"this complaint" which is why I pasted it, in an attempt to explain that this complaint (the one you linked) is different from what would be mine. I wouldnt ask for any money. ONly thing I'm asking for is knowing who my father is and as far as theyre concerned a valid reason would be medical. Because evidently emotional scaring isnt valid even though people routinely sue for faux emotional distress.
If its negative atleast I know its not him, but living 10 minutes away from a guy who could be my father and never finding out for sure is like a carrot on a string. I would rather eliminate him as a candidate and be done with it than have that carrot waiving indefinitely. I guess u just cant understand unless you're in the same shoes.
Yes, I know it has no relevance. I just brought it up, because other posts were suggesting that no where in the U.S. is it possible for an adult child to bring a paternity action against a possible father. So, is NY state the only state where it can be done? Just curious.
No its not the only one, As it turns out I can do it here in massachusetts, the issue now becomes can I give the court good enough reason to push it forward. I say I can , others disagree. Personally I think the moment the 2 of us are in court the judge is gonna see us and give me the verdict and order the test.
Actually the state does have a dog in the fight. And this is what I'm afraid of but may actually be what makes it happen but let me stress I dont want it to go this way. We were welfare kids growing up. My mother got cash benefits from the state which means that if they establish paternity, they would probably chase him for back child support which would be owed to them not me or my mother but them because when ur on cash benefits they become the child support and any child support gleaned from the father goes to the state. So yes I think they have a very big dog here.You could always Google the other 49 states
It's important to remember that all else being equal, Alleged Dad's rights trump OP's rights. There is no compelling need here; "I need to know" isn't going to wash. Mass. has made this explicitly clear when we're talking about an adult child suing for paternity.
Even if Alleged Dad was ordered to comply, what can they do to Alleged Dad if he refuses to comply? They cannot and will not strap him down to a gurney and force the issue. There won't be a warrant. He won't be fined.
In the usual paternity suit, the male can be held to be the father by default and enjoy all the rights and responsibilities that entails.
In this circumstance, what will it accomplish? He's not going to be owing or paying child support. He won't be forced to hand over medical records. It won't help the OP at all and the State has no dog in the fight either.
I have a niece and nephew, cousins, who look a whole lot alike. But they are no bio relation whatsoever. Niece is my bio sister's daughter. Nephew is my adoptive sister's son. Just looking alike doesn't prove that they share dna. My dad used to say that when my adoptive sister was a baby, strangers would comment on how much she resembled him, not knowing she was adopted. And my 5 bio siblings and I all look different, despite having the same parents. Different hair and eye colors, facial features, heights, weights, hair textures. My son and daughter have the same father, but don't look much alike at all, other than hair and eye colors.
Dude, your going to do more harm then good. Look at this as if it was one of your kids....If one of your boys wanted a DNA test when they were 33yrs old and it came out negative....How would you feel after acting as a 'father figure' for them for that long?
"alleged guy" as if I have absolutely no reason t suspect this guy could possibly be my father. Like I just pulled some random dude out of thin air.You're absolutely wrong in this case. But you go right ahead. Spend your money, and start writing that sincere apology to Alleged Guy for wasting his time.
(You might want to save up for paying his attorney fees, too)
My husband's best friend is named Hugh Heffner (yes, really!). Maybe he's a long lost child of the famous Hugh also, ha, ha!Exactly.
Heck, that's at least part of the reason why the court WILL order DNA tests for a minor child. Because you really cannot count on physical appearance. Actually now I think about it, I think I look like Hugh Hefner. I should probably hit him up for paternity and the oodles of inheritance money with my name on it
So you have the same body type , hair color, facial features and he and your mother have admitted they were together on or around the time of your conception?Exactly.
Heck, that's at least part of the reason why the court WILL order DNA tests for a minor child. Because you really cannot count on physical appearance. Actually now I think about it, I think I look like Hugh Hefner. I should probably hit him up for paternity and the oodles of inheritance money with my name on it