strathywins
Junior Member
What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Virginia
November 26th
On the Friday after Thanksgiving our daughter began to have diarrhea. I called the Dr.'s office and the office was closed. I then called the Dr. that was on-call for that day.
I told the Dr. that she had diarrhea that started earlier that day. She then asked me if there was any blood in the stool or any “jelly” like stool or fever. I told her that Cora had none of those symptoms and no fever, just the diarrhea.
November 27th
I texted my daughters father (the non-custodial parent) on Saturday because he was to visit with our daughter on Sunday from 10-6. I explained to him that she was to only eat a “bland” diet of rice cereal and formula and she was not to have any vegetables or fruits because, as told to me by the doctor, that could upset her stomach even more.
Her father called me right after I texted him and I asked him if he understood not to feed her anything but the bland diet of rice cereal and formula and he said that he understood. He never mentioned the need for a doctors note at that time or I would have gone to get one immediately.
November 28th
After her Sunday visit I texted her father to ask what she had eaten and to see how she did for the day. He did not respond to my text so I called him and his girlfriend answered. She informed me that our daughter did infact eat sweet potatoes for lunch. I was very upset that her father went against the doctors orders but his girlfriend informed me that she did not believe me and that we needed to get a doctors note.
November 29th
The next day was her fathers 5-9 visit. I came to his apartment to drop our daughter off and he was 20 minutes late. I asked him if he would please not feed her sweet potatoes to just feed her rice cereal and formula while she is sick. He said, “No, I'm not going to believe anything you say, I need a doctors note.” I then walked out of his door and took our daughter home because I felt that she was not going to be cared for properly and that her father was intentionally putting our daughter in danger of becoming more sick.
After getting home I felt wrong about going against the order but it conflicted with my gut feeling to protect our daughter and keep her safe and healthy. I made sure to email and text her father offering for him to make up the 4 hours.
November 29th
I also made sure that we went in to the doctors office that next morning at 7am and I offered her father to come to that visit as well so that he could be there first hand while the doctor was explaining everything to me. He did not show up. While at the doctors I received doctors orders in writing as to what to feed her for the next 3-4 days.
December 1st
I scanned and emailed these to her father as well as gave them to him in his hand on his Wednesday 5-9 visit (which was makeup for his Thursday visit because he had a Christmas party to attend).
I was never trying to keep our daughter away from her father, I was trying to make sure her best interests and safety were being taken care of by him. I do not know why he would refuse to do something that relayed to him that was told to me by a doctor but I fear that in the future this will create a danger for my daughter while in her fathers care. If our daughter was to take a certain medicine or needed to be on a certain diet I will definitely get that direction in writing no matter what but I think it would be in our daughters best interest to go by my instruction.
What do you all think of this? I am concerned with the treatment of my daughter while she is visiting with her father. If he can go against the Dr's orders what else is he doing?
I received the summons today to go to trial on her actual 1 year birthday. My daughter is 8 months now. She visits with her father every Monday from 5-9, every other Sunday from 10-6 and every other Thursday that she does not have a Sunday from 5:30-9. I have only refused him that one visit because I felt that he blatantly refused to care for her properly his interests are more about hurting me than caring for his daughter properly.
I am worried that I will go to jail or something bad will happen at the trial for this matter. I have offered for him to make up the 4 hours.
What are everyone's thoughts and suggestions about this? I owe our current lawyer over $2,000 so he is not really working for me anymore.
Thanks!
November 26th
On the Friday after Thanksgiving our daughter began to have diarrhea. I called the Dr.'s office and the office was closed. I then called the Dr. that was on-call for that day.
I told the Dr. that she had diarrhea that started earlier that day. She then asked me if there was any blood in the stool or any “jelly” like stool or fever. I told her that Cora had none of those symptoms and no fever, just the diarrhea.
November 27th
I texted my daughters father (the non-custodial parent) on Saturday because he was to visit with our daughter on Sunday from 10-6. I explained to him that she was to only eat a “bland” diet of rice cereal and formula and she was not to have any vegetables or fruits because, as told to me by the doctor, that could upset her stomach even more.
Her father called me right after I texted him and I asked him if he understood not to feed her anything but the bland diet of rice cereal and formula and he said that he understood. He never mentioned the need for a doctors note at that time or I would have gone to get one immediately.
November 28th
After her Sunday visit I texted her father to ask what she had eaten and to see how she did for the day. He did not respond to my text so I called him and his girlfriend answered. She informed me that our daughter did infact eat sweet potatoes for lunch. I was very upset that her father went against the doctors orders but his girlfriend informed me that she did not believe me and that we needed to get a doctors note.
November 29th
The next day was her fathers 5-9 visit. I came to his apartment to drop our daughter off and he was 20 minutes late. I asked him if he would please not feed her sweet potatoes to just feed her rice cereal and formula while she is sick. He said, “No, I'm not going to believe anything you say, I need a doctors note.” I then walked out of his door and took our daughter home because I felt that she was not going to be cared for properly and that her father was intentionally putting our daughter in danger of becoming more sick.
After getting home I felt wrong about going against the order but it conflicted with my gut feeling to protect our daughter and keep her safe and healthy. I made sure to email and text her father offering for him to make up the 4 hours.
November 29th
I also made sure that we went in to the doctors office that next morning at 7am and I offered her father to come to that visit as well so that he could be there first hand while the doctor was explaining everything to me. He did not show up. While at the doctors I received doctors orders in writing as to what to feed her for the next 3-4 days.
December 1st
I scanned and emailed these to her father as well as gave them to him in his hand on his Wednesday 5-9 visit (which was makeup for his Thursday visit because he had a Christmas party to attend).
I was never trying to keep our daughter away from her father, I was trying to make sure her best interests and safety were being taken care of by him. I do not know why he would refuse to do something that relayed to him that was told to me by a doctor but I fear that in the future this will create a danger for my daughter while in her fathers care. If our daughter was to take a certain medicine or needed to be on a certain diet I will definitely get that direction in writing no matter what but I think it would be in our daughters best interest to go by my instruction.
What do you all think of this? I am concerned with the treatment of my daughter while she is visiting with her father. If he can go against the Dr's orders what else is he doing?
I received the summons today to go to trial on her actual 1 year birthday. My daughter is 8 months now. She visits with her father every Monday from 5-9, every other Sunday from 10-6 and every other Thursday that she does not have a Sunday from 5:30-9. I have only refused him that one visit because I felt that he blatantly refused to care for her properly his interests are more about hurting me than caring for his daughter properly.
I am worried that I will go to jail or something bad will happen at the trial for this matter. I have offered for him to make up the 4 hours.
What are everyone's thoughts and suggestions about this? I owe our current lawyer over $2,000 so he is not really working for me anymore.
Thanks!