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I wish you could stop worrying. Because it doesn't help, truly it doesn't. You have your story. He has his. One or both of the parties might be lying. They will go with the "more believable" of the parties.
No one here told you not to respond to the boss because you would make him mad and he would do something to your unemployment that would keep you from getting it. It is very rarely a good idea to interact with an employer after the hiring relationship has been severed. The longer and more often you stay in contact with him, the greater is your perceived dread of the power he has over you, and the more he can threaten you and try to get you to drop the claim. His behavior in this respect (I'll give you a good reference in exchange for dropping the claim) is what he is doing so you won't be able to draw unemployment and affect his tax account.
The thing you're doing, you're trying to placate him, worrying about what he'll "do to you," perceiving that he has the power to "do something" to your unemployment claim that he wasn't already going to do anyway. And frankly, in my experience, there was never a chance of that. It's something he would do to you anyhow, he was never going to say oh yes, she was laid off due to lack of work, she was best employee I ever had! regardless of what you do. If you dropped the claim, you'd not cause his tax rates to go up, and he'd be back at that job bragging about how he did something to you to mess up your unemployment to other employees, he doesn't mind letting everyone think he's all powerful in this area.
But I also very strongly doubt he'd either give you a good reference or pay you for vacation time regardless of what you agree to do. I have seen many employees who worried and agonized themselves into making very serious mistakes. And he'll happily take you back working for him with a 1099, which you cannot be as you are either a regular employee or working ILLEGALLY as a 1099, a contractor with no benefits and your own tax responsibilities and NO recourse if he just suddenly decided to stop paying you or never pay you.
No one here told you not to respond to the boss because you would make him mad and he would do something to your unemployment that would keep you from getting it. It is very rarely a good idea to interact with an employer after the hiring relationship has been severed. The longer and more often you stay in contact with him, the greater is your perceived dread of the power he has over you, and the more he can threaten you and try to get you to drop the claim. His behavior in this respect (I'll give you a good reference in exchange for dropping the claim) is what he is doing so you won't be able to draw unemployment and affect his tax account.
The thing you're doing, you're trying to placate him, worrying about what he'll "do to you," perceiving that he has the power to "do something" to your unemployment claim that he wasn't already going to do anyway. And frankly, in my experience, there was never a chance of that. It's something he would do to you anyhow, he was never going to say oh yes, she was laid off due to lack of work, she was best employee I ever had! regardless of what you do. If you dropped the claim, you'd not cause his tax rates to go up, and he'd be back at that job bragging about how he did something to you to mess up your unemployment to other employees, he doesn't mind letting everyone think he's all powerful in this area.
But I also very strongly doubt he'd either give you a good reference or pay you for vacation time regardless of what you agree to do. I have seen many employees who worried and agonized themselves into making very serious mistakes. And he'll happily take you back working for him with a 1099, which you cannot be as you are either a regular employee or working ILLEGALLY as a 1099, a contractor with no benefits and your own tax responsibilities and NO recourse if he just suddenly decided to stop paying you or never pay you.
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