What is the name of your state? Ohio.
We rent and don't have major assets besides vehicles, a joint savings account, and her 401k ($20,000). I make close to $60k a year and she makes close to 40k a year. She has about $30k in student debt and I have none.
Okay so I'm going to try to make this short...
My wife and I got married two and a half years ago. I think that she is a sneaky compulsive liar that only cares about herself and money and she thinks I am controlling. As expected, we disagree on those interpretations of each other. So in early May, we had a heated argument that took place in an empty parking garage. She sped home after the argument, grabbed a few things and left me. She claims that doesn't feel safe although I have never laid hands on her or threatened her. If everyone abandoned their home after getting yelled at for 10 seconds then everyone in America would be homeless! I was very angry at first, but apologized only to learn she wants to permanently separate...
So more time passes, we start texting and calling each other a week or so later and become cordial. She then starts separating her bank accounts, credit cards, and bills from me and our household although her name is on the lease. In the midst of this, she verbally agreed to transfer me all of my contributions in our joint savings into my new personal account ($4,000) and this is when things get messy. Days go by and I notice that I don't see a deposit so I call the bank and they tell me that I will see the deposit tomorrow, but the amount they saw coming through was only $2,700...so I text my wife and she has the NERVE to try to fool me like there was only $2,700 in the account so when I began getting more aggressive with questions, she changes her tune and says that she subtracted $1,300 for her HOUSING COSTS. She was staying with her Uncle when she texted me this and now she is living in an extended stay hotel so she fabricated the whole thing.
I was red hot about that, but eventually I somewhat got over it and we became cordial again. Once we became cordial again, I told her that due to my safety, I am having the locks changed on our apartment so she needs to arrange a time with me for me to let her in to retrieve her things to which she agrees. I also proposed a dissolution and property/debt dissolution because I was ready to get away from this woman. Two weeks later she calls me at work yelling that she can't get into our place (WHICH I TOLD HER 2 WEEKS AGO THAT THE LOCKS HAVE BEEN CHANGED). So I leave work, come home, and her explain to her and her uncle that it's not a good time right now because I have to go back to work and the apartment was a mess. It would have taken her a minimum of two hours to get her things! So while explaining to her that she needs to arrange a time, her uncle begins recording me on video to make it look like I was denying her entry. The police then show up and chose not to exacerbate the situation so I still have possession of her personal belongings as well as documented proof of my attempts to arrange a time! It's like they conspired to make me look crazy on video.
I then get a call from one of her ex-criminal cousins attempting to intimidate and threaten me about her getting her belongings which I also have documented.
So I skipped the dissolution and filed for divorce right after this video incident.
Should I hire a lawyer or represent myself in court? I really don't want to go into debt over this and we don't have any major assets together, but I would like my $1,300 back and everything we agreed to in the previous dissolution.
We rent and don't have major assets besides vehicles, a joint savings account, and her 401k ($20,000). I make close to $60k a year and she makes close to 40k a year. She has about $30k in student debt and I have none.
Okay so I'm going to try to make this short...
My wife and I got married two and a half years ago. I think that she is a sneaky compulsive liar that only cares about herself and money and she thinks I am controlling. As expected, we disagree on those interpretations of each other. So in early May, we had a heated argument that took place in an empty parking garage. She sped home after the argument, grabbed a few things and left me. She claims that doesn't feel safe although I have never laid hands on her or threatened her. If everyone abandoned their home after getting yelled at for 10 seconds then everyone in America would be homeless! I was very angry at first, but apologized only to learn she wants to permanently separate...
So more time passes, we start texting and calling each other a week or so later and become cordial. She then starts separating her bank accounts, credit cards, and bills from me and our household although her name is on the lease. In the midst of this, she verbally agreed to transfer me all of my contributions in our joint savings into my new personal account ($4,000) and this is when things get messy. Days go by and I notice that I don't see a deposit so I call the bank and they tell me that I will see the deposit tomorrow, but the amount they saw coming through was only $2,700...so I text my wife and she has the NERVE to try to fool me like there was only $2,700 in the account so when I began getting more aggressive with questions, she changes her tune and says that she subtracted $1,300 for her HOUSING COSTS. She was staying with her Uncle when she texted me this and now she is living in an extended stay hotel so she fabricated the whole thing.
I was red hot about that, but eventually I somewhat got over it and we became cordial again. Once we became cordial again, I told her that due to my safety, I am having the locks changed on our apartment so she needs to arrange a time with me for me to let her in to retrieve her things to which she agrees. I also proposed a dissolution and property/debt dissolution because I was ready to get away from this woman. Two weeks later she calls me at work yelling that she can't get into our place (WHICH I TOLD HER 2 WEEKS AGO THAT THE LOCKS HAVE BEEN CHANGED). So I leave work, come home, and her explain to her and her uncle that it's not a good time right now because I have to go back to work and the apartment was a mess. It would have taken her a minimum of two hours to get her things! So while explaining to her that she needs to arrange a time, her uncle begins recording me on video to make it look like I was denying her entry. The police then show up and chose not to exacerbate the situation so I still have possession of her personal belongings as well as documented proof of my attempts to arrange a time! It's like they conspired to make me look crazy on video.
I then get a call from one of her ex-criminal cousins attempting to intimidate and threaten me about her getting her belongings which I also have documented.
So I skipped the dissolution and filed for divorce right after this video incident.
Should I hire a lawyer or represent myself in court? I really don't want to go into debt over this and we don't have any major assets together, but I would like my $1,300 back and everything we agreed to in the previous dissolution.
