Can my DH get more time with his children?

[CJane]

Not the case at all. Actually dad offered to keep the child support the same as it is now. As far as how it would benefit? She sometimes doesn't come pick them up until a hour after pickup. So thats 9pm. The kids should be settling down for the night and the youngest should be in bed.

How is the kids' bedtimes your business? How old are these kids?

Mine are 6, 12 and 15. The 6 year old goes to bed around 9:30, though that's certainly not a hard and fast rule, the other two haven't had a bedtime in years.

Also why is it okay for mom to give dad overnights whenever she feels like going out and convienant for her and not when dad would like to spend more time.

Dad wants to throw a fit when Mom leaves the kiddos home alone/watching each other AND he's ticked when she wants him to keep the kiddos? How does that make sense?

 

[mistoffolees]

How do you know that the children get out of school at 3 PM? My granddaughter gets home from school at 4PM.

Wooo...mom may have 10-20 hours more per two weeks....that is HUGE.

No, EVEN USING YOUR BIZARRE 'CALCULATIONS', Mom has 10-20 hours more per two weeks. So even with your strange way of looking at it, they do not have equal time as you claimed.

The way that the courts look at it, Dad has 2 nights to Mom's 12. That IS huge.

Don't feel bad. We're getting closer to May Day when you'll finally get something right.

 

[kia1987]

Why would you assume that a child with every other weekend visits wouldn't have those things, and wouldn't consider the NCP's house 'home'?

Dad IS going to have to show that the overnights benefit the kids in some manner. And that's not going to be all that easy for him. There's a reason he wasn't granted weekday overnights at the outset. He's going to need to overcome that reasoning.

At the time he moved in with family. He got laid off and started school. She was supposed to stay in the family home. She moved in with family shortly after the custody agreement was made.

Thats why he agreed to the current arangment at the time.

 

[CJane]

At the time he moved in with family. He got laid off and started school. She was supposed to stay in the family home. She moved in with family shortly after the custody agreement was made.

Thats why he agreed to the current arangment at the time.

So, he was living with family members, not working, and attending school and he agreed to spend LESS time with his kids because of all of that.

But NOW, he should get MORE time, when he's actually around LESS and has LESS of a support system since he no longer lives with family?

Does that make sense to you?

 

[stealth2]

LDi & misto... would you two mind going out to the pissing tree? Your bickering has gotten REALLY old. I'm ready to ask M to give both of you a time out. Seriously - knock it off already.

 

[kia1987]

So, he was living with family members, not working, and attending school and he agreed to spend LESS time with his kids because of all of that.

But NOW, he should get MORE time, when he's actually around LESS and has LESS of a support system since he no longer lives with family?

Does that make sense to you?

He had no choice but to not work. School was paid because he lost his job to overseas workers. He was paying support to the children by unemploymnet. He actually has more of a support system now than then. He lived with his uncle who was never there. What kind of support system is that?

He was going to school, so he could support them better and make them a better life.

 

[stealth2]

And again, HE needs to be the one addressing his issue(s) with his ex.

 

[LdiJ]

LDi & misto... would you two mind going out to the pissing tree? Your bickering has gotten REALLY old. I'm ready to ask M to give both of you a time out. Seriously - knock it off already.

Sorry, you are right. For a long time I was trying not to engage but then I got ticked off and starting engaging again. I will try to refrain.

 

[LdiJ]

At the time he moved in with family. He got laid off and started school. She was supposed to stay in the family home. She moved in with family shortly after the custody agreement was made.

Thats why he agreed to the current arangment at the time.

He may have agreed to the current arrangement but that does not mean that he would have been granted 50/50 right from the get go. I am sure that he is a great father and loves his children dearly, but 50/50 is not standard. Its more popular than it used to be, but its not standard.

 

[mistoffolees]

LDi & misto... would you two mind going out to the pissing tree? Your bickering has gotten REALLY old. I'm ready to ask M to give both of you a time out. Seriously - knock it off already.

So it's OK with you for Ldij to continue to give people bad advice that has absolutely no bearing on legal realities?

Sorry, but when Ld is telling someone something that's just plain wrong, I'm going to correct it.

 

[stealth2]

So it's OK with you for Ldij to continue to give people bad advice that has absolutely no bearing on legal realities?

Sorry, but when Ld is telling someone something that's just plain wrong, I'm going to correct it.

There is a difference between correcting and haranguing. Come on, misto - you know better than that.

 

[Just Blue]

P'ing contest aside. This is Dad's issue and not OPs.

OP: Please have the PARENT figure out how to post with out deleting his thread after he is done.

 

[Ohiogal]

Seriously, who deleted my post asking why mom and dad can't just change schedules if they are EQUAL right now? that way EVERYONE is happy. Right?

And whoever deleted my post regarding that, seriously, grow up.

 

[LdiJ]

Seriously, who deleted my post asking why mom and dad can't just change schedules if they are EQUAL right now? that way EVERYONE is happy. Right?

And whoever deleted my post regarding that, seriously, grow up.

Wasn't me...are you sure you are not confusing a couple of threads?

 

[Zigner]

Wasn't me...are you sure you are not confusing a couple of threads?

Nobody accused you directly.