Average visitation schedule

[crazyeights]

What - it's NOT a drphil moment? You don't get it both ways. And actually, I don't really comment much on drphil-esque posts. I post anecdotal stuff myself, and don't really have a problem with that in most circumstances. So you're barking up the wrong tree, sweetpea.

Sharing an actual "lived through" experience doesn't necessarily have to be a drphil moment, nor is it a legal comment. Whatever it may be, I will carry on....thank you.

 

[kmf3066]

crazyeights...I'm not sure how to turn on PM's. I added you as a contact and friend...hopefully that is enough.

CJane...Niceness really had nothing to do with leaving the house. Sanity for all involved did. I can't afford the house. I right now couldn't even afford the taxes on the house, so I figured let him have it. There was no way I could live there and maintain the "house guest" story to the kids. They would have seen the tension. As long as the kids can still go there and have normal time with their dad, I'm good. This isn't something that happened overnight and the kids like her. I am hoping by the time they realize her and dad are more than boss/secretary, landlord/tenant it won't be so bad for them.

Thank you for the round about figure on your divorce. That makes me a little less scared. I'm not expecting a huge battle. He doesn't want custody. He can see the kids whenever,where ever he wishes. I will give him what ever assets he wants, I just want to make sure that between the two of us we find a way to provide them with a roof, food, and a safe place to be when I have to be at work.

 

[crazyeights]

Go to your profile then to "edit options". I believe this is were you can turn on you PM's...

 

[stealth2]

I will give him what ever assets he wants,

Uuuh... don't give away the farm, girl! It's all nice and fine to want to work together for the sake of the kids, but you also have to think about your own future. You are legally entitled to a portion of the marital assets - you should think carefully before just giving them all away.

 

[kmf3066]

Thanks stealth...I will be careful. I am going to get an attorney to at least advise me what is best/fair. I haven't told him he can have all the assets...well maybe I did. I was just agreeing as he listed stuff until he wouldn't watch the kids some while I worked and wouldn't help me pay the sitter. Then we got to the visitation and I didn't think it was fair. He has drawn up a lot of papers for the assets and stuff but I haven't, and now, won't sign anything. My main concern was signing the visitation stuff and making it permanent.

 

[single317dad]

I am going to get an attorney to at least advise me what is best/fair.

You, as mother to his children, confidante, and caretaker of his home, were an important part of his ability to build the family's asset portfolio during your marriage. What's "fair" is for you to retain a significant portion of those assets that you worked so hard to help build, and for Dad to contribute a portion of his income similar to what he did during the marriage toward supporting the children. Courts have ruled as such time and time again.