Dispute over 4th July holiday

[Ohiogal]

I got them from a site that had you click on a year to see the calendar for that year, but it only went to 2014.

Either the site I went to was wrong, or the site you went to was wrong.

You are wrong. I have a 2012 calendar in front of me. July 4, 2012 is on a WEDNESDAY. If it were not leap year it would be on a Tuesday. If a date is on Monday this year it becomes Wednesday next year and Thursday the year after.

 

[Zigner]

Boy are you incorrect. July 4, 2012 is on a Wednesday (leap year don't you know). July 4, 2013 is on a Thursday. July 4, 2014 is on a Friday.
What calendar system are YOU using? How did you determine such idiocy as days moving BACKWARDS?

LDiJ was already suitably flogged

 

[Ohiogal]

LDiJ was already suitably flogged

Sorry. Was reading transcripts and got here late. Dang.

But I was a bit harsher than I should have been with my use of the word idiocy. Apologies. But days do NOT jump around like she said.

 

[Just Blue]

Except this IS Mom's time. No matter how Dad is looking at it.

Still not a hill to die on...IMO. Unless one has a special need to tune into the FW on the 4th??

 

[CJane]

Still not a hill to die on...IMO. Unless one has a special need to tune into the FW on the 4th??

I don't think it's mom's hill to die on. It's Dad's. And if he were here, posted the language that Mom posted, indicated that she'd properly notified him of her vacation time, etc, and he STILL wanted that evening?

I don't think he'd be told that Mom's being selfish for not giving it up to him.

 

[DecisionTime]

Still not a hill to die on...IMO. Unless one has a special need to tune into the FW on the 4th??

You know, you're right, it's not a hill to die on. But is it right that I should give up my vacation time because he squeals loud enough? It's the biggest fireworks show of the year, and I've been looking forward to doing it with her and her granddad, as a wonderful memory for all of us.

On the other hand, she's only 4. I'll get my chance again in two years (albeit without her granddad, and assuming we get this clause straightened out). I could concede the time, but then I don't get the opportunity to do what I'd planned with my daughter on my vacation time.

Ex would never see this as a concession on my part, but as evidence of his superior intellect and browbeating ability, so it's not even going to help smooth future waters for coparenting. Part of the reason he thinks he should have the time is because the 4th is all about showing her how people like me (feminist, liberal) don't understand the correct conservative patriotic meaning of the day, which he intends to instill in her marrow so that she becomes nothing like the morally reprehensible person I am. That's just a tiny piece of today's diatribe. I'm not much inclined to go out of my way to be nice, ya know?

Now I'm venting, and this is a legal site. I have lots to think about. I appreciate all the perspectives. Keep 'em coming, if there's more.

 

[Just Blue]

I don't think it's mom's hill to die on. It's Dad's. And if he were here, posted the language that Mom posted, indicated that she'd properly notified him of her vacation time, etc, and he STILL wanted that evening?

I don't think he'd be told that Mom's being selfish for not giving it up to him.

My personal opinion would remain the same. *To me* this is just petty.

 

[mistoffolees]

You know, you're right, it's not a hill to die on. But is it right that I should give up my vacation time because he squeals loud enough? It's the biggest fireworks show of the year, and I've been looking forward to doing it with her and her granddad, as a wonderful memory for all of us.

On the other hand, she's only 4. I'll get my chance again in two years (albeit without her granddad, and assuming we get this clause straightened out). I could concede the time, but then I don't get the opportunity to do what I'd planned with my daughter on my vacation time.

Ex would never see this as a concession on my part, but as evidence of his superior intellect and browbeating ability, so it's not even going to help smooth future waters for coparenting. Part of the reason he thinks he should have the time is because the 4th is all about showing her how people like me (feminist, liberal) don't understand the correct conservative patriotic meaning of the day, which he intends to instill in her marrow so that she becomes nothing like the morally reprehensible person I am. That's just a tiny piece of today's diatribe. I'm not much inclined to go out of my way to be nice, ya know?

Now I'm venting, and this is a legal site. I have lots to think about. I appreciate all the perspectives. Keep 'em coming, if there's more.

What are you complaining about? Most people agreed that you can start your vacation immediately when the Holiday ends.

 

[LdiJ]

What are you complaining about? Most people agreed that you can start your vacation immediately when the Holiday ends.

But then also told her to go ahead and give dad the evening....in the spirit of co-parenting, and she is explaining WHY it won't help the co-parenting.

 

[mistoffolees]

But then also told her to go ahead and give dad the evening....in the spirit of co-parenting, and she is explaining WHY it won't help the co-parenting.

I only saw one person who recommended that.

 

[chronicle]

OP- I have a similar ex (one to whom my giving in on a point does NOT further the spirit of co-parenting, it simply gives him a superior feeling, and he just screams louder the next time) It's like giving in to a tantruming child- give in once, they'll scream louder the next time.

HOWEVER... as much as it feels like that, my atty has told me again and again that my record (and I keep it all on record via email- never agreeing to anything in person) of cooperation will go a long way toward helping me win the battles that do matter- the ones that go before a judge. Just some legal advice from my atty- it might help you to keep a cool head and ignore his "win" attitude, if he shows one. I always do.

 

[Just Blue]

I only saw one person who recommended that.

And that would be me!!