DadsArePeopleTo
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What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? IL
Here's an outline of facts:
1. I am moving towards filing for divorce because I've learned of my wife's 2-year affair. IL is a no fault State, but I wanted to mention the reason why I'm filing. I don't want to, but feel as though I need to. My wife has no interest in working things out. Although she hasn't admitted the affair despite many opportunities to have the guts to do so, I have empirical proof of it.
2. We both work full-time in professional fields.
3. I play a MAJOR role (80%) in my child's life. My wife leaves for work or goes to the gym every morning before we wake, so I prepare breakfast and get him ready for/take him to school mostly every day.
4. I pick him up every day from school. My time is spent caring for him until my wife gets home from work.
5. I read to him every night, say prayers at bedtime and even lay with him until he falls asleep during those times when he is scared (ex. thunderstorm). I am there every morning to wake him. If he has a nightmare, he runs to my side of the bed for comfort.
6. I play with him at all times, teach him piano, play baseball, work in the yard together, take him to his swimming lessons, museums, ballgames, his Saturday school enrichment program, ice skating, help him with his homework, hang out just to watch his favorite tv shows and care for him on those weekends when my wife goes out, etc.
7. My wife travels a lot for work (just recently 1 full week), so I am a "single parent" during those times. She travels 4-5 days per month and has evening conference calls.
8. I take him to church on Sundays.
9. Etc.
My fear in filing for divorce is that I'd be the one needing to leave my home when it's obvious that she is the one who has strayed from marriage and betrayed us. There are no issues with violence, mental or physical health, arguing in front of our child, etc. I don't want any money from her (20% salary in IL); only a split of child costs like education, child care, necessary clothing. And I don't want to take my child away from "mom", so I'd agree to joint custody and a liberal visitation. All I want is to live in my own home as the residential parent for my child for normalcy and for the security, stability of my child's life. What are my chances of getting that through the courts if my wife doesn't agree to it?
Here's an outline of facts:
1. I am moving towards filing for divorce because I've learned of my wife's 2-year affair. IL is a no fault State, but I wanted to mention the reason why I'm filing. I don't want to, but feel as though I need to. My wife has no interest in working things out. Although she hasn't admitted the affair despite many opportunities to have the guts to do so, I have empirical proof of it.
2. We both work full-time in professional fields.
3. I play a MAJOR role (80%) in my child's life. My wife leaves for work or goes to the gym every morning before we wake, so I prepare breakfast and get him ready for/take him to school mostly every day.
4. I pick him up every day from school. My time is spent caring for him until my wife gets home from work.
5. I read to him every night, say prayers at bedtime and even lay with him until he falls asleep during those times when he is scared (ex. thunderstorm). I am there every morning to wake him. If he has a nightmare, he runs to my side of the bed for comfort.
6. I play with him at all times, teach him piano, play baseball, work in the yard together, take him to his swimming lessons, museums, ballgames, his Saturday school enrichment program, ice skating, help him with his homework, hang out just to watch his favorite tv shows and care for him on those weekends when my wife goes out, etc.
7. My wife travels a lot for work (just recently 1 full week), so I am a "single parent" during those times. She travels 4-5 days per month and has evening conference calls.
8. I take him to church on Sundays.
9. Etc.
My fear in filing for divorce is that I'd be the one needing to leave my home when it's obvious that she is the one who has strayed from marriage and betrayed us. There are no issues with violence, mental or physical health, arguing in front of our child, etc. I don't want any money from her (20% salary in IL); only a split of child costs like education, child care, necessary clothing. And I don't want to take my child away from "mom", so I'd agree to joint custody and a liberal visitation. All I want is to live in my own home as the residential parent for my child for normalcy and for the security, stability of my child's life. What are my chances of getting that through the courts if my wife doesn't agree to it?