I know I'll be in contempt.

[VyRoses]

It teaches your child how to handle being around both the adults in his life.... because, honey, from reading what you've posted here, you're no prize either. I'd bet dollars to donuts that you've already told him all about his father....

Just the opposite hunny, my child tells me.. and I don't know what to say, or worse how to console him over what he'd just told me bacause I guess I don't know his dad well enough to actually think he does these things and than later think to myself, "oh thats why my childs acting like this or that." But ya thanks for the unique assumption.

 

[VyRoses]

My ex had custody, then took off to another state. There were three states involved, actually. I filed with the courts. Three months after filing, and finding the kids, we had a hearing. We went to trial two months after that. Then two months after that, I was awarded full custody.

Seven months.... Kids are sitting in my living room watching television with me.


It happens. I assure you.

Was she a terrible mother? Why did she run away from you anyway? why did you take custody from her rather than make her move back and have a visitation order?

 

[majomom1]

No he's been a POS since I was pregnant. When I was with him I clearly had as much integrity as he did, I did all kinds of idiotic stuff. Its funny How much a person changes sometimes when they become a mother, funny how soooo often the 'Father' doesn't change and a woman (in this modern age) is reprimanded for wanting to have nothing to do with the guy (who still acts like a teenager) For the SAKE OF HER CHILD. Because why else would any woman care or be so desperate to get away from a man than if it wasn't for how it effects her CHILD. ? anyone?

The real question is... do you want this man to be the sole influence in your child's life? Do you really want to take that gamble? It could be years... or it could be weeks. No one here can tell you for sure.

Do you want to be the rock that is in his life and teaches him how to be a good, solid citizen? How to cope. How to deal with situations in life?

We all have stuff to deal with. Hopefully we have good solid relationships and people to keep us on track... and not on the run or running away.

 

[futuredust]

Just the opposite hunny, my child tells me.. and I don't know what to say, or worse how to console him over what he'd just told me bacause I guess I don't know his dad well enough to actually think he does these things and than later think to myself, "oh thats why my childs acting like this or that." But ya thanks for the unique assumption.

After reading your posts, I have come to the conclusion that I am quite certain why you lost in court. Your arguments are empty, emotional (bitter), and way off base.

So since you know it all, and don't really need legal advice, because you did so well in court last time; maybe you should just move along.

No one is interested in arguing with you. You are too stupid to even form a proper sentence, much less argue a motion in court.

My best to your poor child, it is apparent who the real victim is. Hopefully there were some strong, intelligent people in your or dad's blood line, and those genetics were passed on to the kid.

 

[Proserpina]

Was she a terrible mother? Why did she run away from you anyway? why did you take custody from her rather than make her move back and have a visitation order?

You're a little presumptive, aren't you?

By the way - the COURT takes custody away.

You know why? Because the parent who absconds and hides their kids from the other parent is actually a crappy parent.

 

[neopandora]

No, but I think that you all are over Dramatizing the possible out come, I hear what you all are saying, its not that I don't believe you, I think it happends, but there are many different out comes with many different cases. Many, you all are saying lose of custody is what is to be expected period. but thats not so and we all know that.

If I am served at my last address, and than I am not there, here or there or anywhere.. Than where am I? years go by I'm found I am brought to court, child would no be taken from me over night, no.

OP - you just had a recent Court date and the Judge ruled against you after hearing all your proof. If you don't think THAT JUDGE will issue the Father an immediate temporary custody order, I believe you are sadly mistaken. Those are the circumstances in YOUR case.

I tend to think you'd have a very uphill battle at unsupervised visitation even at the final hearing much later, but I'd bet money that if you do what you plan to do you WILL NOT have custody while everything is sorted out in Court.

Regardless of your concerns, all the Judge is going to see is YOU didn't like his orders and did what you wanted. That will not bode well for you.

And I'm not going to list all the ways they can track you down because I'm not going to help you plan, but, it won't cost Dad much if anything at all all to help find you. I've seen several of the processes and it's fast,quick and easy (and some you would never think of). I was truly impressed with just how easy it is to find someone quickly. You will get caught and much sooner than later.

If you do this, you will more than likely have criminal charges as well as civil matters. They don't worry about serving you at your last known address. They show up and put you in the back of squad car and then they'll serve you the civil papers where you are nice and comfy in your cell.

YOU will be the one out many $$$. In addition to all the attorney fees and court costs in the civil matter, you'd probably be looking at a 5 figure retainer on the attorney fee for the criminal charge plus whatever bond costs, court costs, future probation fees, etc.

 

[ProSeDadinMD]

just to get in...

... before the LOCK!!!...LOL

OP, get over yourself....

 

[CJane]

No he's been a POS since I was pregnant. When I was with him I clearly had as much integrity as he did, I did all kinds of idiotic stuff.

You were with an addict. Someone who'd been an addict for years at that point, according to you. Someone who refused to get sober. And you made a baby with that man.

Its funny How much a person changes sometimes when they become a mother, funny how soooo often the 'Father' doesn't change and a woman (in this modern age) is reprimanded for wanting to have nothing to do with the guy (who still acts like a teenager) For the SAKE OF HER CHILD.

But he's sober now. Has been as long as there's been a custody order in effect. So clearly HE has changed as well. Right? He wouldn't get sober for YOU, but it sure sounds like he got sober for the SAKE OF HIS CHILD.

The courts have declared him to be a fit and proper parent. Being p*ssed off about that and continuing to argue the point is a waste of time.

 

[InfantCustody]

No, but I think that you all are over Dramatizing the possible out come, I hear what you all are saying, its not that I don't believe you, I think it happends, but there are many different out comes with many different cases. Many, you all are saying lose of custody is what is to be expected period. but thats not so and we all know that.

If I am served at my last address, and than I am not there, here or there or anywhere.. Than where am I? years go by I'm found I am brought to court, child would no be taken from me over night, no.

Do you know who is MOST LIKELY to lose in court? The one who walks in with the attitude of "I can't lose!"

And yes, if you take off with the kid, when they find you they will place him IMMEDIATELY with his Father or social services. They don't allow children in jail.

IF your son is saying such horrible things are done or said at his Father's house, then you need to PUT YOUR SON IN THERAPY and IF THE THERAPIST finds that your son is being emotionally or physically abused, the therapist can make a DSS report, go to court, recommend a custody evaluator, etc. Of course the therapist could also tell if you were feeding the child a boat load of lies about his Father as well...

Perhaps your concern in your son being in therapy is what your son would tell them about YOU??

 

[stealth2]

Because many women believe that because they own the Golden Uterus, they have superior rights to the child.

This chick has her grape-hatted head up that Golden Uterus.

 

[majomom1]

No, no, no that doesn't just happen, especially with his history, living conditions ect. I don't think so. There would first be a whole lot of court dates, witch is $. Also I would first be forced back to live here. Custody doesn't just get thrown over to him... give me a break people.

Yes it will... if you take off and he has to find you. The court will give him custody because you have already shown that you will disregard a court order and leave.

 

[InfantCustody]

This chick has her grape-hatted head up that Golden Uterus.

I actually read a website the other day that compared children to "fruit of the land" and said only women should have rights to children because they came from "her property." I think maybe this woman had posted on that website.

If she thinks she will retain custody, or even visitation, after pulling a stunt like that she is in for a RUDE awakening.

 

[Countrygirl07]

If you run away with your child when they find you it is very likely that custody will be taken and given to the father. That is a risk I wouldn't want to take. If its that bad then you have to stick it out until something can be proven.

 

[>Charlotte<]

What's worse? Dad having visitation, or Dad having full custody?

Even if there was only a slim chance that you'd be found if you ran, the fact that you are willing to risk even a slim chance that your precious child could end up in the custody of such a horrible person makes even the suggestion of running completely idiotic.

You're not thinking about what's best for your child.

If you try to think like an adult, you might be inspired to act like one.

 

[VyRoses]

You were with an addict. Someone who'd been an addict for years at that point, according to you. Someone who refused to get sober. And you made a baby with that man.

Yes well I had my issues as well as I already said at the time don't get confused ppl, if you aren't following my posts proporly, than don't post.



But he's sober now. Has been as long as there's been a custody order in effect. So clearly HE has changed as well. Right? He wouldn't get sober for YOU, but it sure sounds like he got sober for the SAKE OF HIS CHILD.

The courts have declared him to be a fit and proper parent. Being p*ssed off about that and continuing to argue the point is a waste of time.

no, actually he got sober when I moved somewhere else in town a few years ago, it took him months to find me.

Yes very good for him that he got sober, Well he got rid of the habit but not the abusive personality And No, he got sober because he lives with him mommy and daddy and they were going to kick him out if he didn't.

Coming from the threats of his mother who introduced him to smoking weed when he was 11yrs old.