Counseling and Issues!!!!

[lilmansmom]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)?

As stated in a previous thread, my child is now in counseling due to the issues he is having now that he has to see his absent father. I have the dr report that our child told him he is afraid of his father (he doesn't know him) he is not sleeping at night anymore, his grades dropped dramatically, he gets sick to his stomach and headaches now when we tell him his visits are coming up. I had to reschedule our supervised visit because of this. Is this enough evidence for the judge to see, and even coming from a DOCTOR, that it is not safe nor in the childs best interest to have these visits continue? I have all th documents from the doctor to prove in court.

 

[Zigner]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)?

As stated in a previous thread, my child is now in counseling due to the issues he is having now that he has to see his absent father. I have the dr report that our child told him he is afraid of his father (he doesn't know him) he is not sleeping at night anymore, his grades dropped dramatically, he gets sick to his stomach and headaches now when we tell him his visits are coming up. I had to reschedule our supervised visit because of this. Is this enough evidence for the judge to see, and even coming from a DOCTOR, that it is not safe nor in the childs best interest to have these visits continue? I have all th documents from the doctor to prove in court.

Please keep all your related questions together - don't create new threads

ETA: On second thought - don't. You've received answers in your other threads. You aren't going to get anything new.

 

[Ohiogal]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)?

As stated in a previous thread, my child is now in counseling due to the issues he is having now that he has to see his absent father. I have the dr report that our child told him he is afraid of his father (he doesn't know him) he is not sleeping at night anymore, his grades dropped dramatically, he gets sick to his stomach and headaches now when we tell him his visits are coming up. I had to reschedule our supervised visit because of this. Is this enough evidence for the judge to see, and even coming from a DOCTOR, that it is not safe nor in the childs best interest to have these visits continue? I have all th documents from the doctor to prove in court.

The doctor report? Really? How old is the child again? Nope. Not enough. it is hearsay. Subpoena the doctor so that dad's attorney can cross examine him. The documents mean NOTHING. Where were you during this counseling session? How many sessions have their been?

Good job on alienation. You and your ex need to grow up. Big time.

 

[mariasusa]

Sorry, but your child is probably not feeling safe because of your reactions and very expressive attitudes towards his dad. When you can get over that, or hide it and help your child step forwards towards his dad, child will be a lot happier.

There are still supervised visits to complete. Child is safe there. Eventually, no matter how difficult you make this, dad is going to have supervised visits. It is pretty clear, and I think will be to a judge, this is more about your feelings, not your childs.

 

[lilmansmom]

Please keep all your related questions together - don't create new threads

ETA: On second thought - don't. You've received answers in your other threads. You aren't going to get anything new.

this is new issues and new concerns!!!! i haven't got answers to this

 

[Ohiogal]

Sorry, but your child is probably not feeling safe because of your reactions and very expressive attitudes towards his dad. When you can get over that, or hide it and help your child step forwards towards his dad, child will be a lot happier.

There are still supervised visits to complete. Child is safe there. Eventually, no matter how difficult you make this, dad is going to have supervised visits. It is pretty clear, and I think will be to a judge, this is more about your feelings, not your childs.

Dad has supervised visits. Dad is going to UNSUPERVISED eventually. And maybe even custody if lilmansmom keeps it up.

 

[lilmansmom]

Dad has supervised visits. Dad is going to UNSUPERVISED eventually. And maybe even custody if lilmansmom keeps it up.

He has had the doctors visit once when docotr came to diagnose him with anxiety and depression!!!! he has had one counseling session. The child is 7 so he is old enough. The supervised visit was supposed to be sunday. This had to be rescheduled due to all of this!!! This is extremely affecting our child in a negative way when even a doctor is diagnosing him these things.

 

[Zigner]

He has had the doctors visit once when docotr came to diagnose him with anxiety and depression!!!! he has had one counseling session. The child is 7 so he is old enough. The supervised visit was supposed to be sunday. This had to be rescheduled due to all of this!!! This is extremely affecting our child in a negative way when even a doctor is diagnosing him these things.

Great way to not cooperate with the visit. I suspect that you are going to get slammed in court.

 

[lilmansmom]

Great way to not cooperate with the visit. I suspect that you are going to get slammed in court.

My ex agreed to reschedule because my mom told him he was sick and didn't want him being in the cold weather. I did not screw with the order, it's in his best interest and look at what is happening to our child. How is that good for any child?

 

[stepmom38]

I've been reading this forum for years, and I very rarely comment, but really...wow. I've read this and all your previous threads, and I'd just like to say that...

1. You are quite possibly the stupidest person on the planet.

2. I sincerely hope that your ex gets full custody of your child because of your games and I also hope that YOU end up getting supervised visitation.

So just keep doing what you're doing and let us all know how that works out for ya, ok?

 

[AkersTile]

You need to encourage your son's relationship with his Dad. It doesn't matter if you think he is the biggest loser on the planet. He is your son's father and genetically half of your son. Keep trying to alienate your son from his Dad, and I can easily see a judge giving Dad custody and you supervised visitation. People, even children, have to do things they don't want to do every day. You chose to open your legs to this man, now grow up and stop acting like a child. At least to me, over half the problem with kiddos depression and anxiety is caused by you!

 

[ecmst12]

Anxiety and depression are normal considering the stress of getting to know his father. The solution is to keep the child in therapy and help him to work through his feelings as he goes through the reintroduction process. The solution is NOT discarding all possibilities of a relationship with his father because he is showing signs of stress. Stress can be managed. A relationship with his father is worth the trouble.

 

[lilmansmom]

I've been reading this forum for years, and I very rarely comment, but really...wow. I've read this and all your previous threads, and I'd just like to say that...

1. You are quite possibly the stupidest person on the planet.

2. I sincerely hope that your ex gets full custody of your child because of your games and I also hope that YOU end up getting supervised visitation.

So just keep doing what you're doing and let us all know how that works out for ya, ok?

I dont need the mean comments, my son is going through counseling and is depressed and yet i am to blame? I try and keep my kids healthy and this has made him turn upside down. no judge can truly say this is in his best interests. grades have dropped, attitude is not the same, anger depression anxiety, fear of having to go and see this man? really?

 

[AnotherTenant]

grades have dropped, attitude is not the same, anger depression anxiety, fear of having to go and see this man? really?

I doubt that you're going to listen to me any more than you've listened to the others, but I'll give it a shot:

YOU ARE CREATING THE PROBLEMS YOU LIST ABOVE. If you tell the child how great it is that he's going to see his dad and how much fun he's going to have, then he'll look forward to the visits. By telling the child how awful the circumstances are, how terrible it is that he must spend time with this awful person (of whom your child is 1/2 BTW) and that he's going to have a miserable time and not be safe and THE EFFING SKY IS FALLING, then he's going to believe what you tell him and suffer from anxiety, anger, depression, and fear.

So, in the end, it is YOU that is not in your child's best interest.

 

[ecmst12]

Best thing you can do? Meet with the child's therapist, tell him that the court has ordered these visits and you must comply with the court order, and ask what YOU can do to reduce the child's stress surrounding the visits and make them as easy on him as possible. Also ask what activities/statements you should AVOID because they will make the child more anxious or depressed. You need to learn how to facilitate this relationship or you are going to lose custody.