mayuriinabox
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What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)?
The wonderful state of GA
I have a beautiful 18 month old son that I have raised completely alone since birth (and if you consider pregnancy raising.. then that too). I left my ex because he is very controlling and verbally abusive and had a bad case of stalking. The baby mattered so much (and I am not saying this because I am bitter or anything- I really don't care what he does... but I DO care that everything else is more important than his son. ) that a week after I left, he had a new girl.. and then a month after my son was born, she became his wife. While I was pregnant, his wife had said several things (hateful things) to me- along with him threatening to take the baby away. They waited a month after all the threats and decided to start asking for ultrasounds and saying they were so happy to be able to raise my son with me. I have learned not to trust just about anything he says... so I told them (in not so nice words) to go away. I didn't talk to them for a long time since. My pregnancy being healthy and successful was more important than the drama they wanted. Although... mutual friends heard a lot from him. Saying a bunch of hateful things- like I got an abortion, I cheated and the child obviously wasn't his, etc.
That being said... I had a healthy baby boy. I asked a mutual friend to tell him the baby was born.. they did. He didn't ask to see him or anything. Seven months later I finally asked if he wanted to meet him. They said ok. We met twice. After the second visit, I received a message asking me what I wanted him to be to my son. I told him that I can't TELL him what to be. There was no contact after. I did send some pictures, but no response.
My son has a half brother who is a year and two days younger. They didn't want me or my son to know anything about the child, so he wasn't involved. They have never met.
I filed for child support after my sons first birthday. Which the father forgot- but the stepmother didn't.
He filed for legitimation with a lawyer and wants joint custody. He wants my son EVERY thursday to sunday. He also sent his list of finances. He makes a very decent living, lives for free in a basement, and yet says he uses all of his money in bills. Ok. Sure.
What do you think my chances are? I can't afford a lawyer and GA legal aid helps abuse cases.. I am having a hard time finding a lawyer to help me. I've done several consultations.
No child support order has been given and they want mediation. I'm not sure what to expect... or what the possible outcomes are.
EDIT:
We go to mediation on Tuesday- we were supposed to get a mediator from a different county and meet halfway.. instead they decided on a mediator from their county and at the mediators office in their county as well.
I need to know if this sounds reasonable..
The parenting plan I submitted is for second and fourth friday-6pm to sunday 6pm and every wed. from 5:30-7:30.
I made several parenting plans.. the one that I can deal with (but gives the most time) is the same 2/4 friday to sunday... and then in the summer on his weeks, add thursday.. then two additional weeks for vacation... and every 1/3/5 wed so he will see him every week so there is contact.
There would be three days during winter break, two in spring break. And holidays would alternate, if there is a school holiday, whomever has him that weekend will keep the child that day until 6PM.
Would a plan like this appeal to a judge?
The wonderful state of GA
I have a beautiful 18 month old son that I have raised completely alone since birth (and if you consider pregnancy raising.. then that too). I left my ex because he is very controlling and verbally abusive and had a bad case of stalking. The baby mattered so much (and I am not saying this because I am bitter or anything- I really don't care what he does... but I DO care that everything else is more important than his son. ) that a week after I left, he had a new girl.. and then a month after my son was born, she became his wife. While I was pregnant, his wife had said several things (hateful things) to me- along with him threatening to take the baby away. They waited a month after all the threats and decided to start asking for ultrasounds and saying they were so happy to be able to raise my son with me. I have learned not to trust just about anything he says... so I told them (in not so nice words) to go away. I didn't talk to them for a long time since. My pregnancy being healthy and successful was more important than the drama they wanted. Although... mutual friends heard a lot from him. Saying a bunch of hateful things- like I got an abortion, I cheated and the child obviously wasn't his, etc.
That being said... I had a healthy baby boy. I asked a mutual friend to tell him the baby was born.. they did. He didn't ask to see him or anything. Seven months later I finally asked if he wanted to meet him. They said ok. We met twice. After the second visit, I received a message asking me what I wanted him to be to my son. I told him that I can't TELL him what to be. There was no contact after. I did send some pictures, but no response.
My son has a half brother who is a year and two days younger. They didn't want me or my son to know anything about the child, so he wasn't involved. They have never met.
I filed for child support after my sons first birthday. Which the father forgot- but the stepmother didn't.
He filed for legitimation with a lawyer and wants joint custody. He wants my son EVERY thursday to sunday. He also sent his list of finances. He makes a very decent living, lives for free in a basement, and yet says he uses all of his money in bills. Ok. Sure.
What do you think my chances are? I can't afford a lawyer and GA legal aid helps abuse cases.. I am having a hard time finding a lawyer to help me. I've done several consultations.
No child support order has been given and they want mediation. I'm not sure what to expect... or what the possible outcomes are.
EDIT:
We go to mediation on Tuesday- we were supposed to get a mediator from a different county and meet halfway.. instead they decided on a mediator from their county and at the mediators office in their county as well.
I need to know if this sounds reasonable..
The parenting plan I submitted is for second and fourth friday-6pm to sunday 6pm and every wed. from 5:30-7:30.
I made several parenting plans.. the one that I can deal with (but gives the most time) is the same 2/4 friday to sunday... and then in the summer on his weeks, add thursday.. then two additional weeks for vacation... and every 1/3/5 wed so he will see him every week so there is contact.
There would be three days during winter break, two in spring break. And holidays would alternate, if there is a school holiday, whomever has him that weekend will keep the child that day until 6PM.
Would a plan like this appeal to a judge?
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