lexiedavid99
Junior Member
Fiance threatened to "take me before a judge" during an argument over money. Bluff?
texas
Need some advice. I know it may sound more like relationship issues but there are legal worries here, too.
I am engaged to a business owner and he is one that threatens litigation a lot. He talks about it to me — and uses it to get his way when things are going well business wise. It’s remarkable but it works almost every time. He gets his way always.
We broke up last year and he had (at that time) been in control of our finances. I was making over 100k and he told me I was overspending. Absolutely WRONG. But would even give me a hard time for getting a manicure the way I typically did. He said since I wasn’t in the public eye as much since I changed jobs to move with him — I needed to stop getting nails done. (I was only doing once a month).
Anyway, when we broke up he left me with nothing. I had NOTHING. Except a big tax bill. He took my gross income and spent it without setting money aside for taxes. He said had I stayed with him through the end of the year it would have been fine because of he is the “king of tax write offs/deductions”.
He even had himself on my company and was using it as a way to write off our dinners… So, I had to pay 200 dollars in legal to get him removed from my company… asap.
This was a year ago. We have been back together. I control all of my own money and income. I have a new company now — I hired a developer to help me with my new online platform. My fiancé wanted (demanded) to be a part of the meeting. He didn’t like the idea that I was keeping him out of my new business.
When we met with the developer he really railroaded me in the whole meeting. Told him all the things he needed to include in the platform (from his expertise and speciality). The developer was very receptive to what he was saying and I don’t think he realized what was happening.
When we left I told him that I was very concerned with the way he controlled the meeting and didn’t even let me speak. He said that it was my fault for not speaking up more.
Fast forward to last night. He started insulting me about money and said he should charge me and the developer 12 thousand dollars for just that one meeting where he gave his advice.
Then he started telling me that I am a ‘fraud’ because I haven’t paid him half of our vacation expenses (it’s next month) yet. I told him I would as soon as I got my new client after the first of January. I would write him a check or wire transfer.
He said that he was worried he couldn’t trust me. He said that when he left me last year -that my business credit card (in his name only) had 1k on it and that I never paid it and left him with the debt. I said you had ALL OF MY PAYCHECKS! He said that since I STILL haven’t paid him for that credit card (he disputed it and told the bank it was wrong identity that it was MY business and shouldn’t be linked to him) that I am clearly out to get him.
He told me at that time when he left me he hired a FORENSIC ACCOUNTANT to go over the finances. And that he was happy to go to court with me THEN AND NOW to show that I overspent and that I should actually PAY BACK money for my meals and living expenses. I said you are RIGHT NOW threatening to go before a judge? He said if that’s what it takes he will be happy to show that I was “abusing him”.
He currently spends no money on me. I pay all my own bills. And up until last month when I got short — I had been paying for ALL OF HIS MEALS, EATING OUT AND ENTERTAINMENT. One month that was 5k.
So when he told me he was prepared to take our records before a judge that really alarmed me. However, I KNOW that he threatens and bluffs a lot. This is how he gets his way in life — and he translates that to me when it comes to money.
My question is — do I need a lawyer — is it possible for him to CHARGE me legally for services he never said he would charge for?
I don’t think he would really do this but if we break up again or he leaves me — God only knows. He hired a FORENSIC ACCOUNTANT last year? He said it was because his lawyer suggested he protect himself from ME. It’s true that he never came after me —only to reconcile.
Any advice would be appreciated.
texas
Need some advice. I know it may sound more like relationship issues but there are legal worries here, too.
I am engaged to a business owner and he is one that threatens litigation a lot. He talks about it to me — and uses it to get his way when things are going well business wise. It’s remarkable but it works almost every time. He gets his way always.
We broke up last year and he had (at that time) been in control of our finances. I was making over 100k and he told me I was overspending. Absolutely WRONG. But would even give me a hard time for getting a manicure the way I typically did. He said since I wasn’t in the public eye as much since I changed jobs to move with him — I needed to stop getting nails done. (I was only doing once a month).
Anyway, when we broke up he left me with nothing. I had NOTHING. Except a big tax bill. He took my gross income and spent it without setting money aside for taxes. He said had I stayed with him through the end of the year it would have been fine because of he is the “king of tax write offs/deductions”.
He even had himself on my company and was using it as a way to write off our dinners… So, I had to pay 200 dollars in legal to get him removed from my company… asap.
This was a year ago. We have been back together. I control all of my own money and income. I have a new company now — I hired a developer to help me with my new online platform. My fiancé wanted (demanded) to be a part of the meeting. He didn’t like the idea that I was keeping him out of my new business.
When we met with the developer he really railroaded me in the whole meeting. Told him all the things he needed to include in the platform (from his expertise and speciality). The developer was very receptive to what he was saying and I don’t think he realized what was happening.
When we left I told him that I was very concerned with the way he controlled the meeting and didn’t even let me speak. He said that it was my fault for not speaking up more.
Fast forward to last night. He started insulting me about money and said he should charge me and the developer 12 thousand dollars for just that one meeting where he gave his advice.
Then he started telling me that I am a ‘fraud’ because I haven’t paid him half of our vacation expenses (it’s next month) yet. I told him I would as soon as I got my new client after the first of January. I would write him a check or wire transfer.
He said that he was worried he couldn’t trust me. He said that when he left me last year -that my business credit card (in his name only) had 1k on it and that I never paid it and left him with the debt. I said you had ALL OF MY PAYCHECKS! He said that since I STILL haven’t paid him for that credit card (he disputed it and told the bank it was wrong identity that it was MY business and shouldn’t be linked to him) that I am clearly out to get him.
He told me at that time when he left me he hired a FORENSIC ACCOUNTANT to go over the finances. And that he was happy to go to court with me THEN AND NOW to show that I overspent and that I should actually PAY BACK money for my meals and living expenses. I said you are RIGHT NOW threatening to go before a judge? He said if that’s what it takes he will be happy to show that I was “abusing him”.
He currently spends no money on me. I pay all my own bills. And up until last month when I got short — I had been paying for ALL OF HIS MEALS, EATING OUT AND ENTERTAINMENT. One month that was 5k.
So when he told me he was prepared to take our records before a judge that really alarmed me. However, I KNOW that he threatens and bluffs a lot. This is how he gets his way in life — and he translates that to me when it comes to money.
My question is — do I need a lawyer — is it possible for him to CHARGE me legally for services he never said he would charge for?
I don’t think he would really do this but if we break up again or he leaves me — God only knows. He hired a FORENSIC ACCOUNTANT last year? He said it was because his lawyer suggested he protect himself from ME. It’s true that he never came after me —only to reconcile.
Any advice would be appreciated.
