Just Curious

[Attesor]

The child's last time is likely to be hyphenated if the parents can't manage to be adults about it. Or, depending on the judge, Dad's request may well be granted in full. A complete denial of Dad's request is unlikely.

The child certainly doesn't give a flying ferret fart about her last name.

He requested a hyphenation. So that is a change from her current last name. Currently she doesn't care about her last name, correct. Dad denied her at birth and didn't sign the birth certificate, so she has my last name.

 

[Attesor]

So you would leave her for short visits and not be with her when you left her with strangers. Dad shouldn't get supervised visits then.

Well he does. I supervise those visits.

 

[Attesor]

Just in case you haven't seen this:


http://www.flcourts.org/core/fileparse.php/533/urlt/995a.pdf

For some reason I am unable to follow the link. Please tell me where on that site to search.

 

[justalayman]

He requested a hyphenation. So that is a change from her current last name. Currently she doesn't care about her last name, correct. Dad denied her at birth and didn't sign the birth certificate, so she has my last name.

Then a hyphenation it is likely to be.

It doesn't sound like there is any reason dad couldn't have overnights. Some states limit time away from the mother the first year but I have not looked at your states recommendations. There is likely to be a very short if any phasing in of visitation given what you posted. There really is no real need for it for a child this age.

 

[justalayman]

For some reason I am unable to follow the link. Please tell me where on that site to search.

www.flcourts.org/core/fileparse.php/533/urlt/995a.pdf


I think it was the http at the beginning. If you copied and pasted it results in http being written twice since your browser automatically adds the http. Try copy and paste of what I just posted.

 

[Attesor]

Then a hyphenation it is likely to be.

It doesn't sound like there is any reason dad couldn't have overnights. Some states limit time away from the mother the first year but I have not looked at your states recommendations. There is likely to be a very short if any phasing in of visitation given what you posted. There really is no real need for it for a child this age.

Thank you. The dad put in his plan to have a 2 month phase in time but I didn't know what to put in mind. We are working at increasing his time with her now. I want her to be comfortable and familiar with him.

 

[Attesor]

www.flcourts.org/core/fileparse.php/533/urlt/995a.pdf


I think it was the http at the beginning. If you copied and pasted it results in http being written twice since your browser automatically adds the http. Try copy and paste of what I just posted.

Ahh yes! Thank you.

 

[Attesor]

Ahh yes! Thank you.

I have this

 

[Just Blue]

Thank you. The dad put in his plan to have a 2 month phase in time but I didn't know what to put in mind. We are working at increasing his time with her now. I want her to be comfortable and familiar with him.

sigh...

In the ...spirit of co-parenting. Why wait 2 months for DAD to get time on his own with baby? My eldest was having every/other weekend with Dad from age 2 weeks. Unless you think Dad is a danger, and that would stance would beg the question of WHY you chose to have unprotected sex with him, he should have some one-on-one time with his child.

 

[Attesor]

sigh...

In the ...spirit of co-parenting. Why wait 2 months for DAD to get time on his own with baby? My eldest was having every/other weekend with Dad from age 2 weeks. Unless you think Dad is a danger, and that would stance would beg the question of WHY you chose to have unprotected sex with him, he should have some one-on-one time with his child.

Did you read what I wrote?? I said HE put in HIS plan....I did not complete my parenting plan yet which is why I am on the forum seeking legal advice. He can see her whenever he wants. However, he has to make the effort.

 

[Attesor]

sigh...

In the ...spirit of co-parenting. Why wait 2 months for DAD to get time on his own with baby? My eldest was having every/other weekend with Dad from age 2 weeks. Unless you think Dad is a danger, and that would stance would beg the question of WHY you chose to have unprotected sex with him, he should have some one-on-one time with his child.

I'm happy you were able to do that with your child. Every situation is different. Apparently our situations are not the same.

 

[justalayman]

Did you read what I wrote?? I said HE put in HIS plan....I did not complete my parenting plan yet which is why I am on the forum seeking legal advice. He can see her whenever he wants. However, he has to make the effort.

That is a quite lengthy period to phase in his time. I believe it is gracious on his part to agree to that much time. Unless you have a reason dad should not have his own time, I would see no reason to attempt to make the time any greater.

how often and how long does he see the child now?

 

[Attesor]

That is a quite lengthy period to phase in his time. I believe it is gracious on his part to agree to that much time. Unless you have a reason dad should not have his own time, I would see no reason to attempt to make the time any greater.

how often and how long does he see the child now?

He has seen her about 6 hours in the past 6/7 months. With 2 of those hours being today. We agreed he would watch her next weekend for 10 hours. That is huge for us. I want to have a good schedule so we don't have any major hiccups by the time we make it to mediation.

 

[Attesor]

He has seen her about 6 hours in the past 6/7 months. With 2 of those hours being today. We agreed he would watch her next weekend for 10 hours. That is huge for us. I want to have a good schedule so we don't have any major hiccups by the time we make it to mediation.

I'm sorry not 6/7 months. 5 to 6 months.

 

[justalayman]

So realistically not a lot.

I suspect the father needs the phase in time more than the child. Kids are very adapting. Dad learning how to be a dad is much more difficult. It can be hectic.

Best of luck and always remember; it's his child too and kids should never be used as tools or for leverage.