What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Michigan
I am CP. NCP filed for custody and there is an investigation pending. It's been 9 weeks since meeting with FOC investigator, still waiting on her recommendation - feels a bit cruel.
Ex was told in first meeting with referee to not discuss adult issues with child, as he's been known to do (scheduling, custody/court matters). Since that time, he again called our son and asked him if he wanted to come over early, but "only if mom allows it". My attorney wrote his attorney a letter asking him to remind his client to not discuss matters that the adults should be handling with the minor, as the court frowns upon putting the child in the middle.
Thanksgiving is my holiday with son this year. Last night when he came home from weekend with dad, he asked if he could go to dad's instead this Thanksgiving (for two "or three overnights if you're feeling extremely generous"). He told me he'd discussed it with Dad, and "he and Dad would be very thankful if I'd allow it" as they'd both like it. Went on to tell me Dad wants him there, etc.
I resent that Dad has entertained this discussion with our son!
I have two schools of thought on this. One is to be the bigger person for my son's sake since he's got his hopes up and has wrongly been put in the middle of what should have been an adult scheduling discussion once again. The other thought process is that to allow him to go might have it look like it didn't matter to me (which is certainly not the case), that I was condoning Dad's approach.
At 200 bucks an hour for attorney calls, I was hoping to get feedback here instead of paying my attorney for his input in a specific call although I'd certainly share it with him in an upcoming conversation.
I am CP. NCP filed for custody and there is an investigation pending. It's been 9 weeks since meeting with FOC investigator, still waiting on her recommendation - feels a bit cruel.
Ex was told in first meeting with referee to not discuss adult issues with child, as he's been known to do (scheduling, custody/court matters). Since that time, he again called our son and asked him if he wanted to come over early, but "only if mom allows it". My attorney wrote his attorney a letter asking him to remind his client to not discuss matters that the adults should be handling with the minor, as the court frowns upon putting the child in the middle.
Thanksgiving is my holiday with son this year. Last night when he came home from weekend with dad, he asked if he could go to dad's instead this Thanksgiving (for two "or three overnights if you're feeling extremely generous"). He told me he'd discussed it with Dad, and "he and Dad would be very thankful if I'd allow it" as they'd both like it. Went on to tell me Dad wants him there, etc.
I resent that Dad has entertained this discussion with our son!
I have two schools of thought on this. One is to be the bigger person for my son's sake since he's got his hopes up and has wrongly been put in the middle of what should have been an adult scheduling discussion once again. The other thought process is that to allow him to go might have it look like it didn't matter to me (which is certainly not the case), that I was condoning Dad's approach.
At 200 bucks an hour for attorney calls, I was hoping to get feedback here instead of paying my attorney for his input in a specific call although I'd certainly share it with him in an upcoming conversation.
