Daycare Demands

[proud_parent]

In what scenario does it make sense to call StepMom FIRST?

Sensible or not... I can tell you that when my stepdaughter is ill, the school does call me first, even though my husband is the primary emergency contact. The school secretary has discovered that I am not only closest to the school (5 miles; Dad: 50 miles; Mom: 315 miles) but also most likely to answer the phone.

Just last week, my husband received his first phone call from Kiddo's school in over three years. Kiddo was vomiting and needed to be picked up. Our office manager and I were both in closed door meetings, so the call went straight through to my voice mail. When I didn't phone back within a few minutes, the secretary THEN phoned Dad.

 

[mistoffolees]

Sensible or not... I can tell you that when my stepdaughter is ill, the school does call me first, even though my husband is the primary emergency contact. The school secretary has discovered that I am not only closest to the school (5 miles; Dad: 50 miles; Mom: 315 miles) but also most likely to answer the phone.

Just last week, my husband received his first phone call from Kiddo's school in over three years. Kiddo was vomiting and needed to be picked up. Our office manager and I were both in closed door meetings, so the call went straight through to my voice mail. When I didn't phone back within a few minutes, the secretary THEN phoned Dad.

That's OK when the parents and stepparents get along, but as standard practice, it's not going to fly.

 

[GoodDadtoBK]

In what scenario does it make sense to call StepMom FIRST?

I just want to make it clear that I DID list mom as a first person (after myself) to contact in an emergency. After my daughter's mother I listed my wife, then my mother. The school asked for three other people to call, that is what I did. If I did something wrong I would like to know so I do not make the same mistake in the future.

 

[mistoffolees]

I just want to make it clear that I DID list mom as a first person (after myself) to contact in an emergency. After my daughter's mother I listed my wife, then my mother. The school asked for three other people to call, that is what I did. If I did something wrong I would like to know so I do not make the same mistake in the future.

I think you did it just right.

 

[TinkerBelleLuvr]

There are some people in this world that no matter what you do, it will never be right. This sounds like your X.

I strongly suggest two things:
1. a journal to list all interactions with mom
2. co-parenting sessions with a professional to figure out how you two will interact for the next 16 years.

Worse case, go back to court and give your list of behaviours and ask the court to ORDER it.

 

[CJane]

I just want to make it clear that I DID list mom as a first person (after myself) to contact in an emergency. After my daughter's mother I listed my wife, then my mother. The school asked for three other people to call, that is what I did. If I did something wrong I would like to know so I do not make the same mistake in the future.

I wasn't responding to your choice to list your wife. I was responding to LizzieB's assertion that you "should" have listed your wife BEFORE your ex. THAT is what I have an issue with.