Colorado
My wife was previously married and her and her ex had two children. The ex was a deadbeat kind of dad who cheated on her and my wife divorced him. There were many factors that the courts looked at including my wife's past and the ex's past and current situation as well as his new fiancée who was abusive to the girls. The courts appointed a caseworker/investigator to investigate the children's living situation and conditions of my wife, her ex and his fiancée. The investigator bent the truth about some things but in the end, the courts ordered that the children live with my wife's parents, but my wife had full control of the kids and the decision making. The dad had supervised visits and the fiancée was banned from seeing the kids. That was all before we got married or even engaged and now that we are, we are hesitant to have the children live with us at least full time as we don't want to risk losing the children due to breaking any court orders plus the dad is a jerk who would report even false things to police if he felt like it. Anyways, the court orders state that if any changes are to be made, my wife and/or her ex must undergo a "forensic assessment" or basically a psychological evaluation before we can even approach the courts. My wife and I have tried doing this but when we ask how, we get the run around over and over. The Denver County Self Help Center said we just request it at the appropriate office and turn in the forms to the court, but at the place that performs the assessment, they said they have to have a referral from someone in the courts, or other places before they can perform the assessment. We've talked to Denver Human Resources, Denver Courts, and so many others who keep pointing us in different directions. Has anyone experienced anything like this or have any ideas? We re at a loss and we want our babies home with us all the time without worries.
My wife was previously married and her and her ex had two children. The ex was a deadbeat kind of dad who cheated on her and my wife divorced him. There were many factors that the courts looked at including my wife's past and the ex's past and current situation as well as his new fiancée who was abusive to the girls. The courts appointed a caseworker/investigator to investigate the children's living situation and conditions of my wife, her ex and his fiancée. The investigator bent the truth about some things but in the end, the courts ordered that the children live with my wife's parents, but my wife had full control of the kids and the decision making. The dad had supervised visits and the fiancée was banned from seeing the kids. That was all before we got married or even engaged and now that we are, we are hesitant to have the children live with us at least full time as we don't want to risk losing the children due to breaking any court orders plus the dad is a jerk who would report even false things to police if he felt like it. Anyways, the court orders state that if any changes are to be made, my wife and/or her ex must undergo a "forensic assessment" or basically a psychological evaluation before we can even approach the courts. My wife and I have tried doing this but when we ask how, we get the run around over and over. The Denver County Self Help Center said we just request it at the appropriate office and turn in the forms to the court, but at the place that performs the assessment, they said they have to have a referral from someone in the courts, or other places before they can perform the assessment. We've talked to Denver Human Resources, Denver Courts, and so many others who keep pointing us in different directions. Has anyone experienced anything like this or have any ideas? We re at a loss and we want our babies home with us all the time without worries.
