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Can my DH get more time with his children?

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kia1987

Junior Member
What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? PA

Well January 12 is my DH's pretrial conference. He has went to orientation and mediation. Where his ex would not discuss a thing. The only reason she could think of for DH not getting more time is one boy did not get his homework done at dad's house. And by that literally one time. DH and son got stuck in traffic. She also told the mediator that the boys did not want more time with dad. This was settled when the boys had a separate meeting without mom and dad. They in-fact said they wanted equal time with both parents.

Little background, Dh and his ex separated summer 09. He had to move in with his grandmother and she stayed at the marital home. His job just had laid him off and he was going to school. He is ordered to get EOWE and Tues. and Wen. from 4-8. Mondays from 4-8 when it is her weekend. Sometimes on Tuesdays she won't show up to pick them up until 9 when it is bedtime.

At the time he agreed to this because he did not have his own place and his ex said she would be staying at the marital home.

His ex moved out a month after the custody agreement was signed and moved it with her parents. She lived there until recently when she did get her own place. She lives 7 houses away from us. Which would be great, but the boys are not even aloud to ride bikes this way on her time.

She was for 4 months allowing Dh to have the boys overnight on a school night until she got mad at him for calling her out on a lie. He had taken the boys to the Doctor the day before. They both had severe strep throat. They were told to stay home for a couple days and rest and take medications. She sent them to school the next day. My dh asked her why and she said she had called the Doctor and he said it was OK. So my DH went ahead and called the Doctor. He said she had called but he told her the boys should be at home resting.

He then asked her about it and she took his day during the week that she was allowing.

She has also recently started letting them stay so she can go to the bar. There are witnesses to this. Which DH does not mind at all. His view is though that why should his extra time always be on her terms. If she is allowing it when it is convenient, Why can't he get it on a regular basis.

With these circumstances, do you think DH can get more parenting time?
 


Just Blue

Senior Member
What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? PA

Well January 12 is my DH's pretrial conference. He has went to orientation and mediation. Where his ex would not discuss a thing. The only reason she could think of for DH not getting more time is one boy did not get his homework done at dad's house. And by that literally one time. DH and son got stuck in traffic. She also told the mediator that the boys did not want more time with dad. This was settled when the boys had a separate meeting without mom and dad. They in-fact said they wanted equal time with both parents.

Little background, Dh and his ex separated summer 09. He had to move in with his grandmother and she stayed at the marital home. His job just had laid him off and he was going to school. He is ordered to get EOWE and Tues. and Wen. from 4-8. Mondays from 4-8 when it is her weekend. Sometimes on Tuesdays she won't show up to pick them up until 9 when it is bedtime.

At the time he agreed to this because he did not have his own place and his ex said she would be staying at the marital home.

His ex moved out a month after the custody agreement was signed and moved it with her parents. She lived there until recently when she did get her own place. She lives 7 houses away from us. Which would be great, but the boys are not even aloud to ride bikes this way on her time.

She was for 4 months allowing Dh to have the boys overnight on a school night until she got mad at him for calling her out on a lie. He had taken the boys to the Doctor the day before. They both had severe strep throat. They were told to stay home for a couple days and rest and take medications. She sent them to school the next day. My dh asked her why and she said she had called the Doctor and he said it was OK. So my DH went ahead and called the Doctor. He said she had called but he told her the boys should be at home resting.

He then asked her about it and she took his day during the week that she was allowing.

She has also recently started letting them stay so she can go to the bar. There are witnesses to this. Which DH does not mind at all. His view is though that why should his extra time always be on her terms. If she is allowing it when it is convenient, Why can't he get it on a regular basis.

With these circumstances, do you think DH can get more parenting time?
Please have DH sign up and ask his own questions redarding his own family law issue. Thanks.
 

Zigner

Senior Member, Non-Attorney
Have DH log on and ask his own questions. You have no dog in this fight.
 
Maybe. Maybe not. I personally do not see anything that would definitely give Dad more parenting time. The extra overnights were not long enough to be considered status quo. Why would it be in the children's best interest for the parenting schedule to be changed?

PS - It is best to have Mom or Dad ask these questions for themselves. They are the ones most famaliar with the situation and often times are the only one that can provide specific information about their case.
 

Just Blue

Senior Member
Maybe. Maybe not. I personally do not see anything that would definitely give Dad more parenting time. The extra overnights were not long enough to be considered status quo. Why would it be in the children's best interest for the parenting schedule to be changed?

PS - It is best to have Mom or Dad ask these questions for themselves. They are the ones most famaliar with the situation and often times are the only one that can provide specific information about their case.
Yes...Especially when the OP has a Hx of butting in.;)
 

kia1987

Junior Member
Actually DH tried to sign up and he has tried to post and it keeps saying his account is not authorized to post.

He sat down while the whole thing was typed. All information is true and correct. I do realize I have no dog in this fight. Just helping my DH get some opinions. He does have a lawyer and wants some other points of view.
 

Zigner

Senior Member, Non-Attorney
Actually DH tried to sign up and he has tried to post and it keeps saying his account is not authorized to post.

He sat down while the whole thing was typed. All information is true and correct. I do realize I have no dog in this fight. Just helping my DH get some opinions. He does have a lawyer and wants some other points of view.
DH should be asking these questions of his attorney. There is no way any of us could second guess his attorney.
 

kia1987

Junior Member
Wasn't looking for a second guesss. Maybe just some scenerios as to what may happen. Sorry to bother you all.
 

CJane

Senior Member
Dad HAS posted before. I can't find his thread, so it may have been deleted. But I remember this story, so I'm going to keep looking... I have a feeling there's hx here that we should have...
 

kia1987

Junior Member
Yes dad did post before. He did not have access to that account anymore because he lost the password and does not have that email. He did try to sign up again and when he tried to post. It kept saying his account was not authorized to post yet.
 

CJane

Senior Member
Yes dad did post before. He did not have access to that account anymore because he lost the password and does not have that email. He did try to sign up again and when he tried to post. It kept saying his account was not authorized to post yet.
Uh huh. How about you find Dad's previous thread and post there? Or paste the link here?
 

LdiJ

Senior Member
What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? PA

Well January 12 is my DH's pretrial conference. He has went to orientation and mediation. Where his ex would not discuss a thing. The only reason she could think of for DH not getting more time is one boy did not get his homework done at dad's house. And by that literally one time. DH and son got stuck in traffic. She also told the mediator that the boys did not want more time with dad. This was settled when the boys had a separate meeting without mom and dad. They in-fact said they wanted equal time with both parents.

Little background, Dh and his ex separated summer 09. He had to move in with his grandmother and she stayed at the marital home. His job just had laid him off and he was going to school. He is ordered to get EOWE and Tues. and Wen. from 4-8. Mondays from 4-8 when it is her weekend. Sometimes on Tuesdays she won't show up to pick them up until 9 when it is bedtime.

At the time he agreed to this because he did not have his own place and his ex said she would be staying at the marital home.

His ex moved out a month after the custody agreement was signed and moved it with her parents. She lived there until recently when she did get her own place. She lives 7 houses away from us. Which would be great, but the boys are not even aloud to ride bikes this way on her time.

She was for 4 months allowing Dh to have the boys overnight on a school night until she got mad at him for calling her out on a lie. He had taken the boys to the Doctor the day before. They both had severe strep throat. They were told to stay home for a couple days and rest and take medications. She sent them to school the next day. My dh asked her why and she said she had called the Doctor and he said it was OK. So my DH went ahead and called the Doctor. He said she had called but he told her the boys should be at home resting.

He then asked her about it and she took his day during the week that she was allowing.

She has also recently started letting them stay so she can go to the bar. There are witnesses to this. Which DH does not mind at all. His view is though that why should his extra time always be on her terms. If she is allowing it when it is convenient, Why can't he get it on a regular basis.

With these circumstances, do you think DH can get more parenting time?
Other than spending the night on his weekdays, your husband already has equal parenting time with the children. He has 7 days out of 14. How will spending the night on his weekdays improve the children's lives? What demonstrable difference will that make for the children?
 

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