Child Support for Child as a result of one-night stand

[Proserpina]

Thanks to those who actually did give advice on the questions that I asked. For the record, these are only options we are discussing...I have not and do not plan to be in the courtroom, in the attorney meetings, or making the decisions. I realize that these are decisions that my husband has to make, but I simply feel that they merit some discussion between the two of us because this affects our family as well. After all, there's a child out there who is my husband's and who is a half sibling to our own children. Maybe I am being offensive...but it's hard not to when I'm talking about the woman who has a child with my husband. Good night all...

She's not the one who made you any promises, or broke any vows.

I know it's hard - seriously. I know. But you've got to focus. Viewing Mom as your enemy is going to result in an incredibly miserable 17+ years for you.

 

[ws1122]

She's not the one who made you any promises, or broke any vows.

I know it's hard - seriously. I know. But you've got to focus. Viewing Mom as your enemy is going to result in an incredibly miserable 17+ years for you.

I understand that, too. That's something I'm working on as well. My husband and I have been going through this for 6 months now, and we've been able to talk (and cry and scream sometimes) about what happened and why and how we got to this point. I know it sounds corny, but we're in a better place now despite the ongoing paternity/support case. We are working on ourselves as individuals, and ourselves as a married couple. I guess not getting to say my peace with her has led to a great deal of animosity and resentment towards her. My husband has stepped up to take care of our family and his responsibility for this child; even though it's not an ideal situation for a married couple to be in, I respect him for owning up to this and doing what's right. I also respect her for wanting him to take responsibility. Believe me...we are all a work in progress. We are learning and growing every single day.

 

[Ohiogal]

Thanks to those who actually did give advice on the questions that I asked. For the record, these are only options we are discussing...I have not and do not plan to be in the courtroom, in the attorney meetings, or making the decisions. I realize that these are decisions that my husband has to make, but I simply feel that they merit some discussion between the two of us because this affects our family as well. After all, there's a child out there who is my husband's and who is a half sibling to our own children. Maybe I am being offensive...but it's hard not to when I'm talking about the woman who has a child with my husband. Good night all...

This woman couldn't have had a child with your husband without your husband screwing around and committing adultery on you. the people that MADE the baby are the ones who are involved. Everyone else is out of it. Your choices come from either supporting your husband's decisions or divorcing and getting the heck out.

 

[ws1122]

This woman couldn't have had a child with your husband without your husband screwing around and committing adultery on you. the people that MADE the baby are the ones who are involved. Everyone else is out of it. Your choices come from either supporting your husband's decisions or divorcing and getting the heck out.

Thank you, Captain Obvious...

Again, our marriage is a work in progress...I am not an idiot. We want to make this work, and I am doing my best to be supportive and get through this with him. I understand that this is a "mom and dad" thing, but I am still interested about the process and the options just for my own personal knowledge.

 

[meanyjack]

Thank you, Captain Obvious...

Well seeing how you just showed disrespect to an ACTUAL attorney, have fun PAYING for advice from an attorney, Major Fool.

 

[TinkerBelleLuvr]

At this point, please have the parent who will be the LEGAL parent come here.