Please help decide if to go to court or not!

[Miss_JK]

Go to court? Shouldn't he all ready be in the midst of that to divorce her so he can marry your charming self?

Because so much money has been thrown on the wind, they've put this on hold and are now trying to settle. That is why I've asked about this whole separation thing - because she is asking for a lot, and he is sure she doesn't deserve it. Are you telling me even after they settle the judge won't let them get divorced?
I don't see what is so funny about marrying me.

 

[Zigner]

Because so much money has been thrown on the wind, they've put this on hold and are now trying to settle. That is why I've asked about this whole separation thing - because she is asking for a lot, and he is sure she doesn't deserve it. Are you telling me even after they settle the judge won't let them get divorced?
I don't see what is so funny about marrying me.

He should be speaking with his attorney about his strategy.

 

[Miss_JK]

He is welcome to discuss HIS business with you if he desires. That doesn't make it YOUR business.

I think it is my human right to go and ask for information where I presumably could get it exactly because I am indirectly affected by all this situation. I don't understand why you are lecturing me on what I should do or whether it is my business.

 

[Miss_JK]

He should be speaking with his attorney about his strategy.

His attorney is not much of a help, he is only charging him money. With all due respect, do you seriously think I would be here wasting my time on talking to you if things were clear?

 

[Indiana Filer]

This mistress is intent on intruding in this man's marriage. I wonder if she realizes that, once he marries her, he might just find another mistress to have on the side. You aren't his girlfriend, you're his mistress since he's committing adultery.

 

[Zigner]

His attorney is not much of a help, he is only charging him money.

Then, perhaps, he should find a new attorney...

With all due respect, do you seriously think I would be here wasting my time on talking to you if things were clear?

Yes, quite frankly.

 

[Miss_JK]

He should be speaking with his attorney about his strategy.

Like I said above, now that the new judge is on the case, they are trying to settle not to waste money over again. How much she would get directly depends on what date of separation the judge would rule, that's why I'm trying to find out what the odds are on 2010. If you have nothing else to add, why are you even reading the thread and answering?

 

[Zigner]

Like I said above, now that the new judge is on the case, they are trying to settle not to waste money over again. How much she would get directly depends on what date of separation the judge would rule, that's why I'm trying to find out what the odds are on 2010.

That's a great question for your boyfriend to ask of his attorney.

If you have nothing else to add, why are you even reading the thread and answering?

Morbid fascination...

 

[Miss_JK]

Then, perhaps, he should find a new attorney...

And waste even more money...

Yes, quite frankly.

I think you have nothing else to do but insult people. All the best to you.

 

[Miss_JK]

This mistress is intent on intruding in this man's marriage. I wonder if she realizes that, once he marries her, he might just find another mistress to have on the side. You aren't his girlfriend, you're his mistress since he's committing adultery.

Excuse me, I am not intruding on anything. There was no actual marriage since 2010, that is THEY HAVE NOT BEEN LIVING TOGETHER AS HUSBAND AND WIFE SINCE THAT VERY TIME. We, on the other hand, have been living together for over a year now and his wife is aware of that.

Unless you can give some useful info, I would really appreciate it if you don't flood the thread with irrelevant things.

Thanks a lot.

 

[I'mTheFather]

I am curious about one thing. If the wife hasn't resided in California, but for 2 months a year, how did she file for divorce? Did she file in California?

 

[CSO286]

Excuse me, I am not intruding on anything. There was no actual marriage since 2010, that is THEY HAVE NOT BEEN LIVING TOGETHER AS HUSBAND AND WIFE SINCE THAT VERY TIME. We, on the other hand, have been living together for over a year now and his wife is aware of that.

Unless you can give some useful info, I would really appreciate it if you don't flood the thread with irrelevant things.

Thanks a lot.

So, if a spouse is deployed overseas and hasn't lived with thier family for a year or more, then they aren't actually married anymore?

Marriage is a legal relationship, not just an emotional one, and if your adulterous lover hasn't done anything to rectify his legal relationship status, then I think that says more about just how much he cares about you than you might care to think.

 

[I'mTheFather]

His 'wife' has been fooling him for years living at home while he was waiting for her to come back,

Okay, here, I'll help. The above statement clearly indicates that he did not consider himself separated in 2010. He considered himself married, and waiting for his wife to return from her trip(s).

 

[Miss_JK]

I am curious about one thing. If the wife hasn't resided in California, but for 2 months a year, how did she file for divorce? Did she file in California?

She did it through a lawyer here.

 

[Miss_JK]

Okay, here, I'll help. The above statement clearly indicates that he did not consider himself separated in 2010. He considered himself married, and waiting for his wife to return from her trip(s).

That is my reading into this, not his own. He didn't consider himself married to her any longer. The problem was with serving her divorce papers in her home country.