What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? I am located in Ohio
Here are the problems.
1) My grandmother can't drive. She is legally blind. Her right eye is somewhat ok, her left eye, she can't even tell you how many fingers you're holding up 5 feet in front of you
2) Her health is poor, very poor. Since the strokes, she has difficulty walking. Not to the point where she has a walker, but she VERY unsteady on her feet. That being said, I found her last summer, laying in her bedroom, and she could not have the strength or balance to pick herself up. She has been walking near me twice in the last few months, and I have had to literally catch her from falling over.
3) mentally, she is gone. she has always been unreasonable ( from what I have been told, it has been a life long problem ). I don't just mean bull headed, i mean, arguing to the point of all of my family members have been kicked out and told never to return more than 10 times, each. Also, her memory is completely shot. When I say completely, i mean it, quite literally. My fiance moved in about 4 months ago now, and my grandma will ask no less than 5 times a day why she is here. Grandma has also gotten VERY violent. I have several video recorded incidents, one involving my grandmother going after my fiance's car with a knife. She also yells and screams at the kids for literally no reason, because she feels that she is in charge of EVERYTHING because, and i quote " this is my house"
Now here is the problem. My dad has power of attorney, so he is responsible for her. She can not drive, my dad or I take her to her doctors appts, and do all of the grocery shopping for her. She can not see to pay her bills, so my dad has the bills sent to his house and he pays them for her our of her account. My dad works, a lot. He also travels a lot ( was recently in california for 3 weeks for work ), my uncle drives truck over the road so he is never around, so that leaves everything on my plate. Which I have no problem with, but with how she has been recently ( going after my fiances car, being violent to the point she has actually hit me, swung on me and swung on my fiance ), I don't feel that she is safe, at all, living on her own.
My dad now tells me that I should " probably find somewhere else to live ", which for me is no problem. I have a 6 bedroom house sitting empty I have complete access to, anytime I want. Here is the situation I am in... I am afraid, if I move out, that my grandma is going to fall / get hurt / burn the house down ( her memory is so shot that we have found the stove or oven left on, because she turned it on, and forgot less than 5 minutes later, and went back to bed ). I am very afraid, because I want to see her taken care of in a environment that is safe for her, and away from the kids so she doesn't hurt one of them, or worse. I am not sure if my dad could get in any legal trouble, because at this point, he is pretty much siding with what she wants, even though she is completely mentally unstable, and in my opinion, not capable of living on her own. If my dad or I am not here, she will forget to take her medicine, she will not have groceries coming in, or anyone checking on her regularly to see if she is hurt or needs anything.
My question is this. What can I do? I don't want to move out and have my dad get in trouble if she gets hurt. I also don't want to stay here and have her hurt one of the kids, me or my fiance.. I am really stuck. I am honestly afraid for her to move back here, because it's only a matter of time before she hurts one of us, or heaven forbid one of the kids. I have NO idea why my dad is saying "well, that's what she wants, and this is her house ", when he knows she is completely mentally incompetent and unable to take care of herself. Any advice outside of " call an attorney " is helpful.
Thank you
Here are the problems.
1) My grandmother can't drive. She is legally blind. Her right eye is somewhat ok, her left eye, she can't even tell you how many fingers you're holding up 5 feet in front of you
2) Her health is poor, very poor. Since the strokes, she has difficulty walking. Not to the point where she has a walker, but she VERY unsteady on her feet. That being said, I found her last summer, laying in her bedroom, and she could not have the strength or balance to pick herself up. She has been walking near me twice in the last few months, and I have had to literally catch her from falling over.
3) mentally, she is gone. she has always been unreasonable ( from what I have been told, it has been a life long problem ). I don't just mean bull headed, i mean, arguing to the point of all of my family members have been kicked out and told never to return more than 10 times, each. Also, her memory is completely shot. When I say completely, i mean it, quite literally. My fiance moved in about 4 months ago now, and my grandma will ask no less than 5 times a day why she is here. Grandma has also gotten VERY violent. I have several video recorded incidents, one involving my grandmother going after my fiance's car with a knife. She also yells and screams at the kids for literally no reason, because she feels that she is in charge of EVERYTHING because, and i quote " this is my house"
Now here is the problem. My dad has power of attorney, so he is responsible for her. She can not drive, my dad or I take her to her doctors appts, and do all of the grocery shopping for her. She can not see to pay her bills, so my dad has the bills sent to his house and he pays them for her our of her account. My dad works, a lot. He also travels a lot ( was recently in california for 3 weeks for work ), my uncle drives truck over the road so he is never around, so that leaves everything on my plate. Which I have no problem with, but with how she has been recently ( going after my fiances car, being violent to the point she has actually hit me, swung on me and swung on my fiance ), I don't feel that she is safe, at all, living on her own.
My dad now tells me that I should " probably find somewhere else to live ", which for me is no problem. I have a 6 bedroom house sitting empty I have complete access to, anytime I want. Here is the situation I am in... I am afraid, if I move out, that my grandma is going to fall / get hurt / burn the house down ( her memory is so shot that we have found the stove or oven left on, because she turned it on, and forgot less than 5 minutes later, and went back to bed ). I am very afraid, because I want to see her taken care of in a environment that is safe for her, and away from the kids so she doesn't hurt one of them, or worse. I am not sure if my dad could get in any legal trouble, because at this point, he is pretty much siding with what she wants, even though she is completely mentally unstable, and in my opinion, not capable of living on her own. If my dad or I am not here, she will forget to take her medicine, she will not have groceries coming in, or anyone checking on her regularly to see if she is hurt or needs anything.
My question is this. What can I do? I don't want to move out and have my dad get in trouble if she gets hurt. I also don't want to stay here and have her hurt one of the kids, me or my fiance.. I am really stuck. I am honestly afraid for her to move back here, because it's only a matter of time before she hurts one of us, or heaven forbid one of the kids. I have NO idea why my dad is saying "well, that's what she wants, and this is her house ", when he knows she is completely mentally incompetent and unable to take care of herself. Any advice outside of " call an attorney " is helpful.
Thank you
