Well, yes, I came for legal advise. I got put down so much. I cant force him to be a father can I? Its kinda hard when I really dont even know how to get in contact with him. I realize now that asking lay people who may or may not have been in my situation for how I should handle the situation was a big mistake. Your right, drama, you are no better than the bullies that cause teenagers to have bad self esteem. No one gave me any advise other than the obvious fact that his sperm created her and now he gets a title whether he wants it or not, and I am a bad guy for not putting her in harms way and steering clear of him. I was more concerned about making him pay for something he doesnt want. He has not contacted me and I dont want his money, that was the basis of the original intentions here. I think that step parents and adoptive parents are great cause they chose that special child to be their own. I just wish you could realize how your bullying can affect someone. I wouldnt trade my daughter for the world. My husband wouldnt trade my daughter for the world. Her "father" obviously doesnt give a crap. Or maybe he is trying to track me down and hurt me for taking his money which I had no part in. He knows how to get a hold of my mother and has not done so. End of story. Have a wonderful day, I am going to leave this farse of a forum and go be with MY daughter. You all can go be holier than thou with the next person who may need a gentler approach than what your bitterness has to offer.
Sweetheart, we've ALL gone through crap like this.
Some of us have dealt with less crap. Some of us have had equal crap. And some of us have dealt with much more crap than anyone should ever have to deal with.
We've been there.
And many of us learned the very hard way that not only do stepparents have no rights, but the courts can really slam the custodial parent if that parent allows the step to usurp the other legal parent's role.
Believe me. I'm a stepparent!
You'd be FAR better off actually sticking around, and spending some hours reading old posts. You'll learn a lot and you'll see that a) you have NOT been bullied on this thread (trust me, you haven't - you just didn't like what you were told), and b) once you pick someone to be a parent - you're committing to that person for the rest of the child's life. Unless you go ahead with a stepparent adoption.
That's just how it is.
So it's up to you - you can stick around and educate yourself, or you can take a tantrum and stomp away.
Your choice.
