Cheryl, besides looking here, google your states family law websites, and read up as much as you can. If you do get before the judge and have to do this yourself, there is no shame in letting him/her know you are nervous. My judge, after telling him I was nervous, said, "don't worry, I haven't eaten anyone yet. today" Get the note cards. It was the best thing I had to keep organized. Bring everything you have, but make sure you have it organized. (use postit tabs) and good luck. Sincerely.