Personal website non-custoidal kids to contact father

[dlw99]

Of course, it is not always Moms that pull these stunts.

Agreed. Parental alienation can happen with Mom or Dad. Sad.

 

[momofrose]

Are you asking me if I've done nothing about it or are you making a disguised judgmental statement?

Yes, I have done something about it... For many years!!!!!

Lets keep this thread within the bounds of my original question.

Really??? What legally have you done in EIGHT years to see your children per the court orders?

Why are you wasting time and energy setting up a stupid website to chat with your childern when you shoud be focusing of seeing your children?

My question was not judgmental, my question was clear - and so far you have not answer it (though other posters have asked the same thing).

I also don't understand the purpsoe of this website - if mom puts you on speaker phone, then what is the difference between that and her having access to this proposed website?

 

[dlw99]

Really??? What legally have you done in EIGHT years to see your children per the court orders?

Why are you wasting time and energy setting up a stupid website to chat with your childern when you shoud be focusing of seeing your children?

My question was not judgmental, my question was clear - and so far you have not answer it (though other posters have asked the same thing).

I also don't understand the purpsoe of this website - if mom puts you on speaker phone, then what is the difference between that and her having access to this proposed website?

Wow, you called his website idea "stupid" and you don't think you're being judgmental?

There is a lot you can do on a website that you can't do on a phone.

It's not stupid to buy a domain name and set up a site for your kids, especially when other parent won't let you see them.

It would be like starting an online diary with data. They could also have their own e-mail accounts: morgan@morgan&chelsea.com. They could attach scanned copies of their report cards, photos of them playing soccer, etc...

What I'm wondering, in addition to the eight years they've been gone, is what Dad has been doing in the six months since they've been back.

chad - we can't continue to speculate.

 

[gr8rn]

Wow, you called his website idea "stupid" and you don't think you're being judgmental?

There is a lot you can do on a website that you can't do on a phone.

It's not stupid to buy a domain name and set up a site for your kids, especially when other parent won't let you see them.

I think a site like "morgan&chelsea.com" is cute, will make them feel special and show them Dad cares. It would be like starting an online diary with data. They could also have their own e-mail accounts: morgan@morgan&chelsea.com. They could attach scanned copies of their report cards, photos of them playing soccer, etc...

What I'm wondering, in addition to the eight years they've been gone, is what Dad has been doing in the six months since they've been back.

chad - we can't continue to speculate.

You are a moron. How is OP going to get this super secret website and super secret password to the kids? Hmm? How is that going to happen? Mom MONITORS the calls. OP needs to focus on the important things he CAN do, not go around the obstacle (Mom) to get the super secret website information to the kids with the super secret password. How do you propose he get the information to the kids? Secret code? Dumb idea. Just dumb. OP should be encouraged to work through the court system and enforce the court orders he has, and has done nothing about for 8 years.

 

[dlw99]

You are a moron. How is OP going to get this super secret website and super secret password to the kids? Hmm? How is that going to happen? Mom MONITORS the calls. OP needs to focus on the important things he CAN do, not go around the obstacle (Mom) to get the super secret website information to the kids with the super secret password. How do you propose he get the information to the kids? Secret code? Dumb idea. Just dumb. OP should be encouraged to work through the court system and enforce the court orders he has, and has done nothing about for 8 years.

No wonder the poor guy isn't responding.....sigh.

 

[stealth2]

And *my* post was reported? Seriously? I was actually pretty nice in that one, too.

 

[stealth2]

You are a moron. How is OP going to get this super secret website and super secret password to the kids? Hmm? How is that going to happen? Mom MONITORS the calls. OP needs to focus on the important things he CAN do, not go around the obstacle (Mom) to get the super secret website information to the kids with the super secret password. How do you propose he get the information to the kids? Secret code? Dumb idea. Just dumb. OP should be encouraged to work through the court system and enforce the court orders he has, and has done nothing about for 8 years.

I'ma gonna quote this before dlw decides to report you, too. I said the same thing (albeit more politely), yet my post is gone.

 

[stealth2]

No wonder the poor guy isn't responding.....sigh.

You need to FOCUS.

 

[dlw99]

You need to FOCUS.

Focus on what, all the insults and hostilities hurled at this guy?

You may want to stop contributing to this culture of mean-spirited/bitterness on this forum, or at least stop telling me what to do.

I haven't violated any rules here. I am taking this guy at his word, since he has been consistent with his statements so far.

 

[momofrose]

Wow, you called his website idea "stupid" and you don't think you're being judgmental?

There is a lot you can do on a website that you can't do on a phone.

It's not stupid to buy a domain name and set up a site for your kids, especially when other parent won't let you see them.

It would be like starting an online diary with data. They could also have their own e-mail accounts: morgan@morgan&chelsea.com. They could attach scanned copies of their report cards, photos of them playing soccer, etc...

What I'm wondering, in addition to the eight years they've been gone, is what Dad has been doing in the six months since they've been back.

chad - we can't continue to speculate.

I said the website was stupid - yes - given the circumstances it is. It is a cowards way out. I want to know why this guy is not coming back and answering as to what legan action has been taken regarding the (supposed)fact that (he says) the CP will not allow him to exercise the court ordered parenting time.

It is a straight forward question, with (so far) no answer from OP. So before you start taking this guy totally at his word, maybe you need to read between the lines and ask more poignant questions. If the OP comes back with an answer to this VALID question, I am sure he can get sound advice - until then...

 

[dlw99]

I said the website was stupid - yes - given the circumstances it is. It is a cowards way out. I want to know why this guy is not coming back and answering as to what legan action has been taken regarding the (supposed)fact that (he says) the CP will not allow him to exercise the court ordered parenting time.

It is a straight forward question, with (so far) no answer from OP. So before you start taking this guy totally at his word, maybe you need to read between the lines and ask more poignant questions. If the OP comes back with an answer to this VALID question, I am sure he can get sound advice - until then...

"Quote:
Originally Posted by momofrose
I have to ask - it has been EIGHT years since you have seen your children? You have a court order that says you get them everyt summer, yet, you are saying she has denied these parenting times every single year for EIGHT years and have done nothing about it??

Are you asking me if I've done nothing about it or are you making a disguised judgmental statement?

Yes, I have done something about it... For many years!!!!!Lets keep this thread within the bounds of my original question."



He came here to ask about his website idea because, reading btwn the lines, he is a caring father who is desperate to communicate with his children.

It was largely agreed that his idea was a bad one, so he hasn't come back.

I don't see him as cowardly or stupid, but I do see you as having rushed to judgment.

You accuse him of saying he's done nothing for eight years even after he clearly answered that he tried "for many years".

That being said, I too wonder why there's been no movement - he apparently has not even seen a lawyer yet, and the children have been back for six months.

 

[momofrose]

"Quote:
Originally Posted by momofrose
I have to ask - it has been EIGHT years since you have seen your children? You have a court order that says you get them everyt summer, yet, you are saying she has denied these parenting times every single year for EIGHT years and have done nothing about it??

Are you asking me if I've done nothing about it or are you making a disguised judgmental statement?

Yes, I have done something about it... For many years!!!!!Lets keep this thread within the bounds of my original question."



He came here to ask about his website idea because, reading btwn the lines, he is a caring father who is desperate to communicate with his children.

It was largely agreed that his idea was a bad one, so he hasn't come back.

I don't see him as cowardly or stupid, but I do see you as having rushed to judgment.

You accuse him of saying he's done nothing for eight years even after he clearly answered that he tried "for many years".

That being said, I too wonder why there's been no movement - he apparently has not even seen a lawyer yet, and the children have been back for six months.

Yep - he said he has "been trying for many years" - what does that mean? Seriously...I highly doubt he has gone through the legal system and even with the children"back" for 6 months has done nothing - Yes - it is cowardly or at the very least - lazy - I am done with this thread.

 

[dlw99]

Yep - he said he has "been trying for many years" - what does that mean? Seriously...I highly doubt he has gone through the legal system and even with the children"back" for 6 months has done nothing - Yes - it is cowardly or at the very least - lazy - I am done with this thread.

Agreed. Can't speculate forever. Have a great day.

 

[CJane]

For dlw... clearly what you missed in my posts re: privacy with electronics, was where I said "in my house".

They can definitely post on facebook or whatever with someone else's phone, or my phone, or their own phones, or from their laptops when I'm not home. But they know/understand that I can and will randomly log into those accounts and monitor their activity. Same with their email accounts. Same with their phones.

I would not prevent my children from communicating with their father via the web - but if it was going to happen in MY house or on MY time, then you bet I'd have the password and access.

If it only happened outside my house? Well then, it's out of my purview and therefore nothing I can do about it. But I sure wouldn't encourage my kids to be sneaky and lie about it to their other parent.

 

[SESmama]

Asking the kids to sneak around the other parent creates additional bad blood where tensions are already high (thank you CJane for making my point better than I did).