Is it illegal for my 19 yo daughter and her 17 yo boyfriend to hold hands at school?

[Alex1176]

But what it's really about is whether the parents of a 17 year old have the right to say, You are not allowed to have contact with my minor child. And they do. Holding hands is just a symptom - it's not the entire situation.

Can you please provide a link to a type of RO that forbids an adult to contact with a minor above the age of consent, without harassing, harm, threats or something similar?
Thank you.

 

[mistoffolees]

Can you please provide a link to a type of RO that forbids an adult to contact with a minor above the age of consent, without harassing, harm, threats or something similar?
Thank you.

You're not paying attention to what cbg is telling you. She never said that the parents could get a restraining order. Rather, she said that a 17 year old has to do what the parents tell him/her to do - no ifs, ands, or buts.

If the parents tell the 17 year old to stop holding hands with the 19 year old, they can do so. And they can enforce it with any means in their power - grounding the kid, taking away privileges, taking the car away, taking away their allowance, removing the door of their bedroom, taking all of their possessions except the clothes they're wearing, and so on. In some states, they can spank the 17 year old if they wish. The parents have the absolute right to demand that the 17 year old follow their orders.

It has already been established that they can't get a RO against the 19 year old (unless I missed something in the OK statutes), but that doesn't mean that they can't enforce their will on the 17 year old.

 

[Alex1176]

You're not paying attention to what cbg is telling you. She never said that the parents could get a restraining order. Rather, she said that a 17 year old has to do what the parents tell him/her to do - no ifs, ands, or buts.

If the parents tell the 17 year old to stop holding hands with the 19 year old, they can do so. And they can enforce it with any means in their power - grounding the kid, taking away privileges, taking the car away, taking away their allowance, removing the door of their bedroom, taking all of their possessions except the clothes they're wearing, and so on. In some states, they can spank the 17 year old if they wish. The parents have the absolute right to demand that the 17 year old follow their orders.

It has already been established that they can't get a RO against the 19 year old (unless I missed something in the OK statutes), but that doesn't mean that they can't enforce their will on the 17 year old.

I'm paying attention very well. There is no legal punishment (jail time, probation etc) against the 17 years old if he not obey his parents rulings, in this case. We are in legal forum.
Off course they can take away his privileges, no body said something different. They can take the privileges even without a reason. There is no low that the minor needs to have a car, money, internet, or a separate room.
All that I say is that they can not enforce it with the help of the authorities (RO, jail, fines etc).

 

[CdwJava]

If all that can be shown is that junior is holding hands and chatting with the 19 year old girl, then this is not a court issue. No restraining order, no criminal charges, no heavy hand of the law will come down to smite the girl.

The parents can discipline junior, they can rant and rave about respect to the girl, and they can even bluff and bluster. But, unless it can be shown that the girl is somehow putting junior at risk or encouraging him to become delinquent in some tangible way, a legal solution is not what fits here.

I had an issue of an 18 year old girl taking my then 16 year old son to a party where there was alcohol, and he got caught drinking by my compadres. She and I had a sit down. I explained that I did not expect her to be his guardian nor did I expect her to snitch on him. I DID, however, expect her to respect my rules and my wishes and not to transport my son to a place where she knew there would be drinking. After a few tears and an apology, she agreed, and we've been fine ever since. She is still a friend of my son a year and a half later, she is still welcome here, and she has adhered to my wishes going so far as to bring him home when alcohol arrived at one location. No courts, no restraining orders, no threats of arrest.

Sometimes a good heart to heart beats all the court orders in the world.