My ex wife let our 9 year old try wine and ect.

[Ohiogal]

I'm on the fence about calling CPS on this one. Wait a reasonable amount of time to hear back from your attorney.

Hey Z. what is the law in PA about allowing kids to drink alcohol? Do you know? Because here is the thing -- in many states, a parent can allow a child to drink alcohol LEGALLY.

 

[stealth2]

Hey Z. what is the law in PA about allowing kids to drink alcohol? Do you know? Because here is the thing -- in many states, a parent can allow a child to drink alcohol LEGALLY.

Not in PA, apparently.

I still think talking to Mom first is the best course of action. For all we know, it was a sip, one time. Kids do sometimes inflate things.

 

[Ohiogal]

Hey Z. what is the law in PA about allowing kids to drink alcohol? Do you know? Because here is the thing -- in many states, a parent can allow a child to drink alcohol LEGALLY.

And yeah I am late to the "party" on this one -- no pun intended but court and my dang legal site deciding to be a PITA is slowing me down on it.

 

[PayrollHRGuy]

To the OP don't do anything until you hear from your lawyer.

 

[Zigner]

http://www.legis.state.pa.us/cfdocs/legis/LI/consCheck.cfm?txtType=HTM&ttl=18&div=0&chpt=63

§ 6310.1. Selling or furnishing liquor or malt or brewed beverages to minors.

(a) Offense defined.--Except as provided in subsection (b), a person commits a misdemeanor of the third degree if he intentionally and knowingly sells or intentionally and knowingly furnishes, or purchases with the intent to sell or furnish, any liquor or malt or brewed beverages to a person who is less than 21 years of age.

(b) Exceptions.--The provisions of this section shall not apply to any religious service or ceremony which may be conducted in a private home or a place of worship where the amount of wine served does not exceed the amount reasonably, customarily and traditionally required as an integral part of the service or ceremony.

 

[Ohiogal]

Well mom was baptizing the child or celebrating a religious holiday or wanting the child to partake in communion and they prayed silently therefore...
I can think of things to argue.

 

[eerelations]

When I was under 10, my father would occasionally allow me to have a sip of his beer. (Because he wasn't a big beer drinker, this amounted to one or two sips per year, starting when I was about 7 or 8.) When I was 15, my parents took me and my brother (then 13) to Spain on a two-week family holiday. The budget was tight, so my parents had us drink wine or beer with meals (at that time in Spain, pop/juice was about 50 cents per glass, while wine/beer was about 20 cents per glass). (I remember my father's response to my brother's complaint about not being allowed to have a lemon pop: "This is a beer. You're going to drink this beer. And you're going to like it." I thought it was hilarious.) My brother and I have not turned into raging alcoholic criminals as a result of these early alcohol experiences. My brother doesn't drink at all (he used to, for about 20 years, approximately one or two beers per month, then decided he didn't like the taste, so stopped altogether), and now that I'm retired, I've cut loose and started drinking the absolutely WHOPPING amount of between one and two bottles of wine per week (before I retired it was one bottle of wine max per week). But nothing about what we drink/don't drink now has anything to do with what our parents gave us to drink when we were young.

 

[eerelations]

In France, kids are expected to drink a glass of wine with their parents every day at the evening meal. Starting at about age 12.

 

[justalayman]

Just what do you mean by “drinking”. Is the kid getting buzzed or is this a very small taste of maybe even a super super weak highball (or spritzer for you young folk) so the kid is drinking so little she would get more from cough syrup?

 

[stealth2]

Just what do you mean by “drinking”. Is the kid getting buzzed or is this a very small taste of maybe even a super super weak highball (or spritzer for you young folk) so the kid is drinking so little she would get more from cough syrup?

LOL I remember, growing up (long long ago), my parents had cocktails on the weekends. Mom had a whiskey sour; Dad had bourbon on the rocks. And we were allowed a taste by dipping a finger in each. My brother and I thought we could get more by leaving our finger in longer to "soak it up"..... Didn't work.

 

[HRZ]

I'm a fan of trying to talk to other parent in a non confrontational non judgemental manner first .....and perhaps even a repeat.

A few sips of wine at 9 are not an earth shattering issue ...

 

[LdiJ]

In France, kids are expected to drink a glass of wine with their parents every day at the evening meal. Starting at about age 12.

Its pretty common in Italy too, even for younger children, although theirs usually gets watered down with sparkling water. I will never forget a wedding that I attended there. While I wasn't really paying attention the waiters served champagne for toasting to everyone, even my 5 year old daughter. She chugged hers, decided she liked it, then before anyone noticed she grabbed mine and chugged it, and her grandmother's and chugged it. Luckily it was very expensive champagne so the glasses were very small.

Nevertheless, she must have gone to the bathroom 10 times before the reception was over, and then promptly fell asleep.

 

[cbg]

I'm a fan of trying to talk to other parent in a non confrontational non judgemental manner first .....and perhaps even a repeat.

A few sips of wine at 9 are not an earth shattering issue ...

When I got up this morning I never in the world thought I'd be saying this today.

I agree 100% with HRZ on the above.

 

[t74]

If you make a big deal about it with your DD, it will make it much more exciting and attractive to try when she is a teen. You need to gauge how other side of the issue will respond; if DD sees drinking a rite of passage, you may be better off juust monitoring the situation for the time being. It is a hard call. Think long term.

 

[Just Blue]

LOL I remember, growing up (long long ago), my parents had cocktails on the weekends. Mom had a whiskey sour; Dad had bourbon on the rocks. And we were allowed a taste by dipping a finger in each. My brother and I thought we could get more by leaving our finger in longer to "soak it up"..... Didn't work.

I always got the cherry from the WS. Yummy!! Although I did grow up to be a raving lush... (just kidding...I am not a lush)