I AM their mother.

[TaraKay]

Why don't you get off your butt and see to this yourself?

Cuz im pregnant at the moment. But, i do plan on getting to work when I'm able to. I specialize in animal behavior and training. Have been a camp counselor and life guard for the YMCA from 2005 up until i had my first daughter when In 2011. And have been a stay at home mom from 2011 to 2016 and i was active in church and the community in Illinois. When we moved closer to his family in TN things just started changing and I became really unhappy. We both did. And agreed to separate slowly and make it easier on the girls.

 

[TaraKay]

You didn't read the form? Really?

I read the form. I read all the forms. My ex never done a day of paper work in his life... And it said nothing of being illegal.

 

[stealth2]

I read the form. I read all the forms. My ex never done a day of paper work in his life... And it said nothing of being illegal.

Did it say by signing you (he)swear it's truthful - under penalty of perjury?

 

[TaraKay]

What you are saying, "I'm a good mom!" and "I just WANT them!" are both all about you. From just the little bit you've told us, whether you are a good mom or not is somewhat questionable. You certainly do not sound like you've at any time put your girls needs anywhere above your own wants and what seemed easier at the time, not to mention reproducing with another new dad and giving yourself another huge responsibility when you aren't able to support that new child any more successfully than you have been supporting your other two children. They can very easily figure out what your priorities are.

If I were their father, I'd be frantic in my efforts trying to get them back with the parent who at least has car, money, place to live, you know, a few of the basics for successful parenting. You flew the coop because your ex's family was harassing you, possibly noticing what a poor parent you were, questioning that?

Any court in the land will see the custody thing this way. Your daughters need parents who can take care of them in all ways. They need someone who makes them a priority. Not someone who flew away on a whim, has just a new boyfriend with a baby due in June. And there's a very good possibility that this relationship won't be the replacement for a more successful life that you need to be working on to retain custody of your two older girls. If you want custody, get an attorney, which means, of course that you'd need to have this new baby, get a stable place to live, some form of supporting yourself and these children, and a way to show the courts you COULD be a good mother.

I did not leave on a whim. It was just one thing after another. My ex suggested i get help from my mom to get on my feet. But, she ended up being unstable and on drugs. And i told him how unstable my situation was. Ive been trying to make the right choices with what resources i have. And its just now starting to look better. If could have, i would hav had it together a long time ago. My mom got me fired cuz i wouldn't give her money. Had to fight against her on false charges. Now she's in jail and i dont have anything to do with my family cuz theyre just addicts. Its hard doing this on my own and not get judged for things out of my control. But, at least I'm learning right now on what its guna look like to others, when it comes down to it. Im trying to be tge best i can. Does it not count when id rather be homeless than be surrounded by drugs? This is all very hard on me.

 

[TaraKay]

Did it say by signing you (he)swear it's truthful - under penalty of perjury?

Nope. Or i would have had a red alarm in my head go off under them guide lines. And definitely would have thought twice.

 

[Just Blue]

I did not leave on a whim. It was just one thing after another. My ex suggested i get help from my mom to get on my feet. But, she ended up being unstable and on drugs. And i told him how unstable my situation was. Ive been trying to make the right choices with what resources i have. And its just now starting to look better. If could have, i would hav had it together a long time ago. My mom got me fired cuz i wouldn't give her money. Had to fight against her on false charges. Now she's in jail and i dont have anything to do with my family cuz theyre just addicts. Its hard doing this on my own and not get judged for things out of my control. But, at least I'm learning right now on what its guna look like to others, when it comes down to it. Im trying to be tge best i can. Does it not count when id rather be homeless than be surrounded by drugs? This is all very hard on me.

Per your posting...You have done everything in your power to NOT do right to the kids. Grow the heck up!

 

[Just Blue]

Nope. Or i would have had a red alarm in my head go off under them guide lines. And definitely would have thought twice.

Oh Dear God!! I have two children by the same father. We were not married. I KNOW how this WORKS!You were aware that the child was not his. YOU lied.

 

[TaraKay]

Per your posting...You have done everything in your power to NOT do right to the kids. Grow the heck up!

How is that? So i should have taken them to my moms, and have them be homeless with me!? And struggle?? Why would that be the right thing?? Youre just sounding like my judgemental close minded soon to be ex-in-laws... How am i supoose to to control my mom from acting unstable? How am i to predict who is guna rob me, kick me out, and be irrational? Looks like you just want to take stab at an easy target to make someone feel like poop. But thanks... Totally no sweat off my sack.

 

[ajkroy]

How is that a crime? He wanted to take responsibility. We were married. Still legally married. I wasn't aware of it being a crime. The hospital never mentioned it. There wasn't no warning to him signing it under false information. In fact the paper said he was merely waving his right for paternity test. I don't regret it, i only regret thinking he would be decent enough to work this out with me.

So, this baby is hubby's baby, too. Legally, anyway.

 

[Just Blue]

How is that? So i should have taken them to my moms, and have them be homeless with me!? And struggle?? Why would that be the right thing?? Youre just sounding like my judgemental close minded soon to be ex-in-laws... How am i supoose to to control my mom from acting unstable? How am i to predict who is guna rob me, kick me out, and be irrational? Looks like you just want to take stab at an easy target to make someone feel like poop. But thanks... Totally no sweat off my sack.

You are unable to care for the children you had and then decided to have another. YOU are not fit for PC based on your own postings.

 

[stealth2]

So, this baby is hubby's baby, too. Legally, anyway.

Good point, aj.

 

[Ohiogal]

Yep... Almost regret it at this point... But I'm glad that at least her and her sister aren't separated and going through that kind of drama.

He is therefore the legal father and you have NO means by which to argue he isn't. Unless you want to admit to a crime -- perjury.

 

[Ohiogal]

You married him PRIOR to the birth of your first child? So within MONTHS? REally?

 

[TaraKay]

He is therefore the legal father and you have NO means by which to argue he isn't. Unless you want to admit to a crime -- perjury.

I wouldn't do that to him. Not because I "commited a crime" but cause I'm not one to use my kids as a weapon.

 

[Shadowbunny]

How is that a crime? He wanted to take responsibility. We were married. Still legally married. I wasn't aware of it being a crime. The hospital never mentioned it. There wasn't no warning to him signing it under false information. In fact the paper said he was merely waving his right for paternity test. I don't regret it, i only regret thinking he would be decent enough to work this out with me.

TaraKay, do you know what "presumption of paternity" means? It means that since you're still married, that by law, the baby you're carrying RIGHT NOW is legally your husband's child. Do you know how complicated you've made your life by not waiting until you're divorced before getting pregnant (again)?

You have seriously screwed up. If you want to have a snowball's-chance-in-Hades of getting your kids, you need to 1) stop getting pregnant. You are NOT equipped to have any more children. You can't afford them financially nor emotionally. 2) get a lawyer.