What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? MN
So after her denying me over and over and over again to see my daughter and the fact that every court doesn't care, just yesterday, I got an email from my ex stating that she is getting married May 15th. She says that she wants her soon-to-be husband to adopt our daughter. At first I asked her if it was an April Fool's Joke but we did email back and forth for about 4 hours yesterday and even today as well. She really wants her guy to adopt our daughter.
I haven't seen my daughter since November and besides about four phone calls since January, I haven't talked to her either. I've been to court 5 times just this year alone and no judge cares if I see my daughter or not. In fact, every month she has denied me, I've been to court that same month and my ex doesn't even get a slap on the wrist. In fact, this last time, she denied me when I was an hour drive away from picking up my daughter. (We live almost a 6 hour drive away.) She told the judge she forget it was my week and that our daughter had to go to a bday party. The judge said it was fine but she can't do it again, plus even though I asked for my gas money reimbursed, it wasn't because "the birthday party was in the child's best interest." <-- Direct quote in the paperwork. I'm sick of the court system.
Now I've been reading around on the forum and you all have been writing that for most step-parent adoptions to take place, the new step-parent and parent must be married for at least a year before the judge will approve it. I've looked all over the MN statutes and even the available paperwork online for MN about step-parent adoption and nothing says that at all. Is this one year thing a common practice across the board or is it that certain states require the one year marriage? She wants to get it done by the end of May but I told her she better get a lawyer because I doubt that can happen and that it might be months before it's all said and done.
She also said that she doesn't want me to see or talk to my daughter until she is "old enough to understand." She did say that she wants me in her life when she is older. I would love this however, an email is worth nothing. Should I, or better yet can I have a specific age written in the paperwork saying that like "when X turns X years old, the father or daughter can contact each other."
So after her denying me over and over and over again to see my daughter and the fact that every court doesn't care, just yesterday, I got an email from my ex stating that she is getting married May 15th. She says that she wants her soon-to-be husband to adopt our daughter. At first I asked her if it was an April Fool's Joke but we did email back and forth for about 4 hours yesterday and even today as well. She really wants her guy to adopt our daughter.
I haven't seen my daughter since November and besides about four phone calls since January, I haven't talked to her either. I've been to court 5 times just this year alone and no judge cares if I see my daughter or not. In fact, every month she has denied me, I've been to court that same month and my ex doesn't even get a slap on the wrist. In fact, this last time, she denied me when I was an hour drive away from picking up my daughter. (We live almost a 6 hour drive away.) She told the judge she forget it was my week and that our daughter had to go to a bday party. The judge said it was fine but she can't do it again, plus even though I asked for my gas money reimbursed, it wasn't because "the birthday party was in the child's best interest." <-- Direct quote in the paperwork. I'm sick of the court system.
Now I've been reading around on the forum and you all have been writing that for most step-parent adoptions to take place, the new step-parent and parent must be married for at least a year before the judge will approve it. I've looked all over the MN statutes and even the available paperwork online for MN about step-parent adoption and nothing says that at all. Is this one year thing a common practice across the board or is it that certain states require the one year marriage? She wants to get it done by the end of May but I told her she better get a lawyer because I doubt that can happen and that it might be months before it's all said and done.
She also said that she doesn't want me to see or talk to my daughter until she is "old enough to understand." She did say that she wants me in her life when she is older. I would love this however, an email is worth nothing. Should I, or better yet can I have a specific age written in the paperwork saying that like "when X turns X years old, the father or daughter can contact each other."
