Moral clause

[Zigner]

Yet, y'all want to get hitched and bring a bunch more kids in to the mix. <spit>

 

[tbraquet]

The bf doesn't have any kids at home. He one son and his son is grown and lives out of town. So it will only be my kids.

 

[Antigone*]

The bf doesn't have any kids at home. He one son and his son is grown and lives out of town. So it will only be my kids.

You have limited resources; either sign the darn agreement, get an attorney to help you negotiate different terms, or negotiate different terms on your own. Those are your choices.

Whining is not an option.

 

[Zigner]

The bf doesn't have any kids at home. He one son and his son is grown and lives out of town. So it will only be my kids.

Married people usually do the nasty.

 

[Antigone*]

Married people usually do the nasty.

the green tea just went up my nose I really should know better!

 

[Ohiogal]

I would love to get an attorney, but I can't afford one. I have 4 kids and very little income. The child support I get and the income I make barely pay the bills now. And I would not ask my bf to pay for the attorney either, One it is not his divorce, 2 he can't afford to pay for an attorney.

Then prepare to say goodbye to him until the divorce is over. Quite frankly, I have gotten no paramour orders that completely exclude ANY romantic interest of either party around the children while the divorce is pending. From 10 to 6 and prohibiting sex? That is a very loose restriction.

If you want to commit adultery, you shouldn't bring your children into it.

 

[tuffbrk]

Check with Legal Aid. If you don't qualify you can ask if there is a reduced rate attorney program or if they could provide you with any other suggestions. Check out your state website - you may find some information on it for legal assistance/free legal advice days, etc. Is there a law school nearby? You can check there for assistance as well.

Other than that, call around. Many attorneys agree to a free consultation. It may be that they will advise you that they will represent you and request that the courts order your STBX to cover your legal expenses. Especially in light of his abandonment. Without knowing more about your/his finances, assets, debts, etc. it's difficult to make that call from a forum. However, a local attorney would be able to quickly make that assessment for you.

 

[Ohiogal]

Check with Legal Aid. If you don't qualify you can ask if there is a reduced rate attorney program or if they could provide you with any other suggestions. Check out your state website - you may find some information on it for legal assistance/free legal advice days, etc. Is there a law school nearby? You can check there for assistance as well.

Other than that, call around. Many attorneys agree to a free consultation. It may be that they will advise you that they will represent you and request that the courts order your STBX to cover your legal expenses. Especially in light of his abandonment. Without knowing more about your/his finances, assets, debts, etc. it's difficult to make that call from a forum. However, a local attorney would be able to quickly make that assessment for you.

But the op needs to realize that there is no constitutional right to have sex, do the nasty, have an adulterous affair, play the hide tube steak, kiss the kitty, pet the dog, or anything of that nature. So therefore a court can restrict her sex life while she is still married.

 

[tuffbrk]

Agreed.

And if Dad wants to push it with the kids and custody, her behavior will be judged in court. I don't know of many judges who would approve of Mom having a guy sleep over 6 months after the split, a mere 2 months after meeting the guy (hopefully some time passed after Mom met him before he was introduced to kiddies), and no papers filed by the OP or her STBX.

But who knows? Maybe Dad packed up the truck, the dog and moved in with his GF as well.

 

[Antigone*]

Agreed.

And if Dad wants to push it with the kids and custody, her behavior will be judged in court. I don't know of many judges who would approve of Mom having a guy sleep over 6 months after the split, a mere 2 months after meeting the guy (hopefully some time passed after Mom met him before he was introduced to kiddies), and no papers filed by the OP or her STBX.

But who knows? Maybe Dad packed up the truck, the dog and moved in with his GF as well.

She already said she was replacing daddy:

The children see the father as someone who walked out on them and they have taken to the new boyfriend very well

 

[stealth2]

Here's a thought... If you simply MUST spend time past 10pm together, hire a babysitter and go to his house.

Seriously ... you have FOUR kids. No matter what Dad may or may not have done, they are dealing with the fallout of your upcoming divorce. Your focus needs to be on them and THEIR needs, not yours or your b/f's.

The suggested way to look at it is - You missed having a TV. You got another TV. What you do not immediately realize is that the new TV is the same as the old TV just a newer/prettier/skinnier/more-hair-on-his-head/fun model. The components though are the same.

In other words? New box, same channels.

 

[NellieBly]

We are talking marriage. So it is serious.

Marriage after two months?

 

[Silverplum]

Marriage after two months?

That's serious, all right.

 

[ecmst12]

Yeah, seriously stupid. OP needs to get some therapy before she screws up her life and her kids lives even more.

 

[kimberlywrites]

The reporter in me is still trying to figure out the connection between this poster and the "friends" username she's posting under.