The court order is definitely loosey goosey. I hesitate to go back to put into writing what we are now doing, though, as his lawyer will probably want to have it written with a 3.5/3.5 50/50 split. Ex has a year-long history refusing to give our 3 year old her asthma meds (preventative) so I really don't want to invite a situation wherein he might have her more than one night. Right now it's one night at a time, and I can get her meds into her. It was a year ago on the 10th that our daughter was admitted for 4 days...almost lost her from asthma. So it's a high priority for me to try to arrange things this way as long as possible, hopefully until she or her sister can make sure she gets her meds.