Contact the law school at University of Memphis to inquire about legal clinics they offer. It is there you can get advice at no cost or extremely low cost by law students who are supervised by licensed attorneys.
What has to be filed is a Show Cause. She will be summonsed to appear and explain why she has sold off items you deemed marital property.
I’m also from TN and worked many years in the legal field; that said, you desperately need an attorney if you want to have any chance at a fair split of assets.
There are plenty of attorneys in your region who supported same-sex marriages and helped fight for your rights, so those same ones will have no issue representing a party in such a divorce.
Yes, we live in a very conservative state government-wise, but there’s so many who support same sex relationships working in law. You’re choosing to be a victim (ie, I’m gay, I’m disabled, I was abandoned, no money) and THAT is likely why you can’t find an attorney willing to give a consult. All you need to say when you call to schedule an appointment is, “Hello, my name is SandyT and I have been served with a divorce summons. I would like to make an appointment with the attorney in regards to this, please.” They will likely ask the Plaintiff’s name to insure no conflict of interest but if there is none, an appointment is likely to be made. It really is that easy.