Divorce from veteran

[stinastina]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Georgia

I have been married for almost a year to a vet who receives a disability pension. This is the only income we have. To date, the VA has not updated his pension amount to reflect the marriage and my child (who is not his) and lord only knows when they will even begin processing the adjustment.

Needless to say, this has caused a huge strain on the relationship. We live in Section 8 housing that was designed for homeless vets and their families and receive a discounted rent. My husband has been talking about leaving the relationship and making sure me and my child are left homeless.

What options do I have ? I want to be prepared if he does decide to let the VA know he is vacating the home.

 

[TheGeekess]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Georgia

I have been married for almost a year to a vet who receives a disability pension. This is the only income we have. To date, the VA has not updated his pension amount to reflect the marriage and my child (who is not his) and lord only knows when they will even begin processing the adjustment.

Needless to say, this has caused a huge strain on the relationship. We live in Section 8 housing that was designed for homeless vets and their families and receive a discounted rent. My husband has been talking about leaving the relationship and making sure me and my child are left homeless.

What options do I have ? I want to be prepared if he does decide to let the VA know he is vacating the home.

Self-help legal resources


For those who want to consider filing an action in court on their own, below is a list of resources. These sites have forms and instructions, which include forms for legitimation and visitation.

www.fultonfamilydivision.com This is the site of the Fulton County Superior Court Family Division's Family Law Information Center. Any resident of the State of Georgia can visit the center in person at its location. The address is 185 Central Avenue, Atlanta, Ga. 30303. The phone is 404-335-2789. One can receive a free, brief legal consultation with an attorney by calling and making an appointment. However, a non-custodial parent must follow the guidelines of the county with legal jurisdiction over his/her particular legal issues.

www.co.dekalb.ga.us/dekalbflic This is the site of DeKalb County Superior Court's Family Law Information Center. Any DeKalb resident or person with a family law issue related to DeKalb County can visit the center at its location at 120 West Trinity Place, Decatur, Ga. 30030. The phone is 404-687-3990. Brief, legal consultations with an attorney are available for $10 by calling and making an appointment.

http://sca.cobbcountyga.gov/familylaw_workshop.htm This is the site of the Cobb County Superior Court Family Law Workshop. Any Cobb resident or person with a family law issue related to Cobb County can visit the center at 30 Waddell Street, Marietta, Ga. 30090. The phone is 770-528-1812. The workshop is free of charge and provides answers to basic questions about divorce, paternity/legitimation, contempt, and modification cases.

http://production.albany.ga.us/law_library/LL_forms_family_law.htm This is the site of the Dougherty County Superior Court Law Library. Any Dougherty resident or person with a family law issue related to Dougherty County can visit the center at its location at 225 Pine Avenue, Room 212, Albany, Ga. 31702. The phone is 229-431-2133. The library manager, who is an attorney, is available to provide assistance with conducting research, finding appropriate materials and possible legal resources, suggesting self-help resources, and answering legal reference questions in person or by e-mail. However, the library manager is not permitted to give legal advice or interpret specific legal situations.

www.hallcounty.org/judicial/jud_FLIC&GAL.asp This is the site of the Hall and Dawson County Superior Court Family Law Information Center. Any Hall or Dawson resident or person with a family law issue related to Hall or Dawson Counties can visit the center at its location at 225 Green Street, S.E., Gainesville, Ga. 30501. The phone is 770-531-2463. Brief, legal consultations with an attorney are available at no cost in Dawson County. However, a financial qualification is required for attorney consultations in Hall County.

http://www.appfamilylawcenter.org/ This is the site of the Appalachian Family Law Information Center serving Fannin, Gilmer, and Pickens counties. Any Fannin, Gilmer or Pickens resident or person with a family law issue related to these counties can visit the center at its location at 1 Broad Street, Suite 102 A, Ellijay, Ga. 30540. The phone is 706-299-1444. Brief, legal consultations with an attorney are available by appointment for income-qualified individuals.

www.LegalAid-Ga.org This site is a project of the Atlanta Legal Aid Society, the Georgia Legal Services Program and the Pro Bono Project of the State Bar of Georgia. It is a guide to free legal information and services including the topics of legitimation, visitation, and custody.

A list of the Georgia Superior Court Clerks for every county is on this web site: www.gsccca.org.

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Child Support guidelines/calculators here: http://tinyurl.com/2fan2sw

 

[stinastina]

Thank you but I don't think I can do this on my own. I have no income and a child so if anyone has any ideas, please let me know.

 

[sandyclaus]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Georgia

I have been married for almost a year to a vet who receives a disability pension. This is the only income we have. To date, the VA has not updated his pension amount to reflect the marriage and my child (who is not his) and lord only knows when they will even begin processing the adjustment.

Needless to say, this has caused a huge strain on the relationship. We live in Section 8 housing that was designed for homeless vets and their families and receive a discounted rent. My husband has been talking about leaving the relationship and making sure me and my child are left homeless.

What options do I have ? I want to be prepared if he does decide to let the VA know he is vacating the home.

Keep in mind, also, that unless this man has effected a stepparent adoption of your child, he is under NO obligation to support the child in any way, shape, or form. It's unlikely that when the pension is updated to reflect the marriage that it would include any additional amounts for your child.

 

[Just Blue]

Thank you but I don't think I can do this on my own. I have no income and a child so if anyone has any ideas, please let me know.

Perhaps it is time for YOU and the FATHER of this child to support said child?

 

[stinastina]

Keep in mind, also, that unless this man has effected a stepparent adoption of your child, he is under NO obligation to support the child in any way, shape, or form. It's unlikely that when the pension is updated to reflect the marriage that it would include any additional amounts for your child.

Thank you for the info. His counselor did say the child would be included in the calculations. At this point it seems moot - we have no idea when the funds will be disbursed.

I am not asking him for child support - that's ridiculous. I want to find out what rights I may have to spousal support, if any. And if he has the right to terminate our lease (I am on the lease also) and housing benefits if he decides to leave (just separate).

 

[CourtClerk]

Thank you but I don't think I can do this on my own. I have no income and a child so if anyone has any ideas, please let me know.

Then you might want to find a job and save up some money because no one works for free. What did you do for income before you were married and depending on your husband for income? If the housing is meant for disabled vets, then I'm guessing that ultimately you'll be the one leaving the household with your child, not him. You may want to start coming up with a way to be self supporting. A one year marriage isn't going to get you much if anything in spousal support, especially from someone receiving disability themselves.

 

[CourtClerk]

I want to find out what rights I may have to spousal support, if any.

A quick perusal of the law indicates the answer to that question is as I suspected. None.

 

[Just Blue]

Then you might want to find a job and save up some money because no one works for free. What did you do for income before you were married and depending on your husband for income? If the housing is meant for disabled vets, then I'm guessing that ultimately you'll be the one leaving the household with your child, not him. You may want to start coming up with a way to be self supporting. A one year marriage isn't going to get you much if anything in spousal support, especially from someone receiving disability themselves.

I suggested that OP get a job. My post was reported.I also suggested that posting Hx was read. The, too, was reported.
sigh...

 

[Antigone*]

Thank you but I don't think I can do this on my own. I have no income and a child so if anyone has any ideas, please let me know.

You've only been married to this man a year. Lady you need to take care of you and the child(ren) you created. Where is the child's father? Why aren't you working? Why should Court Clerk, Blue Meanie and I support you and yours?

 

[CourtClerk]

I suggested that OP get a job. My post was reported.I also suggested that posting Hx was read. The, too, was reported.
sigh...

I have no idea why. It says that the OP has 52 posts, but when looking at her prior postings only 6 show up. The upgrade of this site sucks.

But OP, why did you report her post asking why you can't get a job?

 

[Antigone*]

I have no idea why. It says that the OP has 52 posts, but when looking at her prior postings only 6 show up. The upgrade of this site sucks.

But OP, why did you report her post asking why you can't get a job?

Because those kinds of BS questions are not welcome

 

[Just Blue]

I have no idea why. It says that the OP has 52 posts, but when looking at her prior postings only 6 show up. The upgrade of this site sucks.

But OP, why did you report her post asking why you can't get a job?

I can't say that OP was the one to report me. Could have been one of the "special guests" we seem to get on the weekends....Who know or cares. Mother will deal with it.

But if you want to view all of the other threads: Go to OP "profile page" then click on "threads"



Blue

 

[Ohiogal]

Interesting posting history

Shortcut to all threads:
https://forum.freeadvice.com/search.php?searchid=206998

Also, OP was attempting to get divorced by December 31, 2010 but it appeared that it would not be completed until 2011.
And she was receiving alimony from that spouse or wanted it:

#1 stinastina View Profile View Forum Posts View Blog Entries View Articles Add as Contact
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Posts 52 Settlement/Alimony
What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Georgia

I am filing for divorce and need help with the question of settlement and alimony. My spouse has agreed to support me for 6 months and we included that in the settlement agreement. I checked the box on the complaint for alimony which states I am financially dependent on him and need the court to order him to pay alimony. My spouse thinks I am asking for additional money.

Should I not check that I need alimony ? because I need alimony but the amount is in the settlement agreement. Like

Also in 2009, her "ex" was in arrears 30k. Wonder if she was working then. She has also had friends with criminal issues, eviction issues and various other maladies.

 

[sandyclaus]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Georgia

I have been married for almost a year to a vet who receives a disability pension. This is the only income we have. To date, the VA has not updated his pension amount to reflect the marriage and my child (who is not his) and lord only knows when they will even begin processing the adjustment...

Thank you for the info. His counselor did say the child would be included in the calculations. At this point it seems moot - we have no idea when the funds will be disbursed.

I am not asking him for child support - that's ridiculous...

I'll bet that his counselor wasn't made aware that the child was neither biologically your husband's, nor that he had not legally adopted and assumed financial responsibility for the child.

And why would you be expecting part of the pension to cover YOUR child when he has no obligation to provide ANY support for YOUR child?