Ohiogal
Queen Bee
You have just jumped to assuming that OP is out of the marital home. He didn't say that.Guys and Gals....
All of this info is great, but the OP still hasn't come back to tell us how long he has been out of the marital home, where they are in the divorce process, and whether or not temporary orders have already been made.
If they are far enough along that mom has temporary possession of the house and temporary custody of the children, a lot of this advice could be moot. If the next hearing is the final hearing, a no paramour clause could be moot as well.