Long story short: Kiddo left with no bruise on her back last Monday (Neighbor as a witness, since she had to take her to the potty right before the exchange on the 14th).
Kiddo came home with a weird bruise on her back. I took a photo of it after we went and visited my neighbor once I picked up Kiddo. my neighbor also saw the bruise Kiddo returned home with. I had told my neighbor I was going to take a photo of it because I knew Dad would start making accusations. Dad said nothing about the bruise. I figured Kiddo just fell or got it doing a summersault or during WWE play with Daddy that she keeps trying to engage my parents and I in.
Dad was rather annoyed dropping Kiddo off two weeks ago, but did not say why.
A couple days later when I was trying to get Kiddo to poop on the potty, she tells me, "Daddy won't let me poopy on the potty. He doesn't like me anymore. I spit on him." So I had a chat with Kiddo about how it's disrespectful to spit on people and how it spreads germs. I figured that was why he was annoyed. Sunday of this week, Kiddo repeated the same thing, exactly the same wording to me. Kiddo also repeated the same thing today, at the doctors, to me after asking me for a pullup to poop in when I told her that I would much rather she went poopy on the potty. Three times over a couple of weeks, she's said the same exact thing. I'm not gathering how one correlates with the other, but that's what she keeps repeating.
Dad, first of all, had a summer cold and couldn't make it to the doctors' appointment, he told me an hour before the appointment.
That following Saturday after her over night was supposed to be the day visit. I even phoned Dad, since I knew he had power when I had seen he had been on facebook, and left a message because he hadn't answered the phone just making sure things were already after the storm and if he were going to pick up our daughter. I had checked it on my phone to see if he was going to try and reschedule because of the storm, but no messages. my neighbor had Kiddo at 9 AM and I picked her up at about 9:20 AM. Dad sent me a message at 10 AM, on Facebook, telling me he's sorry but he had a horrible eye infection, and that's why he wasn't picking her up.
The bruise started out kind of light, so the photo is not the best. Over the period of the two weeks, the bruise got darker and was shaped as if she fell against a coil or something. I just kind of kept an eye on it. It has not gone away, still, as of today. When Dad dropped off Kiddo today, he said, he would be talking with his sister about the "school situation" for Kiddo, then rambled into he had gotten an RV and was taking her sister on Saturday to the races in on a trip, asking if we could switch Kiddo's visit to Monday, instead, to which I agreed. Then I told him I had a chat with Kiddo (trying to show him I'm CO-parenting with him) about the fact that she said she spit on him. He said it never happened. He then said he didn't remember that. He then said something else about it not happening and went straight into the "not a big deal" bruise on her back. And I had said yes, I noticed it and had documented it since she left without one and returned with one and said I figured she just fell against something. He tried to say it came from here and he said "WE are documenting it also." I'm not sure who "we" is, whether it's his mother or his girlfriend and him or all three.
He then says, TO Kiddo, "I'm sorry I know you want to stay with Daddy, but you can't. This ends soon." Then he mumbled something out the door.
The "school situation" to which he is referring has to do with I asked him how he felt about her attending head start, possibly. I gave him all the information. He said nothing about it until today. I did the intake paperwork and she may not even get in due to the fact that I probably make too much. I told him she did not have to attend on the days she is with him. I am unsure he knows it is not formal schooling. I am unsure he even read what I sent him. I waited for his reply but got nothing until today. I am quite unsure what he feels he needs to discuss with his sister about our child's education and what control he thinks he may have over what school she attends, since by the time she actually does go to preschool, I am guessing the schools will be combined and there won't BE much choice. But we aren't even to that point. This was just something extra I thought would be good for her on the time when she is with me, but I thought I would include him.
He has yet to make an appointment with kiddo's therapist.
I called pediatrics and brought Kiddo in so they could look at the bruise. I let them talk to her. They will be speaking with CPS. I'm not sure anything will come of it but I gave them most of the information above in another room away from Kiddo's ears.
Trying to weave that together so that it made a semblance of sense was hard, so I apologize. I don't get half of what he muttered about today, aside from the playing with our child's mind before he left.
Not sure what fun is coming up, but am sure I will post with a question or two.
